sjw/anti sjw, honestly i cant agree with a label

[image description: a series of tweets from Cliff Jerrison @ pervocracy dated 24th of March. The tweets read:

if your child doesn’t come out until they’ve moved out and have a strong non-family support system

they didn’t JUST become trans ya dingdong

they just became safe from you

and I hope you feel every bit of what that means

and if your child starts HRT or gets a surgery date the day after they come out to you,

no, they didn’t start medical transition on day one

it’s day several hundred and you’re the last to know

(media should REALLY stop taking parents’ word on this particular point)

(sorry if this is a little unfair to parents of people who transitioned later in life for other reasons and do have a decent relationship, but if you are one of those you already know it instead of having a giant grudge around “my child didn’t even give me a CHANCE to stop them”)

All my love to the people replying to this with your stories, and – please don’t feel guilty. You do not owe your parents a trust they did not earn. You deserve, and did as a child, to be seen and loved as yourself. 💕 [heart emoji]

once again I must scream to the heavens that a lot of parents fucking suck and choosing not to come out to them until you near the point where you physically can’t hide your transition is not “suddenly becoming trans”, it is basic self-defense

“mom, I think I might be transgender, but I’m not sure, can you help me work through my feelings” - something that in some families is a reasonable request, and in others you might as well pour barbecue sauce down your shirt and climb in a tiger cage

like even sitting in an office for eight hours a day isn’t particularly pleasant (or healthy, as we are beginning to see) but when we’re talking about doing *actual work* for that same amount time it gets pretty fucking brutal

doing literally *anything* (even leisure activities) for eight hours straight tends to be less than enjoyable but when we’re talking about things like construction, landscaping, factory work, and hell, even foodservice and retail, eight hours is a fucking ETERNITY

Also, the ideal wording for a 911 call after someone has threatened to kill themselves is that the person themselves has announced their intention to kill themselves, or said they were going to kill themselves, something like that. “I suspect that they’re going to kill themself” is subjective and vague; “they have said that they are going to kill themself” is a factual statement that communicates useful information about their stated intentions, and if there’s any suspicion that the person is being dishonest about those intentions as a manipulation tactic, it preserves, documents, and centers their dishonesty and releases you from the responsibility for sorting out the person’s true intentions.

Not.

How.

Silhouettes.

Work.

I know you probably heard “oh, they need to be recognizable from every angle.”

That doesn’t mean every angle should be the same.

By taking income into account, it allows the impoverished able to still survive while paying any fines they may incur. And, ultimately, while $100,000 dollars would be noticeable to a millionaire, they would still get by. And, assuming the law is properly implemented, they would be paying the same equivalent of their yearly income that a poorer person would. That’s what makes it fair. They would be impacted the same way - but you are looking at the amount rather than the equation.

Person making 10 dollars an hour: “Fuck, I better slow down”

Millionaire driving a Jaguar: “LOL 400 DOLLARS, FUCK THAT, NYOOM”

Compared to a proportional ticket.

Person making 10 dollars an hour and must pay 400 dollar ticket: “Fuck, I better slow down.”