Progress not perfection

in case anyone's wondering, the maximum ssi amount in 2026 is $993 a month. they cut that if you get any other money from any other source at all. like, if someone tries to give you money for christmas presents or you try to do some work for uber so you can save up for something, ssi will take it out of your monthly amount so you basically never go over $993. they really, really hate us.

Meanwhile congress is saying they need insider stock trading to line their pockets because their $174,000+ salaries aren’t enough to provide for their families…. 😒

contrary to popular belief not everyone has an innate sense of internal gender or care to have one or seek a name for it, some people go their whole lives without questioning their occupation in one of two gender roles, but for some people, if pressed, they don’t feel that internal sense of ‘i am a woman’ or ‘i am a man’, and in that case i feel the switch over to transgender vs cisgender relies on active identification of a gender other than the one they were assigned. if someone’s like ‘idk dude I just work here’ then that’s valid

A portion of people in the notes are like ‘but that makes you trans. That’s called being agender’ and another portion of people are going ‘this is how the majority of cis ppl feel and it’s NOT agender’ and personally I feel like both of them are missing the point here. Yes a lot of people identify as agender because of this feeling. Yes a lot of people with this same feeling still identify as cis. These are not mutually exclusive experiences and it doesn’t mean the agender people are secretly cis or the cis people are secretly agender. It just means they have very similar experiences of gender that they choose to conceptualize and label differently, and neither of them are mistaken or wrong to do so.

Highly recommend telling yourself: "I've gathered enough evidence. I don't need to keep returning to something to know it's not for me." And for your health, moving accordingly.

I always forget Americans have sinks that kill everything

I'm so fucking scared of these things.

I genuinely don't understand those sinks. Why do they exist? Why is that necessary? What the heck are you putting down your sinks that necessitates that??? Genuinely curious.

Do you ever start listening to a song and you can’t decide if you like it

Yeah for sure, though just right now no examples come to mind. Maybe after I have breakfast and caffeine 😅

i cannot emphasize enough how important it is that you should ideally give birth in a fully equipped and staffed medical facility or if you insist on giving birth through an alternative method you should be within minutes of a hospital and i mean under 5 minutes if you’d like me to be really fucking frank

like i can get on board with so much feminist theory and stuff, truly, and i do acknowledge that obstetrics and gynaecology as a field holds blind spots that are egregious (e.g. infant and maternal mortality in the black community) but there is no empowerment in risky birthing practices that our foremothers, and i’m not mincing words, often suffered through. birthing is natural, but it is not “easy” or even “innate”, it is best practiced guided and witnessed by those that know what to do in an emergency. you are not reconnecting to any innate feminine nature by practicing dangerous birthing practices—you are recreating a time when the bodies and lives of women barely mattered and it was expected that death would/could occur at insane and tragic rates.

this is a hill i will spend the rest of my days fighting on because while i am not interested in birthing children myself, i have an incredible passion and interest in the field of labour and delivery. it’s been one of my greatest joys to play even a small part in delivering neonates. i do not want anyone to risk their babies over a deeply, deeply misguided idea of free birth being “the natural way” when natural is not always synonymous with the safest way.

So many people think it's either midwife or doctor. It's not. Have your midwife or doula in the hospital room with you, I promise the doctors don't give a shit. Hell, you can have her do the delivery itself and just have the doctors there as emergency backup! But for the love of your baby, go to the fucking hospital.

yup. a lot of hospitals are willing to work with you to realize your birthing plan as much as they can within safe limits and parameters. my hospital is closely and highly allied with midwives all up and down the coast, with the explicit instruction to call the midwife when we know a labouring patient is about to deliver so we can respect their plan. genuinely, you can have almost any kind of birth you want—just make sure that there are qualified professionals in attendance, and it’s not just midwives or OBGYNS you need. you have no idea when you’ll need a respiratory therapist on call, you have no idea when you will need a blood transfusion within minutes or risk certain death, L&D nurses do not have the same training as NICU nurses if a baby declines rapidly. it’s a literal thousand things that can go wrong and you should be in the best place for them to go wrong.

IT’S HALLOWEEN TIME TO GET SPOOKY

I T S T H E M I D D L E O F J U N E

I T I S H A L L O W E E N T I M E T O G E T S P O O K Y

ok who the fuck got this on my dash it’s still june

get spooky

how does this appear every june

@nooowestayandgetcaught

STOP BRINGING THIS BACK EVERY JUNE

… I’ve just queued this up for next June. Because reasons

EVERY JUNE

I nearly forgot this year, but all of you happening froods who reblogged last year’s post didn’t, so here we are.

Reblog every time you see this post

I love how tumblr culture has shifted from people yelling angrily about out-of-season posts to everyone just going “yeah sure it’s Halloween”.

Do you ever, like. Kinda want to discuss some aspect of your life/your past that you're kinda contemplating and processing, but you know that if you say it out loud it's gonna sound like a weird flex? 😅

Okay I'm glad it's not just me? But whooof prev, that is kinda nuts

why does ~personal growth~ and """healing""" seem to always be demanded of the individual while simultaneously expected to be done alone?

The devil came to my house and tried to burn it down, which is why this post exists in the first place.

I saw Goody OP writing darkfic with the devil.

We've all gotten just a bit too comfortable being jerks to strangers on the internet I think

You said it better than I could. Of all the inane and ridiculous things I've seen in my notes because of this post, "I NEED to say fuck you to strangers or I will literally die" is certainly one of them