Posts I think are helpful for pwASPD.

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idgaf abt ur moral complexes. I have disorder-based "black and white thinking" and can see in more shades of grey than most persotypicals can.

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I have a friend with aspd and she cant form a relationship to save her life because he gets bored of people really quickly

Any advice for her or anything I can do to help it out?

hmm, I have the same issue, honestly. I don't have much for this because I think most of my solutions are influenced by my other PDs 😅 but I'll try anyways, and I greatly encourage others to add their thoughts and ideas!

I usually focus on befriending ine person at a time, and put less effort into other friendships for a bit to keep myself from burning out socially, since i find a lot of the reason I get bored is the performance of it all. managing the view people have of you at once is exhausting, especially for those with aspd, and sometimes I just have to back off from it all and take a break.

it helps if you have friends who dont experience relationship degrading (by which I mean the feeling that going through large gaps of time without talking with someone lessens the level of friendship.) those w/ adhd and autism — and I believe also schizospecs? — are helpful for this in particular.

I realize this can all sound very cold to an outside perspective, but the transactional nature of my view on relationships helps me upkeep the ones I that want to keep. I like to think of all of it as a trade-off. I give others my attention and company in return for entertainment, fun, and apathy/boredom relief.

Something that I recently realized myself was that tone and inflection matters a lot. And as very few can read minds (or body language that well) if you use a more flat tone it can register as rude.