Andy’s mess of a blog

"Oh I don't normally use AI, I just wanted it to plan my trip"

You lived on this planet for decades, you know what you like, there are hundreds of websites where you can type into any search engine " things to do in [area]" and have at least a hundred different options.

"Oh I only use it so I can figure out what to make during the week with what I have"

The most popular website as you type in "recipes" into google have sections where you click dinner- quick and easy and those usually rely on staples + 1 or 2 items. I found 30 recipes on chicken alone.

"I had a writing idea, so I typed a few sentences into Chat GPT and I was able to write 20 pages with it."

Summer sees both a drop off in donations and, at least for our trauma center, a spike in traumas. Trauma centers across the US are in danger of running out of blood for our trauma patients TODAY, which is very scary but, unlike much of the other scary national news coming across our screens these days, is something you can help fix immediately and directly.

Blood donation is relatively easy and provides an immediate impact to people in your community -- or even farther! The coolest thing the Red Cross does is tell you where your donations end up. My last donation got shipped from Utah all the way to the University of Philadelphia. (Enjoy my B+ vibes, Philly.)

Also, you get snacks and sometimes gift cards and free swag. If you squeeze a visit in by July 31, you can get a free Fandango movie ticket. (They're doing Hello Kitty swag in September and you bet your ass I already have appointments.)

If you're new to donating, some tips:

Drink plenty of water the night before and before your appointment. The more water, the more plump your veins are and the faster your goes.

Women often get deferred because of low iron levels. Over-the-counter iron supplements a few days before a donation will help boost your count, as will eating iron rich foods. (Cheerios are always my go-to iron boosters.) Don't schedule donations when you're menstruating.

If you are deferred for low iron or vital signs issues, you can try again within 24 hours.

If you've had a tattoo or piercing in the last three months, you will be deferred until a full three months have passed.

Don't donate on an empty stomach. Dehydration and low blood sugar contribution to fainting and dizzy spells.

After donating, don't exercise for 24 hours. You'll likely notice a dip in your tolerance for a few days after a donation as your system adjusts.

If you don't like needles, look away when they poke you and don't look at the donation site. They usually cover the needle during the donation process.

The initial poke does hurt, but the rest of the donation should be painless. If you feel burning, stinging, or any other abnormal sensation from the entry site, tell a phlebotomist and they'll help you out.

If you're like me and you have difficult veins, you can still give! Being hydrated, doing arm curls, and having an electrolyte drink can help plump your veins up. Ask for the most experienced phlebotomist on the floor to draw your blood. They're less likely to dig around or miss on a difficult vein.

While the majority of blood donations have zero issues, bad donations do happen. Sometimes it's a bad draw, an equipment issue, or your body just not cooperating; it sucks and it's not fun, but you'll usually come out of it with a bruise and know how you can make your experience better. Please don't give up because of one bad experience.

-Trans women (cosplayers and non-cosplayers)

- Cis Women who feel too shy to actually show off their chest but still want to pull this off

- Cis women with small chests who also want to be true the characters.

-  Pretty much any dude who wants to cosplay as a female character

its very important to me that you know this!!!

here are just a few examples:

18 and over post pls <3

While I am personally not physically disabled, I am an ally and I am a huge nerd when it comes to sex, sexuality, and sex toys. I believe in sexual liberation and accessible sexuality for everyone, and it kills me that disabled folks of all kinds are so frequently left out of the conversation.

First, I just want to give a shoutout to Cute Little Fuckers, which is a queer, trans, and disabled-owned business selling high-quality toys with all kinds of bodies in mind. Step, the founder, started the company after they were diagnosed with a neurological condition that upended their life. The toys are a little bit on the pricier end, but while I haven't personally owned any of them, I've heard nothing but good things.

Next: if you struggle with pain during sex that is caused by deep penetration (ie your partner going to deep into you), you might want to consider the Ohnut! It's a series of silicone rings that you put around the base of the penis or toy that control how deep it can be thrust in. (The company also has other pelvic floor related products that are worth looking into.)

Onward! Regarding pillow forms and position aids!

The Liberator wedge and their other shapes are classics. But there are also other positional aids! (Fair warning: the links I am adding to the post here are mostly from Extreme Restraints (but also a handful of other adult stores), and have explicit images in their listings, so... proceed with caution. Also, I know there are AI images in the listing, but I've been purchasing from this company for the better part of a decade and I do trust them. It pisses me off, too.)

This is a thigh sling to help keep legs up and out of the way.

Here's a kinkier version with handcuffs, if you're into that.

Here is a similar padded strap you can use during doggy, put under the lower belly/hips of the person on their hands and knees.

Related to the hand harness: did you know you can get a thigh harness? (Here's one from Sportsheets, another company I love) It does exactly what's on the tin, it holds a toy to the wearer's thigh, allowing the other person to ride it or suck on it or whatever. (This can also be put around a pillow to similar effect!) If you need to be sitting upright and a normal strap-on isn't comfortable, doesn't fit right, or doesn't hold the toy the way you want, this is a great alternative.

For some reason, Lovehoney is either sold out of or is no longer selling the hands-free mount that OP has listed in her post, and I can't really find anything comparable, which sucks. The only ones I can find are specifically for Fleshlights, which is great if you use those, but it's a brand name, and an expensive one at that. THAT SAID, you can get double-sided suction cups to put on suction-cup-less toys, and then go from there. A small tray or plate you can suction cup that to will get you pretty far, tbh.

Ultimately, the toy mounts that are pillow-shaped are going to be able to do a lot of the same thing as the strapped mount. Liberator and copycat companies also usually have a pillow designed to hold strokers (Fleshlight brand or otherwise)

Okay, finally: ERGONOMIC HANDLES.

Look, thrusting a toy in and out of yourself puts you in a weird position, usually, and it isn't always comfortable to maintain. There is a solution.

Here are both suction cup and vac-u-lock compatible handles AND ACCESSORIES for toys from Silc Arts.

If the position itself isn't too bad for you to maintain, but the grip on your toy is hard to keep or you could use a little more to grip onto, here is a suction cup grip from LustArts.

And finally, here are some other links to the stuff that OP listed, should you be so inclined:

Liberator cushions

La Palma hand harness

IntimateRider chair

This isn't that exact specific sleeve, but it is close. There are a lot of options in this department though

A sex stool similar to the second to last one in OP's post, which lets you ride without putting so much pressure on your knees.

The tips are on ao3 now, and I’m Res but on tumblr.

Let’s play the biggest game of kick the can on the internet.

2) any vegetable is better than no vegetable