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in front of any person i'm always putting up a performance. that doesn't mean i'm faking it, no. my performance is very automatic to me and feels natural. i can even enjoy myself in it. however it gets bad when after some time i start realizing that this performance is more so taking a toll on my mental well-being rather than is enjoyable. that's all.
i think one of the most frustrating parts of having szpd for me is not noticing when i start blurring into everyone around me
i'm a highly masking person and have a hard time saying no to people, so i often find myself agreeing to go for a walk with someone or just spend time with them in discord, etc. sometimes it might feel alright at the beginning, i might even believe that i'm handling our conversation perfectly and enjoying it, but after a few minutes i start dissociating (it can be a dpdr thing though) and analyzing every word that comes from my and their mouths. everything begins to feel forced and artificial. when i finally manage to say goodbye and return home/rest in my bed, that's when i catch myself not being my self. it feels like half of my mind and body, if not all of it, belongs to that person, as if they're the one controlling it. my feelings and thoughts also seemingly come from their minds, not mine, though i fully understand that it is impossible and those are still mine. i need a few days alone to come to my senses and to start feeling like me again. until then, i feel absolutely, horribly lost, not at home, still stuck in that conversation, exposed, even if i didn't share anything personal
my therapist told me how important it is to stop myself from blurring, to create strong boundaries between me and other people, but i honestly can't comprehend if this is even possible to do lol
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i'll forever be envious of omori and whitespace. fuck the actual dreamworld or whatever, i just want the white/blackspace parts.
empty room where i can be alone forever? and there's a cat? and the cat is entirely self sufficient, requires no input from me, and just idles? 10/10
I have played Omori, and despite my many issues with the story and the overall game's structure, it does operate as a fantastic representation for dissociation and the schizoid fantasy, which I have yet to see anyone really discuss. This isn't meant to be a full review so I won't go in on what those specific issues are, just a surface level overview of things I find relatable to the schizoid experience.
There's two layers to Sunny's fantasy, one where he lives in comfortable isolation in white space, much like his personal isolation in the real world but heightened and exaggerated. Then there's the headspace, which is explicitly a conglomerate of things made up of various elements from his childhood. His friends in this headspace are the things he prefers to remember about them, while himself is a removed second self called Omori.
This separation of the "life self" and the "fantasy self" is something that I myself experience, this idea that myself in life is not who I'd like to be in my fantasies, even if it possesses most of my traits it's still fundamentally not a 1:1 recreation of myself.
And I've always found the silent protagonist in video games to be relatable, an empty slate feels more to myself than anything else. This is typically done for the player to impose their own experience onto the player character, but the very lack of expression from those characters is what made them more relatable to me. So for most of the game, having Sunny/Omori as impassive to most of the things happening around him stood out to me in particular.
There's a lot here worth mentioning.
Schizoid characters may privately devalue or mock what they see as repetitive conversations, empty gestures and meaningless ritual. Ironically, however, as much as the schizoid dislikes making small talk, in most of his interactions with others, he is apt to do just that to avoid saying anything that reveals his true feelings. Though he may view himself as capable of consequential exchanges, he is fearfully compelled to keep things banal. He fears that something will come out of him that he is not expecting. Unconsciously involved in this inner compensatory struggle, the schizoid usually reports feeling exhausted after social occasions without knowing why.
Zachary Wheeler- Treatment of schizoid personality: an analytic psychotherapy handbook
I posted this quote and it's one of my most popular posts. Yes, I hate talking about all the weather and shit, but it is actually a useful skill to master both due to the reason stated in the text and because people tend to like it. I am sure everyone has heard it a million times but it bears repeating. If nothing else, it's useful. I think unless you are blessed to be incredibly wealthy, there is absolutely no way to get by in society without being pushed into connections with other people.
I interact with people at work but as soon as I get home from work I stop talking to people unless it is a few sentences. And I have a few friends, only one of which I'd consider myself close to, but we spend a considerable amount of time in silence.
And today I learned what it looks like when someone has low cognitive empathy and explained what it's like for me with low emotional empathy but intact cognitive empathy.
How they explained their low cognitive empathy is that they don't expect that their words can have an impact on others. No predictions about how another person might feel. Not being able to imagine what it must be like to be the other person.
That seems so interesting to me, I use my cognitive empathy a lot and I don't think I could shut it off if I tried. It's automatic for me to put myself in other people's shoes. And they say the same about feeling others feelings, it's automatic and they can't shut it off.
So now I'm wondering... What's it like living with BOTH a lack of cognitive AND emotional empathy? For example someone with ASD and SzPD/ASPD/NPD/traits. Peaceful? Confusing?
It drives me crazy that I canāt get anything done when there are any people in a 50 mile radius of me (hyperbole) like I wish I existed in some monastery in the mountains where I never spoke to anybody, never had to worry about being needed for something, never suffered through an interaction etc etc etc
Like Iām so productive when Iām utterly alone itās insane. People just existing in the same house as me kills that productivity instantly. K.O, game over, no hope
Clawing at my walls bruh I just want to do what I have to do and I canāt because my brain wonāt let me do anything meaningful when there are people nearby. Itās like some awful reverse Minecraft curse ācanāt sleep there are monsters nearbyā but instead itās ācanāt work there are people nearbyā like what. What went so wrong that I canāt do anything as long as there are human beings in a remotely close vicinity
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When I first heard the sentiment that schizoids get irritated easily, I got irritated. And after thinking about that for a while, I see the irony.
To be fair, my initial reaction was such because there are plenty of things that upset us which, while not obvious, relatable, or even really understandable to others, are still consistent and grounded in the same core logic of our disorder. All it takes is a bit of thought to try and understand.
Not to mention, I believe that I (along with a lot of others) had the formation of the disorder influenced by needs constantly being invalidated and unfulfilled, even the most basic, and thus was forced to dissociate to cope with distress of ex. being tired, instead of just sleeping.
So being told you're irritable, and thus it's not a big deal, and thus you're overreacting, when it really and truly is annoying and you don't know how to deal with it, presses upon those wounds.
But I think the irritability comes from the dissociation and inability to attend to deeper needs. If crying from a life-threatening injury was treated with the same urgency as whining about your siblings, wouldn't you conflate the two? Wouldn't you form the mental pathway of a minor inconvenience being way more alarming than it needs to? And with the apathy, the dissociation, the inability to feel scared or hurt-- because that's not safe-- it comes out as a muted form of anger; as annoyance and irritability.

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I asked a friend who is a sociopath (diagnosed with ASPD, he refers to himself as a sociopath which is why Iām calling him that) what love feels like to him and how he knows when he loves someone.
I loved his answer. He said āRoutine. If they are a part of my routine and feel familiar and comfortable and I would feel like something is missing if they werenāt there, then I think I love them.ā
I have bpd with ASPD traits and I think his answer was so cute. I think that is what love is like for me too but Iāve never heard it so succinctly explained, perfect summarization.
Some Thoughts about Schizoid Dynamics (2006), Nancy McWilliams
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I wrote a essay/paper relating the schizoid condition to philosophical fiction. I cover the books The Divided Self, The Stranger, No Longer Human, Nausea, and The Steppenwolf.
Existentialism is a key part of the experience of having schizoid personality disorder. When you are unable to experience life in the wayā¦
The Divided Self, R.D. Laing

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I won't post this with no context for the sake of it being preserved in its full schizoid-ness [as it is a quite beautiful quote on its own, but it does indeed in context represent something very specific and should not be used for a holistic self evaluation]
As Appel (1974) notes, ā[]Since he equates love with fusion, control, and persecution, the schizoid must hate what he lovesāthe classic ambivalent positionā. [full quote somewhere in this post with some personal anecdotes/analysis from OP]
The full, longer quote does better justice in describing schizoid dynamics [and is frankly, while fair, a lot more damning], but I often remind myself of it in times when I find myself becoming bored or annoyed with people for seemingly no reason.
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āļø SCHIZOID PHENOMENA, OBJECT RELATIONS, AND THE SELF by Harry Guntrip
(āThe Picture of the Shut-In Individual,ā starting at page.17)