Progress not perfection

I want to live in a world where parents get accurate information that isn't rooted in a century of ableism. Where they're happy to have their child and are given the resources and medical care they'll need (universal healthcare, anyone?). I want parents of disabled children to know exactly what school their kid will go to — and to know it's a good school that actually cares about them. I want places in every community where disabled people with mobility issues, limb differences, intellectual differences, (the list goes on and on) get to be EXTREMELY visible and part of the world: workplaces, entertainment places, errand places.

Normalize using small words with aac.

Normalize not bullying or making fun of someone who is verbose when able to speak but isn't when using aac.

Normalize being patient for an aac speaker to type.

Asexuality is something I feel so deeply and it's impacted my life in huge ways (often negative), and I need media that captures those huge feelings ya know? I read an article or smth recently where it was singing praises about some character that's asexual but their orientation isn't their whole identity or the main focus, and that's great! But for many people it is a huge deal! And I just feel like that's not all that groundbreaking for an asexual character, when thats also every asexual character ever, just one small little sidenote that won't be explored much.

And assuming its chill for me to talk about my own personal hatred of sex...as a sex repulsed ace whos experienced SA, sex is not a neutral thing to me. To me, sex is horrifying, not just "ew gross", but something I can never experience safely. And I cant stop thinking about a horror story that explores those feelings of being a sex repulsed suevivor in such a sexualized world. Experiences of someone that where others see a beautiful or desirable physical act, they see body horror. What others see as the ultimate declaration of trust and intimacy, they can only feel a deep violation.

That was the most wheelchair accessible BUILDING I have ever been in, period. The concession stand had the usual one reigster with a lower counter, there's nor door to the main bathrooms, but inside they don't just have two disabled stalls* they have a separate disabled bathroom inside there and it was JUST as clean and functional as the rest of the bathroom, everything was easily reachable, IT HAD A BUTTON for opening the door on both sides AND as far as I could tell a metal, heavy duty changing table adults could use, all the bars you could ever need, it was mindblowing. The floor was all tile except in the theaters themselves, and the carpet was nice and flat so it was easy to roll on in a manual chair and none of the ramps were particularly steep, the disabled reserved spots are HIGHER than all the other chairs so you can see no matter what, and!! and!!! EVERY SINGLE THEATER HAD AN AUTOMATIC DOOR BUTTON!!!! I'VE NEVER BEEN IN A THEATER THAT HAD EVEN ONE OF THOSE LIKE??

*I will say the two other disabled stalls are clearly intended for people like me in small manual chairs who can transfer easily(had all the bars) but I kinda like having those because it means I don't have to take up the disabled bathroom in case someone with different needs is waiting. And like. This is maybe devious, the two disabled stalls are too small for a mom and her 17 kids to take up, so only one disabled stall can be taken that way. I wouldn't have to wait, or take a spot in line for someone who needs it more.

They also ofc have captions and and descriptive audio devices.

I legit flagged down an employee and, honestly with tears in my eyes, and begged him to tell his manager that it was the most wheelchair accessible building I have ever been in, and it's really not often that I feel so just effortlessly included. It did almost make me cry. I never felt like I was any different than an abled guest. I NEVER feel like that.

So yeah if you live in Tucson a d you're in a wheelchair or have other disabilities that would benefit and they're showing a movie you wanna see do it there. Even the theater I worked at wasn't this accessible. It was everything to me, you deserve that too!!

Adding to anon: I am always treated as I am willingly taking the spot from those who work. It's always "well, they can only come in in the afternoon". Yeah, and me, too. But me struggling is not seen as worthy. It's always if I really wanted to, I could just get into bed earlier, wake up earlier. Just function. Just don't be lazy. Just don't take the spot form those who really struggle, those who do something for our society, those who earn their treatment. People hate me for existing.

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This is ableism.

No matter how many times you tell the doctor the office hey I'm not up at the normal time what you're lates appointment availability, the unintentional ableism is them saying we have a tel health for 11:20 and just being oh i guess I'll just have to suffer then, or seeing a 3:20, and I normally wake up at 3:00pm and panicking of how I'm going to wake up on time or if do get up at 3pm if ill be able to wake up and immediately have caffeine and hope im awake enough to be able to talk,

It's never being able to fit in a world made for the morning.

It is missing work, gig jobs, appointments, friends, being able to go outside at early time,

The self ableism comes into play of telling yourself to just push feeling exhausted all day and night, it's telling yourself that it does not matter we naturally feel sleepy at 7am it feeling like you have make yourself go to sleep at "normal time" because you know it chase problems if you keep waking up at your own natural time because will chase problems in your life, relationship problems, missing doctor appointments, missing work, etc etc

And on top of that i also have Hypersomnia makes everything so much worse

…and the vet was like, “You know the thing with geriatric cats is—” and I was like, “What do you mean, geriatric?! It’s a little baby, look at her!" Kumail Nanjiani: Night Thoughts (2025)