I’m 53 - yes for realsies. Queer AF femme, mind fucker, enjoys all the holes, and … SWITCH! 😈 DMs open to 21+ only! She/Her/IDGAF. I’m your friendly* neighborhood Aunt Monster. I am a woman+ on TRT … not NB, more GNC, + = that I’m MORE than ‘just/only’ a woman, ENM, Poly, Safe Space Creator, Relationship Anarchist, & Ray of Fucking Sunshine. *friendly, not available
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I know she doesn't know what "the maximise button" is so I told her "click the square at the top right" and she clicked...the printer icon...in the middle of the toolbar. and I'm just like okay. this isn't a technology thing you are flunking basic shapes and directions. I'm turning off your computer and getting you a block puzzle. you have a master's degree
I type at a typical speed of approx 120 wpm … if I’m even on the phone or a video meeting with someone I get so anxious I forget how to spell EVERYTHING. Forget it if someone’s actually watching me in person or o have to share my screen!
reminder to the world that everyone (except people with aphallia, or those who had theirs removed!) has a phallus, whether you call it a clitoris or a penis or any other name. it came free with your fetal development!
thinking about making out with Mommy’s boots, looking up at her with the biggest heart eyes. kissing and licking my way across the fabric, whispering love and praises at her feet🥰
getting a kick to the face when im least expecting it. instantly teary eyed n whimpering, looking up to her, her expression unchanged looking down on me expectantly. shakily giving her boot another small kiss, looking back up quickly for approval that’s granted with a small smirk. getting so lost in making out with her boot again the next kick is just as unexpected, and another.
I’m bleeding now, which makes her break out in a bright smile when I look up at her, I can’t help but let out a toothy, bloody smile back that earns me another kick. each time going back to kissing her boots like a good little devotee. licking my own blood off of them, flinching with every move of her foot, happier than ever🥰
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LBQ+ people interviewed for this report repeatedly named gendered discrimination against masculine gender expressions in particular as the catalyst for a lifetime of economic marginalization, discrimination and harassment at work, psychological abuse, and physical and sexual violence. Their accounts point to the need for deeper research and analysis of how masculine gender expression by LBQ+ people increases their risk of exposure to various human rights violations and abuses. Some reports on violence against LBQ+ people (explored below) have treated gender expression as a signifier of sexual orientation or gender identity, limiting knowledge production on how presentations of masculinity are themselves policed and violated.
— “"Butches Get Punched”: Violence Against Masculine-Presenting LBQ+ People” in “This Is Why We Become Activists” by the Human Rights Watch (why does this say LBQ+?)
Defining ATM:
Anti-transmasculinity refers to the systematic oppression of transmasculinity. “Transmasculinity” refers to the concept of people seen as female having a masculine or manly gender or gender expression*. Other terms used for this are transandrophobia, transmisandry, and transmascphobia.
In 1963, feminist Betty Freidan described misogyny as “the problem with no name,” illustrating how at the time, women’s language to understand, describe and communicate their oppression was underdeveloped. Anti-transmasculinity has been, similarly, a problem with no name; transmasculine people have not had the language or framework to understand, describe, and communicate our oppression. Transmasculinity suffers from erasure, often called “invisibility”. This does not protect transmasculine people from violence; it silences us to prevent us from speaking out against, or realizing, the violence done to us. It alienates us from our history, our brothers, siblings and sisters, and ourselves, by preventing transmasculinity from being seen, heard, discussed, or considered. For more posts of mine and others that help expand on the theory of anti-transmasculinity, see my #theory tag.
*This is not my definition of transmasculinity as an identity. This definition is for the form of transness targeted by transphobia, which is based around the idea of "female/woman trying to be male/a men." My definition of transmasculinity as an identity is any form of masculinity or manhood that is trans* in nature, regardless of presentation or assigned sex. I make this distinction because a GNC man assigned male could see his manhood as trans, but be targeted by transphobia based around the idea of a man trying to be a woman.
Who can be affected by ATM?:
Anyone can suffer from anti-transmasculinity, regardless of gender, sex or sexuality. Anti-transmasculine violence targets perceived transmasculinity, which means anyone perceived as transmasculine can be victimized. That is not the extent of how people are affected, though; people who perceive themselves to be transmasculine, consciously or unconsciously, or who have traits associated with transmasculinity can also be affected by witnessing anti-transmasculinity.
(TW: transphobic murder)
People who are associated with transmasculinity (such as partners, friends, and family of transmasculine people) can also be affected, not just through emotional pain but targeted for physical violence. As an example, Italian cis woman Maria Paola Gaglione was murdered by her brother to "teach her a lesson" after she got engaged to a trans man.
Who can be anti-transmasculine?:
Anyone can be anti-transmasculine, regardless of gender, sex, or sexuality. It is a systemic way of thinking that is spread throughout society and culture, and reproduces itself constantly in people's thoughts and actions.
Who benefits from anti-transmasculinity?:
In the grand scheme of things, everyone suffers from the restrictive nature of transphobia. However, in general, only cisgender, gender-conforming people systematically benefit from anti-transmasculinity. Other trans* people do not; trans* people do not systematically benefit from each other’s oppression. Like all forms of gender oppression, anti-transmasculinity is fundamentally a tool of capitalism, imperialism, and white supremacy.
* *trans is a way of writing “trans” that emphasizes it as a broad umbrella term inclusive of everyone who trangresses gender and sex norms
Is ATM caused by “misandry”?
In transunity theory, “misandry” is used to refer to the way that gender roles around manhood/masculinity are weaponized to harm marginalized people, (in this case) specifically trans* people; trans* people are viewed as having the worst traits of both masculinity and femininity, as well as the inherent negativity associated with androgyny. In this sense, anti-transmasculinity does involve misandry, as do anti-transfeminity* and exorsexism**. However, all of these also involve misogyny and misandrogyny***. Which one of these is more dominant varies between types of transphobia, as well as the individuals doing the violence and the ones experiencing it.
To quote this article, "Misandry [...] can never reliably be prevented from collapsing into transphobia."
*i use anti-transfemininity (ATF) as a companion to anti-transmasculinity, as an alternative to “transmisogyny.” This is because, as I explain, my philosophy on transphobia is that all transphobias are inherently misogynistic and all trans* people experience the intersection of misogyny. Additionally, transunity theory frames transphobia as being the intersection of many forms of gendered bigotry, so using the “anti-” terms lets me talk about these transphobias without having to specify it by only one kind (like -misogyny or -androphobia)
** exorsexism refers to oppression of people who violate the gender or sex binaries; it includes intersexism, but also oppression against non-binary people.
*** misandrogyny is the hatred of/bigotry against androgyny, a companion to misogyny and misandry. “androgyny” here refers to anything outside the exclusive male/female binary; examples of misandrogyny are violence done when someone cannot tell someone’s gender/sex, and the idea of nonbinary and genderqueer language as immature, annoying, and pointless, while binary language is considered mature, normal, and useful.
Evidence of ATM:
I have the tags #examples of transandrophobia and #experiences with transandrophobia; the first is posts showing transandrophobia in action, and the second is people describing the transandrophobia they have experienced or witnessed.
I also keep the Archive of Violence Against Trans*masculine People, which keeps a record of events of anti-transmasculine violence. This includes murder, rape, abuse, physical assault, harassment, and the suicides of transmasculine people. Also on this archive is a list of academic research & writing related to anti-transmasculinity; the studies provide more objective evidence of the systemic oppression transmasculine people face, and analyses which can help with understanding how anti-transmasculinity works.
You can also look at @transandrophobia-archive which collects examples of anti-transmasculine Tumblr posts.
Further Introductory Reading (updated 25/6/26):
Feminism Is For Everybody by bell hooks
The Transfeminist Manifesto by Emi Koyama
Saint's definition of transandrophobia & relationship to anti-transmasculinity
Saint's explanation of the history of transandrophobia as a term
responding to 4 questions about transandrophobia by me
why transandrophobia isn't "just" transphobia or misogyny by me
The Transunitist Manifesto by Luke B.
there is no "transandrophobia community" by me
why "trans guys have it easier" is a folk myth by me
Masterpost of Transmasc Theory by kittenscratches (some overlap with here)
it really should be transfeminism 101 (cissexism in "transfeminism") by me, tildesee, and houseofpurplestars
Not transmasc invisibility, but erasure: intricacies of transmasc invisibility, and the fallacies of strictly gendered transphobia by S.L Void
"Affirmation" & Malgendering by penisbagelbites
how are we defining male privilege? by me
the data on transmasc economic vulnerability by cock-holliday
the patriarchy does not love men by me
anti-transmasculinity & exorsexism isn't feminist materialism, its just transphobia by me
In Defense of Men by Sophia Giovannitti
the problem with how tma/tme is used by me
Eraserhead: On writer's block and being a gender traitor by Jude Doyle
TERFs, Trans Mascs, and Two Steve Feminism: In which A Man has an Opinion about Feminism, with Mixed Results by Jude Doyle
the ideal feminist subject & how feminism fails us by me
Tracing A Ghostly Memory In My Throat: Reflections on Ftm Voice and Agency by C. Jacob Hale
The Will to Change: Men, Masculinity, and Love by bell hooks
"I Am A Transwoman. I Am In The Closet. I Am Not Coming Out." by Jennifer Coates
the trans community has never reckoned with exorsexism by me
"As a transfem, what's your insight on the way transmascs are treated when talking about their experiences?" by cipheramnesia
“Irl we just kiss”: ‘transmasc vs transfem’ discourse & reactionary ‘boys vs girls’ politics in trans spaces by S.L Void
Making Sense Out of the Murders of Trans Men by Mitch Kellaway
Collateral Damage: mathematical odds & the sum of survival. by S.L Void
Op-ed: Trans Men Experience Far More Violence Than Most People Assume by Loree Cook-Daniels
How the Criminalization of Testosterone Attacks Gender Variant People by Adryan Corcione
A Tale of a Trans Man in Pakistan by Ikra Javed
Girlboy Boygirl Blues: antitransmasculinity as a denial of individual history & more by S.L Void
Invisible Men: FTMs and Homelessness in Toronto by the FTM Safer Shelter Project Research Team
a brief history of the sexualization & whorification of FTM crossdressing by me
a brief history of transmasculine people being imprisoned and institutionalized by me
Penises, Privilege, and Feminist & LGBTQ+ Purity Politics by Julia Serano
Killing and Transforming the Dominant Man by the Andrea Wolf Institute of the Jineolojî Academy in Rojava
gender abolition vs gender liberation by me
The "3 ups" provided by Lou Sullivan's FTM Newsletter back in the 90s.
Info on Me:
Originally this blog was just made for me to process and deal with my own internalized anti-transmasculinity, but then people liked what I wrote and now its a place where I talk about queer issues & related things I find important.
I’m multiply disabled (both physically and mentally) and I struggle with answering asks; if I don’t answer you for a while feel free to just send your ask again, I will not mind. Also feel free to ask me to explain anything in plain language if you have difficulty understanding something. I don’t mind educating people or helping people find resources, as long as you are respectful and are in good faith and all that.
I am going into sociology with a focus on religion, and run @transtheology where I collect posts on trans-affirming spirituality and religion. If you have any questions or want advice related to transness and spirituality/religion (or madness & spirituality/religion) I’d love to help you the best I can. I also run @standwithdaanes & post more general political content there, focused on democratic confederalism.
It was a huge milestone of scientific and technological advancement. (Plus, at the time, politically significant). Humanity went to space! We set foot on a celestial body that was not earth for the first time in human history! That’s a big deal! I’ve never thought about it before but now that I have, it’s ridiculous to me that that’s not part of our everyday lives and the public consciousness anymore. Why don’t we have a public holiday and a family barbecue about it. Why have I never seen the original broadcast of the moon landing? It should be all over the news every year!
It’s July 20th. That’s the day of the moon landing. Next year is going to be the 54th anniversary. I’m ordering astronaut shaped cookie cutters on Etsy and I’m going to have a goddamn potluck. You’re all invited.
PITCH: We call it Moon Day, and then every 7 years when it falls on a Monday, that's an even BIGGER deal and we call that Moon Day Monday and go absolutely apeshit about it (the next Moon Day Monday is in 2026 so we have a couple trial runs first)
Shoutout to weird girls who became weird boys and weird boys who became weird girls and weird girls and boys who became both or neither. Let's all be weird and strange together
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Fun fact! this is likely due to racism. Not the drivers, to be clear, but this is a not-entirely-unsurprising result of systemic racism in the greater Seattle area and the influence it has on infrastructure spending.
I'm a huge proponent of public transit, rail in specific, and I'm very glad that the greater Seattle area is finally starting to see some solid light rail infrastructure sprouting up in the form of the 1 and 2 lines, but that in no way stops me from critiquing the decisions made in planning and implementation.
Light Rail, in it's colloquial form here in the US, is basically always a compromise solution. It's cheaper than subways, can make good use of existing right-of-way around freeways, and can function as a kind of low-capacity commuter rail in the subways while behaving more like a tram or streetcar in downtown areas. It is crucially, however, not a streetcar, nor is it a commuter rail. Streetcars make frequent stops and are optimized for dense areas with lots of traffic. Commuter rails are larger and stop lest frequently, optimized for bringing suburban residents into city centers. Commuter rail should, however, be independent of street traffic so it can travel at higher speeds. For this reason, most of the Link light rail system in seattle is actually not at-grade (street level), but on either elevated or sub-grade track. Downtown, the lightrail actually functions as a low-capacity low-frequency subway system in what used to be the bus tunnel (we don't have time, but yes it was stupid). Everywhere else, it's up on elevated tracks that largely follow the freeway system.
There are three stations, all immediately south of that Mount Baker elevated station, where the Link actually runs at-grade. These stations run through the historic low income immigrant neighborhoods of southeast seattle. Here, the trains are forced to stop at red lights, interact with crossing and left-turning traffic, and even cross through terrifyingly narrow pedestrian islands. They could have built elevated track here, as they did everywhere else, but they didn't. they didn't want to spend the money. I have personally watched light rail cars carrying hundreds of people have to wait two full minutes for cars turning left in front of them, delaying trains so like, 5 people could drive there. Once it reaches the end of this low income immigrant-dominant neighborhood, however, the Link returns to it's above-grade status, with Mount Baker being the first elevated stop. You want to know how this woman, who claims she was misdirected by her GPS, probably ended up here? I would bet anything she tried to make a turn at the intersection just before the stop and got confused. The intersection, for reference, looks like this:
I'm not saying it's an easy mistake to make, but given the number of people who drive through here every day, it's honestly not that surprising that someone, especially someone who is from out of town, or someone who is used to shared streetcar lanes, would eventually make this mistake. When you're dealing with a city of hundreds of thousands of people, it's only a matter of time before a mistake like this happens. but it is only possible for it to happen because of the decisions made in the planning process, and one of those decisions was "we can save money if we make everything worse in that part of town where all the foreign poors live", and so they built the thing at-grade, instead of keeping it elevated like everywhere else.
and yes, those tracks are in the middle of a four lane road, and no, there is no way to get to any of the at-grade stations without crossing at least two lanes of traffic on a very busy avenue. and those tiny little pedestrian islands are not only terrifying to walk on, but a man in a wheelchair was clipped by a passing train car a while back because his chair didn't really fit through the tight turns well and one of his feet was sticking slightly out when the train passed by. This is not a problem at like, any other stops in the Link system. Just here. Just in this neighborhood. And it's a fucking disgrace.
Jonathan Joss was an Indigenous, gay man who was murdered on the first day of Pride month as well as Indigenous History Month. He died protecting his trans husband. Homophobia and racism aren’t marks of the past, and this is a heart breaking reminder of that.
Praying for a safe journey back to the spirit world, Uncle ❤️🩹🦅
Today is the anniversary of the death of Jonathan Joss (King of the Hill, Parks and Rec). Jonathan Joss was an Indigenous, gay man who died protecting his transgender husband, on the first day of Pride month. Today we remember him and how he protected his family.
we are in an incredible age of medicine where you can easily get most of them treated, you can get vaccinated against some, and even HIV is no longer a death sentence (and i believe a cure is in the works rn). it is not a big deal. be safe, yes, but also don't be a judgy weirdo to people who do get infected because they weren't "being safe." especially because if you do not perpetually mask in public you have less than zero ground to stand on there.
exactly!!! like, when my friend wants to hang out but I have the flu, I say "sorry I have the flu i don't wanna get you sick" and i will not rest until we live in a world where it's just as normalized to say "sorry I have chlamydia I don't want to get you sick" when someone wants to have sex
The stigma of treating STIs like a “special” type of pathogen is almost funny when I tell people I’d rather get gonorrhea than a cold.
But like. Compare em. Cold symptoms: runny nose, cough, congestion, tiredness, muscle aches, hard to sleep, just general sick feeling. All constant, all disruptive. Gonorrhea symptoms: irritation while peeing, discharge (and that’s if you get any symptoms at all). Localized, mostly a nuisance. There’s no cure for the common cold, just over the counter symptom alleviators that never fully work. Gonorrhea is cleared up within 48 hours with a shot (which is potentially free, if you have good clinics nearby). Sure, you can’t have sex for a week after that, but you can’t really have sex for the 1-2 weeks you’re afflicted with a cold either.
The worst part about gonorrhea is having to tell previous partners they should get tested, but the only reason that’s the worst part is because of the stigma around it. Everyone in a friend group or office catching the same cold isn’t treated with the same stigma, even though it’s the exact same thing (if anything, worse, because when you have a cold you know it and you allowed your friends to be exposed, when you’ve got gonorrhea you often don’t even know).
no genuinely I just got a URI and let me tell you I'd gladly take the easily cured disease that pops up on my genitals over agony when I try to breathe that can only have the symptoms mitigated
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I think one of the funniest abortion stances I've heard was from my parents neighbor. He's a like, hard-core libertarian viking larper guy who is very tall and very fat and very bald.
He believes a fetus is human with a soul, but also its "basically attacking the woman's body" so if she wants to get rid of it, that's "basically self-defense". He compared it to shooting a home invader. So he supports abortion not as healthcare, but as killing a baby in self-defense
Y'know I'm so glad someone reminded me of this. Because this was also discussed.
My stepmother did NOT like the way her Libertarian Viking Neighbor framed pregnancy as the fetus "attacking the woman". She incredulously told him this was extremely disrespectful to expectant mothers to portray pregnancy as so violent and negative.
Libertarian Viking Neighbor's response was that people consensually hurt each other all the time, and "there's like a whole community about that, with the acronym the one that starts with a B" And his reasoning was that if the mother was consenting to bring attacked by the baby, it in fact wasn't violent and negative because there was consent.
He brought up people consensually hurting each other, didn't go for one of the obvious answers like boxing or body mods or something, no he went STRAIGHT TO BDSM and he DIDN'T EVEN REMEMBER THE ACRONYM
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