Sometimes you make poor decisions, or simply throw caution to the wind. Unfortunately, the consequences that follow may not always be favorable. However, every action requires a decision, which means to say that one bad decision does not mean that more are to follow because it's too far gone now. For me, I struggle with food and body image, so when I drunk order pizza one night, surely enough the next day I am riddled with regret, guilt, and shame. Usually one cheat leads to multiple cheats; black and white thinking comes in saying "it's all in or nothing at all". But this mentality only perpetuates futute poor decisions and subsequent negative self-talk and rumination. Instead, if I look at it from a view of self-compassion, I can accept my decisions while also being understanding that I am human, a fallible creature. Further, that that one decision started and ended then, and that my next decisions are not now predetermined due to that one decision. I can decide to control what I can, which is the future. And while it is certain that I will continue to make mistakes and poor judgments, I also have the power to learn from them and try ro make better decisions in the future. Maybe if I even do this consistently enough, my thought and behavior patterns which change, a perspective shift will occur, and I can become masterful at diminishing the negative and counterproductive mindset and behaviors that take me further from my goals. I am always searching for the answer to the question, why? Why do I make decisions that take me farther away from my goals? 1. The answer to this question is not necessary to make changes 2. Because I am a fallible creature that struggles with things, and sometimes throws caution to wind, sometimes to my benefit, and others to my detriment. But the point is that I can control my response to whatever action was made, so why choose negative? Why, in the face of evidence that this action was harmful, would I continue to engage in this again? Often we feel powerless to our demons, and to some extent we are, because we allow them to have our power. And even though it may be a struggle to assert yourself over these destructive voices, you ultimately reign supreme if you so choose. Yes, all these things take practice and time but they are achievable. Even in thinking about it, it is strengthening my awareness to future scenarios in which I may need to choose positive or negative. The moment of awareness determines everything.
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