wholesome reminders

And if you’re a guy and you notice some creep is following or stalking a girl, and that she’s obviously uncomfortable or panicked, go ahead and say hi, long time no see, pretend to be her cousin, and tell her discretly you noticed there was a shady guy. Ask her if something’s wrong, if she feels unsafe, if she wants your help (very important - she may not trust you enough, no one could blame her, don’t take it personally). (and don’t you dare take advantage of the help you offered for a flirt opportunity, that would make you no better than the creep)

Dear 13 year olds: it’s the beginning of your teenage years. Don’t stress, you’ll make it out alive. There’s a lot changing about you, embrace that change and don’t make decisions too quickly. You’re doing just fine.

Dear 14 year olds: You’ve just started high school. You’re stressed that people are gonna hate you and that everyone is gonna judge you. Don’t sweat it. Most people feel like that. Click with the people you can and take it from me, get to know your teachers. You’re doing just fine.

Dear 15 year olds: people are starting to tell you to keep an eye out for job openings, telling you to save up to get you license when you turn 16. Suddenly everyone wants you to grow up quicker than before. Don’t push yourself too hard. Embrace your life right now. Life is moving at the same pace all the time, so should you. You’re doing just fine.

Dear 16 year olds: life is getting really scary right now. Everyone around you seems to have a job and have their license and you don’t have one and/or the other yet. Your parents are always so mad about it and claim they just want the best for you, but only you really know. Listen to what your mind is telling you. Take life at your own pace. You’re doing just fine.

Dear 17 year olds: you (may) have a job now and it’s really stressful. Balancing school and work isn’t easy at all. Don’t stress too much. Push yourself as much as you can but never any further than that. Too much stress makes no progress. Now it’s time to think about your future too. Or so they say. You don’t need to listen to them. Your perfect school and career are waiting for you but you don’t need to jump in right away. You’re doing just fine.

Dear 18 year olds: you’ve just graduated high school and now you’re a legal adult and things are different. Very very different. Take the changes as they come, as well as you can and at your own pace. Going to university/college? No one cares what you look like, no one cares about how much you’re eating. They’re too focused on themselves to judge you. So do what’s best for you, when you can. You’re doing just fine.

Dear 19 year olds: in some places, now it’s legal for you to drink. It’s possibly your first or second year of college/university, don’t drink too much please. The alcohol will not help and forgetting everything for a few hours isn’t worth how you’ll feel the next few days. Please take care of yourselves. University is a new experience, you’re finally free and alone, embrace it but don’t take it for granted. You come first. Love yourself. You’re doing just fine.

Dear all teenagers who may be struggling and terrified of their future: everything comes in time. Don’t fear it. Embrace it. You are loved beyond compare. You’re doing just fine. I promise.

As someone who is getting ready to exit teenage years, I wanted to make something for the teenagers of this generation. Because it’s scary, and only hearing bullshit from adults all day is exhausting.

First day of life up until 6th grade 

Jumped all the way to Freshman year of High School

Then I cut my hair Junior year, why did I do that

Slowly it started growing back and then….

I finally felt comfortable to express myself (the picture on the left was my debut)

At this point in my transition I am 6 months into HRT

A year on HRT

2 years since my coming out 

2 years on hrt

2.3 years on hrt

At this point I am 3 years into my Hormone Replacement Therapy. I’m thriving. 

These pictures were taken days apart and I am 3 and a half years into my medical transition (The picture on the right was also posted by Instagram on all their major social media handles attached with an interview I did with them for International Women’s Month)

During this time I was 4 years into HRT. Clearly living for it.

me, still scrolling: oh god she’s so pretty

Me *still outloud* : -jESUS ChRIsT.

Hello All!

My Name’s Hayden and I am in a bit of a bind right now, Im about to be not so willingly moved out of my parents home, so that means more bills to worry about besides my car’s insurance and repair, as well as everything else I need to be paying for. Most of the money I make from my minimum wage job isn’t gonna cut it, so I could really use some extra help!!

Im Selling Halfbodies like the ones above for Nine USD

And Fullbodies like these for 15 USD!

All Payment will go through my Ko Fi

I need to have roughly 600 saved up for the first months rent, and bills.

A friend of a friend won a free consultation with Clinton Kelly of What Not To Wear, and she was very excited, because she has a plus-size body, and wanted some tips on how to make the most of her wardrobe in a fashion culture which deliberately puts her body at a disadvantage.

Her first question for him was this: how do celebrities make a plain white t-shirt and a pair of weekend jeans look chic?  She always assumed it was because so many celebrities have, by nature or by design, very slender frames, and because they can afford very expensive clothing.  But when she watched What Not To Wear, she noticed that women of all sizes ended up in cute clothes that really fit their bodies and looked great.  She had tried to apply some guidelines from the show into her own wardrobe, but with only mixed success.  So - what gives?

His answer was that everything you will ever see on a celebrity’s body, including their outfits when they’re out and about and they just get caught by a paparazzo, has been tailored, and the same goes for everything on What Not To Wear.  Jeans, blazers, dresses - everything right down to plain t-shirts and camisoles.  He pointed out that historically, up until the last few generations, the vast majority of people either made their own clothing or had their clothing made by tailors and seamstresses.  You had your clothing made to accommodate the measurements of your individual body, and then you moved the fuck on.  Nothing on the show or in People magazine is off the rack and unaltered.  He said that what they do is ignore the actual size numbers on the tags, find something that fits an individual’s widest place, and then have it completely altered to fit.  That’s how celebrities have jeans that magically fit them all over, and the rest of us chumps can’t ever find a pair that doesn’t gape here or ride up or slouch down or have about four yards of extra fabric here and there.

I knew that having dresses and blazers altered was probably something they were doing, but to me, having alterations done generally means having my jeans hemmed and then simply living with the fact that I will always be adjusting my clothing while I’m wearing it because I have curves from here to ya-ya, some things don’t fit right, and the world is just unfair that way.  I didn’t think that having everything tailored was something that people did. 

It’s so obvious, I can’t believe I didn’t know this.  But no one ever told me.  I was told about bikini season and dieting and targeting your “problem areas” and avoiding horizontal stripes.  No one told me that Jennifer Aniston is out there wearing a bigger size of Ralph Lauren t-shirt and having it altered to fit her.

I sat there after I was told this story, and I really thought about how hard I have worked not to care about the number or the letter on the tag of my clothes, how hard I have tried to just love my body the way it is, and where I’ve succeeded and failed.  I thought about all the times I’ve stood in a fitting room and stared up at the lights and bit my lip so hard it bled, just to keep myself from crying about how nothing fits the way it’s supposed to.  No one told me that it wasn’t supposed to.  I guess I just didn’t know.  I was too busy thinking that I was the one that didn’t fit.

I thought about that, and about all the other girls and women out there whose proportions are “wrong,” who can’t find a good pair of work trousers, who can’t fill a sweater, who feel excluded and freakish and sad and frustrated because they have to go up a size, when really the size doesn’t mean anything and it never, ever did, and this is just another bullshit thing thrown in your path to make you feel shitty about yourself.

I thought about all of that, and then I thought that in elementary school, there should be a class for girls where they sit you down and tell you this stuff before you waste years of your life feeling like someone put you together wrong.

Today’s International Self-Injury Awareness Day, so I wanted to make something. All alternatives are taken from this post, go there for more!

here’s a ref for ppl who live in an abusive house ,,, i was taught this by a friend and its the easiest way to open doors quietly 

- twist a door handle as quickly as possible

- place a hand on the door

- open said door as quickly as possible to decrease the chance of the hinges squeaking 

- step outside of the door frame while applying all your weight onto your toes to quiet the noise of walking 

- put your hand on the door again and close it as far as you can without completely closing it

US Helplines:

Depression Hotline: 1-630-482-9696

Suicide Hotline: 1-800-784-8433

LifeLine: 1-800-273-8255

Trevor Project: 1-866-488-7386

Sexuality Support: 1-800-246-7743

Eating Disorders Hotline: 1-847-831-3438

Rape and Sexual Assault: 1-800-656-4673

Grief Support: 1-650-321-5272

Runaway: 1-800-843-5200, 1-800-843-5678, 1-800-621-4000

Exhale: After Abortion Hotline/Pro-Voice: 1-866-4394253

Child Abuse: 1-800-422-4453

UK Helplines:

Samaritans (for any problem): 08457909090 e-mail [email protected]

Childline (for anyone under 18 with any problem): 08001111

Mind infoline (mental health information): 0300 123 3393 e-mail: [email protected]

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b-eat eating disorder support: 0845 634 14 14 (only open Mon-Fri 10.30am-8.30pm and Saturday 1pm-4.30pm) e-mail: [email protected]

b-eat youthline (for under 25’s with eating disorders): 08456347650 (open Mon-Fri 4.30pm - 8.30pm, Saturday 1pm-4.30pm)

Cruse Bereavement Care: 08444779400 e-mail: [email protected]

Frank (information and advice on drugs): 0800776600

Drinkline: 0800 9178282

Rape Crisis England & Wales: 0808 802 9999 1(open 2 - 2.30pm 7 - 9.30pm) e-mail [email protected]

Rape Crisis Scotland: 08088 01 03 02 every day, 6pm to midnight

India Self Harm Hotline: 00 08001006614

India Suicide Helpline: 022-27546669

Kids Help Phone (Canada): 1-800-668-6868

FREE 24/7 suicide hotlines:

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love you all.

stay brave.

💔🧡💛💚💙💜

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don’t insult yourself. it seems like you’re looking to make them feel bad for you. it also makes it look like you’re playing victim. (ex: “i’m a shitty person.” “i should just die.” “i’m just stupid.”)

say, for example, “i feel like you dislike me” instead of “you dislike me.” you don’t actually know how they feel and being accusatory like that is a huge turn off.

when apologizing, make it genuine. don’t bring up how you feel and instead apologize for how you made the other person feel. how you feel can be brought up later.

remind people that you genuinely want to get better and tell them to call you out when you exhibit problematic behavior.