Transfeministworld Now

"transandrophobia has to exist as the transmisogyny but for trans men." "why cant we get umamusume but with anime horse boys :(" "trans women and trans men suffer differently but equally." "forcemasc." "but i want a blue version :((((((("

They talked about it to the events organizers and said event organizers essentially told my acquaintance that "this is a space for people to feel safe, and that they will prioritize those who state feeling uncomfortable in the presence of others over said others" and their heart fucking sank and they made a stink about how this was horrifying twerf and bioessentialist rhetoric. They were banned from the "trans inclusive swim times" and so was their transfem friend. Not because they were transmasculine, but specifically because they were not okay with the fact that some fuckass twerf in an entire group was given so much power as to manage to exclude any and all transfems from the "trans inclusive swim times"

Fun fact! Straight trans people are trans before we are straight and that fundamentally defines every single relationship we have (shockingly, just like trans men are trans before they are men!). If I don’t pass society sees me as a monster to be put down, I get to deal with both transphobia and homophobia just like any other trans person dating anyone. My own community has and will deny me or my partner(s) a place in said community. Also, it isn’t like my attraction to men is some standard thing. I didn’t come out as a trans woman and have people ask if I was straight, I came out as trans and had everyone (minus older trans people, for whom that had been the default in the community for decades in order to gain recognition and support from cishet doctors and therapists) around me express disgust at the idea of me being with a man. Hell, my own internalized fear of being seen as a gay man kept me from expressing my sexuality for the first year after I transitioned, and as I understand that’s pretty common for straight trans women (can’t speak to the opposite experience for trans men but I’m sure that’s also a thing) They didn’t see me as a woman attracted to men, they saw me as a freakish thing.

Like you’re being a standard transphobe here. Denying trans people the terms we might use to describe our unique axis of oppression under cishet society is wrong.

Tell me, quickly, if you are ever oppressed in a system solely based off of your straightness. Point to where the dominant forces of our society try to stymie people from being the "normal" sexuality. Don't reference your transness. If you're gonna go around claiming it's intersectional, these two things must exist independent of each other before they intersect. Are you oppressed for being straight? Or are you oppressed for being trans? How exactly is that different from all the other trans people before you? What kind of theory do you have to back it up? If you're white and trans, does transblancophobia exist, since evidently the axis of a privileged group combined with that of an oppressed one means they face a unique and intense oppression other trans people don't? Can you be oppressed specifically for being white? If you were not trans, how do you think the oppressive systems would respond to your straightness?

It's like this.

I pointed out a statistic and called for solidarity and a recognition of privilege. how anyone else reacts to that is their choice

and, for the record! a lot of people have actually reacted by going "damn, trans women really are in an especially vulnerable position huh? I'm gonna make sure to keep that in mind when interacting with the trans women in my community"

you dont have to agree with everything every other trans person says. hell you dont even have to like most of them.

the fact we are oppressed by cis people only paints the transphobia part of the picture. the fact that we are also oppressed by other trans people paints in the misogyny part of the picture

I know a lot of trans men want to be TMA reallllll bad because someone mistook them for a transfem once and called them a tranny, but the "Affected" in "TransMisogyny Affected" doesn't just mean you have been Affected by transmisogyny at some point--it means it affects you, inescapably, in uncountably many more ways than just random harassment, every minute of your damn life. and it worms into your brain and stays there, because you ARE the tranny they were talking about

I know a lot of trans men want to be TMA reallllll bad because someone mistook them for a transfem once and called them a tranny, but the "Affected" in "TransMisogyny Affected" doesn't just mean you have been Affected by transmisogyny at some point--it means it affects you, inescapably, in uncountably many more ways than just random harassment, every minute of your damn life. and it worms into your brain and stays there, because you ARE the tranny they were talking about

especially since it’s almost always in reaction to some random trans dude sending an ask like “im a boy is that okay 🥺” and then when she says no everyone’s like TRANSPHOBE!!!! like im sorry but trans women have zero obligation to validate your identity for you ?!