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you may have noticed that my blog is disorganized and thematically incoherent and my tag game is weaker by the day. this is commentary on the chaos of modern existence

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NOT every creature is safe to handle! F. snipsnapi and related subgenera are obligate phalangivores and the leading cause of finger loss worldwide.
i was able to act fast & trap this one in the unforgiving void of my bath tub. last i checked it was standing stock-still waiting for the terrain to load in. too bad, little buddy. you're in my world now
I see no difference between the crowd that villainizes every Israeli/jew and the crowd that villainizes every Palestinian/muslim
Yall are the exact same human garbage that can't see outside your shitty narrow worldview, go fuck yourselves
are we really still doing language wars in 2026? i love both yiddish and hebrew. also im very tired
אמתדיק, מיר טוען די שפראכן-מלחמהס אין 2026? איך האב ליב ביידע יידיש און ביידע היברעיש. און איך בין זייער מיד
באמת אנחנו עדיין עושים את המלחמות הלשונות ב2026? אני אוהבת גם את יידיש וגם את עברית. ואני ממש איף
there is something kind of funny though about reviving 130 year old discourse. like of course we are doing that
אבער ס׳איז דא עפעס א ביסל קאמיש מיט אפברענגן דיסקוסיע וואס איז 130 יאר אלט. אוואדע טוען מיר דאס
אבל יש מה קצת מצחיק לתת חיים לדיסקורס שבן 130 שנים. ברור שאנחנו עושים את זה
have i ever shown u people my hand sofa
my prized possession is this loveseat I bought from a divorced dad who couldn’t tell me anything about it and in the years i’ve owned it i’ve never been able to find out who made it or where it came from. it’s got nails and finger creases and palm lines but they’re all kinda hard to see in this pic.

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Got balls? Check 'em for lumps. Got tits? Check 'em lumps. Got armpits? Check 'em for lumps. Please. If you find a lump don't panic but get it checked just to make sure it's nothing serious. It's important and would mean a lot to me.
What hapoened after 2005 with clothing quality? (Your comment a out Old Navy etc)
This is around when you start seeing spandex infest everything - spandex blends are prone to wonky shrinkage in the dryer, and the fabric just kind of shreds in a short period of time.
You also see more and more companies skipping steps like pre-washing fabric, so even previously "safe" options like 100% cotton shirts bleed and shrink a ton in the wash. (See a bog-standard 100% cotton shirt these days with dry cleaning instructions? Yeah, that thing will bleed everywhere, shrink in the dryer because the fabric hasn't been pre-shrunk, and the seams will also start bursting due to shitty construction.)
You also see print quality take a dive -- yarn-dyed fabric and screenprinting getting replaced with sublimation work. (I have 25 year old screen printed t-shirts that look better than anything modern that has gone through only 2 washes.)
We had a very brief, sweet-spot period in time where washing machines & detergent stopped being brutal on clothes, and fabric + construction was high quality, but affordable. 2005 is not an exact date for the end of this short era, but it's around there somewhere, imo. I would personally never thrift for anything post 2005, as a general rule of thumb. (Based on my experiences as older Gen X.)
Clothes also used to cost us more money, or at least a higher percentage of our income. People had smaller wardrobes to reflect that.
The rise of fast fashion thanks to internet retailers like Zara (often sourced as the originator of the trend), H&M, and Primark in the 90s and 00s realizing global supply and labor chains being shifted around in the wake of NAFTA and other international agreements, meant that they could debut new clothing year-round instead of just Fall and Spring. The links between designer, approval, production, and sales were growing shorter while markets were getting bigger with the rise of internet shopping. To maximize profits and minimize costs, materials were made thinner and stretchier across the board.
When you have a stretch poplin shirt or a pair of spandex blend leggings, it can fit more people in a generalized size range (S, M, L). It will also wear out quicker and be resistant to mending (once the intermixed stretchy fibers are severed, it's incredibly difficult to get it to stop degrading- like a run in a pair of stockings). Ever try to repair a hole in the inner thighs of a pair of stretch jeans? It's a pain in the ass to get it to stay that way.
The decline in union-made clothing also resulted in a loss of quality. Instead of being guaranteed a minimum wage, garment workers are paid by each finished piece, which incentivizes speed over quality. Don't get me wrong, there are plenty of garment workers out there who are quick and accurate, but when factories push more styles and ridiculous quotas, corners WILL be cut.
Shoppers have also become accustomed to this year-round release schedule, which encourages manufacturers to embrace cheaper materials and labor practices to cover any losses. Did last month's turtleneck sweaters absolutely bomb in sales? No problem, they were mostly acrylic and sewn cheaply! On to the next microtrend...
Of course, shittier clothes also mean that people need to buy more often...
My partner above also reminded me about this video, if you want more info on why clothing/fabric quality is shit now:
I think it's very important to point out that "Fast Fashion" is not another way to say, "low price, low quality clothing". It usually ends up that way, but that is not what the term means.
Fast Fashion is the rapid, consistent cycling of micro trends, which requires an acceleration of the design > manufacturing > sales chain. That's it.
(You can also have year-round garments like plain, white t-shirts that have also tanked in quality over the years -- this is not a Fast Fashion problem, but related to general cost cutting in fabric production.)
Yes, this disproportionately affects low income populations, but you have *got* to understand how this is a business model that goes beyond clothing and crosses income brackets.
I want to point out 2 things that often get left out of this conversation:
1) To dislike fast fashion is not to say "fuck you for wearing the only clothes you can afford". It is to dislike a very modern and unsustainable production model that is the realization of the "endless growth" model of late-stage capitalism.
2) Garment (and other production) workers are consistently left out in the "how dare you piss on the poor" hot takes. We have *got* to encourage liveable wages for everyone.
"The $10 shirt is all some people can afford" and "a new shirt should never be $10" are both unfortunately true.
In a similar vein, I am getting increasingly frustrated at the "it's a privilege to be able to thrift" discourse.
Thrifting as a hobby and thrifting to be able to clothe yourself are two different practices that are increasingly getting conflated. And the existence of the former is being used to discourage the latter.
I will continue to recommend thrifting for both fashion and needs-based clothing, with the suggestion that one check the fabric content label and try to get something with as low a spandex content as possible. (And if you can, learn a couple of other earmarks for longevity or suitability for alterations.) You may not luck out every time, and some days you may not have the time to inspect everything on the rack, but a little knowledge here could score you a garment that you won't have to replace so soon.
Same thing with learning how to care for your clothing. Got things prone to shrinkage because of spandex or it was never pre-shrunk? If you can spare the day, let it air dry vs running through a machine. You can't always avoid shitty garments, but you can try to eke more life out of them, and it helps to know *why* they are shitty to begin with.
And that is really the point of these conversations when you, yourself are part of the worst impacted class of people. A little knowledge that can tip the balance when confronted with what you thought were 2 identical purchases. A little reassurance that, no, you didn't fuck up washing these clothes, they ripped or shrank because the quality is worse than what you grew up with.
I am getting so frustrated with people who are determined to turn conversations about clothing into opportunities to create increasingly minute class distinctions to encourage either fighting or nihilism. It is important to be able to describe what is going on with capitalism without that being perceived as a personal attack. And likewise understand that solutions range from the personal to the systemic, and sometimes the personal is all you can try at the moment.
A few tips for trying to find good quality clothes:
1. Look at what the garment is made of. There are garments that can be made of synthetic fibers and there are others that can't. Sweaters for example, with the exception of chenille, can't be made with synthetic fibers without them pilling and becoming an awful texture after a couple washes.
2. 100% doesn't always mean 100%. It's legal to say that if there's only a tiny bit of another fiber in the fabric, it shouldn't be because it allows companies to lie about their garment but having synthetics.
3. Look at the wash instructions. You should never be able to put a good wool in the washing machine, for example. It has to be hand wash or dry clean only. If it says it's 100% wool and you can put it in the washing machine, they're lying to you about the fiber content.
4. Look at the brand tag. Is it vintage? Is it a brand that's known for being well made? Look it up if you have the time and you're not sure.
5. Check the seams, make sure there aren't any loose threads, make sure the seams are straight, know how to spot good workmanship.
6. Make sure you can tailor the item if needed. Most modern garments are meant to fit a small group of people correctly and you most likely will have to tailor some of your garments to fit. look for where and how the pockets are placed and if it fits in the shoulders.
7. Learn how to do burn tests with garments you take home. Snip off a little bit of excess fabric and light that sucker. It's a great way to figure out if the fabric content is what the trash says it is and how to more accurately care for the garment.
Here's some really good videos by Bernadette Banner that explain how to look for good quality clothes.
Also make friends with your dry cleaners.
Thank you for this!
Laundry labels are very important, and I can understand they can be confusing when they're just the icons (I still have to look some up).
If I (or someone else) have the spoons, there is an entire post to be made about how to care for your garments, *especially* how to eke out as much life as possible out of the low quality stuff.
(In fact, I have to fix some of my lower end shoes, and will make a post with how I do quick sole repair.)
I really debated sticking my oar in on this. I’m in a bit of bind because of my size. Thrifting is truly, in my area, not possible. There is little to no chance to find clothes my size. I’m a 5x I have and am sewing to make my own. Spandex while the bane of existence literally saves my ass (and everyone else from not having to see my exposed ass). I dislike it, always have, but any port in a storm.
The quality of good plus size is …. Well it’s not good. They have a captive audience and they know it. I often find myself reading comments about the quality of clothes and thinking “hasn’t it always been that way?” then I realized. It hit plus size clothes first then moved to mainstream. Paying more for shitty quality has always been my norm.
So has not being able to find things. I made a special club at my University it required wearing a white dress. Thank every god they gave enough notice because it took three fucking months and a special order. I live in the biggest town in my state. It was a plain white dress, not a wedding dress just a simple plain white dress and it took forever. At that time I didn’t sew, but damn if I had found fabric, bought a machine and done it myself it would have been less painful.
Thank you for the oar, @kyotoagnes
A lot of the boutique brands for new clothing of higher quality... they *know* they have a plus-sized market willing to pay, but choose not to engage.
This is a huge problem in the new vintage world, where it feels like a deliberate attempt to discourage plus-sized people from ever being associated with the brand. It is distinctly malicious.
And while this thread was moreso about fabric, you kind of need patterns to even try to make do with what currently is available.
The "fat tax" for asking a pattern be graded to anything above a size L is absurd, not to mention finding someone who will *properly* grade the pattern to begin with.
You can't just resize it in Photoshop and call it a day -- not a lot of people know this and I feel it important to draw attention to. Whenever people tell my (plus-sized) partner they are lucky they can make "whatever they want," my partner just grits their teeth.
The problems of declining quality in the fashion world disproportionately impact plus-sized people and we should be encouraging more sizes as a norm, in both finished clothing and in pattern work for home sewists.
You can make spandex last longer by:
never ever using fabric softener/dryer sheets
washing on cold
not putting them in the dryer
(honestly, ALL OF YOUR CLOTHES will last longer if you do those things. obviously some things should be washed on warm; it does get remove stains better; and I wash towels on hot. obviously there are life situations where you have to put shit in the dryer. but it's just a fact: dryers destroy clothes. all that stuff in the lint trap, other than pet hair!, is your clothes wearing out.)
In my experience, you gotta avoid polyester/cotton blends like the plague. It's ROUGH because that's what 90% of clothes are, but poly/cotton blends get horrible, scratchy pills on them that make them feel terrible to wear.
Wool seriously needs to make a comeback.
I'll never stop talking about how life-changing it was to get rid of all my plastic bullshit and switch (almost) entirely to wool, linen, and cotton. Polyester is impossible to properly thermoregulate in.
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I was atrociously late to a seder because of a hospital shift.
All to say, when my rabbi opened the door for Elijah, he yelped when I was on his door step with an appearance akin to surviving a war, a beyond exhausted expression, and an iced coffee larger than my head.
I didn't even register his surprise when I asked, still in the door way "Hey, could i have some wine?"
I am both flattered and terrified at this comparison.
genuinely me

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She seriously thinks she would be completely safe in a world with only women? I need to disappoint her, but women are also OFTEN EVIL. She's lucky, if she never had to interact with an evil woman before, because I did. My mom CSA'd me multiple times. I still can't understand, how A LOT OF PEOPLE are flabbergasted at the idea of a woman being evil like my mom. Also she spreads literal genocidal rhetoric against men, but seemingly for A LOT OF PEOPLE that's okay.
Reminder that Karla Homolka raped and killed her sister, raped and killed a 15 year old girl, raped and killed a 14 year old girl then encased her dismembered corpse in concrete, and raped another 15 year old girl then murdered her with a mallet.
But sure, only men are a threat to women.
I could write an entire essay about the experiences members in the survivora of abusive women group I was in, I even have permission from other members of that group, but I don't want to have to read comments victim blaming these people.
Because, surprise, surprise, a lot of women who were really into supporting "me too" and love to claim that they are feminists suddenly will use the same fucked up "reasoning" sexist men use, when the abuser is a woman.
No matter if the victim is another woman or a man.
"You will ruin her career, women already have it hard enough!"
"Its just teasing, women touching women is normal, there is nothing sexual about it!"
"She is like a sister to me, she wouldn't do that!"
"You are too ugly, no one would do that to you."
The idea that women spaces are inherently safe is dangerous, because it allows abusers to prey on more victims and absolutely ridiculous if you have ever been inside a girl's locker room in high school. Sexually harassing someone, both verbally and physically, are such common bullying tactics.
When I was still medically forced to live as a "girl" I had the "unusual" breast shape some intersex people have and the amount of gross comments and times I was touched against my will is so high, that whenever I think back of my time in school my body still has the same physical defense reaction to this day. Not to talk about what happened in the swim club, because that was so bad that thinking about it for too long gives me seizure like anxiety attacks.
And I am not alone in this; there were 25 members in that group, on and off, and 21 were women and they were all not taken seriously. They were all told that they are overdramatizing or lying.
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When you say "men" on Tumblr, a certain amount of people will immediate edit your statement in their brain to be "white cis straight perisex alloromantic allosexual abled neurotypical christian well educated top 25% income bracket men from the USA who were never abused in any context and has the personality and beliefs of that man that hate crimed me once" and argue all issues related to men in anyway as if every man you ever encounter is like this until proven otherwise.
But like. "Men" includes, for example, black men. And it seems pretty racist to not include them in your standard conception of men. The same goes for any other marginalized men. They are all men, and it's pretty bigoted to ignore their existence when you talk about issues that impact men.
The problem is that these people believe men all have similar class interests that are mutually exclusive with class interests of all women. Which is identical to the agenda manosphere podcasters run shady financial schemes on.
For whatever reasons, which are far beyond my ability to research or understand, the concept of “nonbinary” continually slides off the brain of my eldest child (Bear, 9) and they keep having to be reminded it of it. The word simply carries no associations or permanence, which is hilarious because two children they see fairly often are nonbinary and use they/them pronouns; Max, the uncle/aunt of their close friend, and Dorset, a child they go swimming with. Bear sees these kids at least once a week.
And then Bear regularly goes “WHATS NONBINARY”
And we’re like “LIKE 👏 DORSET 👏 BEAR. LOCK THE FUCK IN”
And every time Bear goes, USING THE RIGHT PRONOUNS, in a tone of receiving information they have never heard before, “THEYRE NONBINARY?”
This reminds me...
Many years ago, my oldest, R, now age 10, came home from a playdate and asked "who was the other lady at [friend]'s house?"
Well, buddy, that's his mom.
No, R insisted, because he knew [friend]'s mom.
Well, buddy, [friend] has two moms.
R's mind was blown. That's possible? A person can have two moms? Since when???
... well, buddy, at least since your own two moms decided to have kids. You. You also have two moms. Didn't realize it needed further explanation that other kids can also have two moms.
I have three partners who all cohabitate and we have a daughter together. I cannot tell you the number of times when she was little when she'd have the shocking revelation of "Wait, you LOVE Dad??" or "You and Mom are DATING??" Like yeah bud. We have all very obviously been together for most of your life and have been very upfront about that lmao "You and M are MARRIED?!?" Kid you were there! You watched the ceremony!!
SHRIEK this is EXACTLY what it’s LIKE
I should say that I’m a personally a big believer in young humans working out their early experimentation on “what makes a likeable person” on their siblings - within reason - and that the youngest sibling in question was perfectly fine, and appears to have been designed by the universe to be punted 🤣

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