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this is true and all. but also never stop talking about your ship because if it’s what makes you happy then you can and should talk about it for yourself and your own enjoyment too.

there’s nothing wrong with the tweet in the screenshot, but I feel like we’ve forgotten that shipping and fandom are first and foremost for ourselves and our own enjoyment, not if the ship is popular or if there’re enough people shipping it.

Let’s be real. Bringing up “Starker” is usually a surefire way to start a war. You’ll instantly get hit with the “But it’s father/son!” and “The age gap is predatory!” comments. And look, the movies give those arguments a whole lot of ammo. The mentorship is the obvious text. But the subtext? The subtext is a messy, electric, and profoundly intimate connection that feels too big to be contained by just one label. For a lot of us, what makes their dynamic so magnetic isn't the paternalism, but the frighteningly equal understanding between two people who are, at their core, two versions of the same story.

They’re both geniuses haunted by the same ghost. The ghost of “my power, my failure, my fault.” Tony builds a suit of armor to atone for his weapons. Peter puts on a mask because he didn’t stop a thief. That’s not just a shared backstory. It’s a shared psychological wound. And nobody else in their lives gets it. Pepper loves Tony but fears his obsession. May loves Peter but can’t know his burden. But Tony and Peter? They look at each other and see a reflection. They speak in a shorthand of guilt and responsibility that feels closer to two traumatized veterans than a dad helping with homework.

This is where the romantic reading plants its flag. It asks: what happens when that recognition isn’t just mentorship, but attraction? What if Peter’s hero-worship of Iron Man curdles into a devastating crush on Tony, the real, vulnerable, exhausting man he meets in the lab at 3 AM? He doesn’t fall for the billionaire. He falls for the insomniac who’s just as broken as he is. And Tony, a man who’s armored his heart as thoroughly as his body, finds himself disarmed by this kid whose moral compass is so innate, so uncynical. It’s a love built not on pedestals, but on seeing each other’s worst flaws and loving the person in spite of, or even because of, them.

And yeah, people yell about the age gap. But in what world are these two mentally the same age? Peter was literally dusted in an alien war and came back to fight a purple titan. He’s been making life-or-death calls since he was fifteen. Tony, meanwhile, is emotionally stunted, a chaotic genius in a mid-life crisis who connects more with his A.I. than most people. Their meeting ground isn’t a birth certificate. It’s the shared, aging weight of saving the world. It’s the PTSD. That creates a terrifying parity.

This isn’t about ignoring the fatherly beats in the movies. It’s about arguing that the relationship is bigger, weirder, and more complex than that one box can hold. The canon gives us the skeleton: the protective panic, the desperate legacy-building, the world-ending grief. Fanfic just puts a different kind of heart inside that same skeleton. It takes the undeniable canon truth, that they love each other desperately, and explores a different shape that love could take.

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