Sunny

Listen to me, and listen to me WELL. Either you understand me or you leave.

Si eres de Argentina y eres blanco, bajo ninguna circunstancia quiero que apliques tu falso liberalismo a alguien que sabe más que tú de un asunto.

If you are from Argentina and you are white, under no circumstances do I want you to apply your fake liberalism to someone who knows more than you on an issue.

Este comportamiento de panza al aire, llorando y rogando que la americanita negrita de Creando Personajes Negros con su horrible idioma colóno se calle, es un acto de ignorancia VOLUNTARIA de que ustedes no quieren escuchar las voces de NADIE Negro. Ice habla inglés, pero nosotros los Negros de Sudamérica llevamos SIGLOS llorando sangre y hablándoles CLARITO en español.

This belly-up behavior behavior, sobbing and begging that the little blackie girl from @creatingblackcharacters with her horrible colonizer language shuts up, is an act of WILLFUL ignorance showing you don’t wanna listen to the voices of ANYBODY Black. Ice speaks English, but we South American Black people have been weeping blood tears for CENTURIES, and speaking to you NICE AND CLEAR in Spanish.

Lo que les frustra a ustedes es que se los pilló la audiencia anti-racista en inglés, y por ser anti racistas, al fin están en contra de ustedes.

It's especially an open wound when this type of image comes from someone from the United States, when it is the U.S's government that was responsible for instating the dictatorship which actively hunted out especially leftists of color and that left long lasting effects in the country to this day, along with the fact that the current far right president is heavily backed by the U.S which invested a lot into their campaign.

All of Latin America is still under the hand of the global north, with our resources, land and politics being sold out to the companies of the united states, canada and european countries again and again, so the racism that occurs here is something that is sensitive for someone from the U.S to talk about when you still hold a position of privilege over us in that sense and your country continues to commit atrocities here.

I think it is important to talk about anti-Blackness in a worldwide context and I'm glad you strive to do that, though my concern is you contributing to the idea of Argentina being a more backwards and racist country than your own when we live in a context where yours expresses significant interest in political intervention in Latin America and that idea could be used as propaganda to forward it, in the idea of bringing progress

I hope my point is clear here, obviously I'm not denying that racism is very present there, it's just that the notion of Argentina being uniquely racist when there are so many countries that owned colonies and continue to benefit from the enslaving of Black people is unfair. I am just hoping to help more understanding and comprehension on both sides. Hope I worded everything well enough

No one is saying Argentina is uniquely racist, though. At least, I didn't say that. That's defensiveness on their end, and the racist responses given aren't aiding their cause. Brazil had whitening clauses, absolutely. Y'all also still have the world's largest African diaspora. What is exceptional about Argentina is not that it had these clauses, but that they were so effective in implementing them to the point where you get statistics that you have today.

At NO POINT, did I say that it's "more backwards than my own". That's that defensiveness, again, and you aren't even Argentinian. I JUST made a post saying how it would be hypocritical for me to tantrum over the current state of someone that isn't American pointing out that the American Indigenous population is 2%, in a place where it was once 100%. People don't get to say that people can't comment on a cultural genocide if they're not from the place being affected by said genocide! Otherwise we'd never bother discuss anything else happening anywhere in the world.

I can understand why it's annoying coming from someone who is from America. That doesn't mean that it shouldn't be talked about, especially if I am discussing it without being xenophobic. I have not- as far as I am aware- been as rude and disrespectful as the people responding have been towards me! Have you gone to their pages and "tried to meet in the middle with them"? Or is it clear that I am the problem for bringing it up?

It is NOT contributing to xenophobia to bring up a valid problem! I can discuss the US interventions in the region and STILL talk about how it is a problem that Argentina has a culture full of racism. Those are not two mutually exclusive things. I can discuss how the US is a world power that does horrible shit to everyone else in the world, and yet antiblackness here is as bad as its ever been. I can talk about the problem of US intervention in Japan, while still discussing how Japan itself has a history of colonization. I can discuss Israel doing horrible things in its region, and the region still having antiblackness present in its societies. There is no "you dont get to talk about this because there's ANOTHER PROBLEM!" You can discuss two things at once!

It also doesn't help that the people IN Latin America were ALSO talking about Argentina in this way. It's not just "gringos" talking about it! If your own neighbors have something to say about the way you carry yourself in the region, just maybe it's time to hear them out! And that's what was happening in the context of the world cup, where I was paying attention. Other people were talking about why they didn't want to support Argentina's team. Are y'all breathing down their necks as bad as you wanna breathe down mine?

Switching to Spanish because I assume you must be a fellow Latino:

Ser mestizo no te hace biracial. Se puede ser latino y ser biracial, igual que se puede ser negro y latino a la vez, igual que también hay gente que es latino e indigena, pero ser latino no te hace ninguna de esas cosas de forma automatica. Una persona que tenga herencia negra y latina se puede considerar biracial... pero la realidad es que la mayoria de los latinos no lo somos. Lo de "todos nosotros los latinos somos mestizos" es algo que los latinos que son racistas usan para negar que puedan ser racistas. Te puede ofender lo de "descendiente de europeos" o lo que sea, pero el porcentage de lo que ella esta hablando es que solo un 3% más o menos de la poblacion argentina es negra, indigena, o se identifica como tal. Podemos usar otras estadisticas incluso como, no se, esta que saque de Wikipedia, pero el resultado es más o menos el mismo: La mayoria de los argentinos son latinos blancos, y los negros son la minoria.

La razón de este post es que la persona que escribe el blog se ha visto afectada por la conducta racista hacia los negros que los hinchas argentinos han estado haciendo durante el Mundial, y de ahí la conversación se ha ido yendo al tema del Blanqueamento racial.

Disculpa... pero no me queda my claro que coño tiene que ver la Operación Cóndor con todo esto. Si, fue algo horrible y ojala tanto Kissinger como Pinochet se esten cocinando en el infierno... pero el post original esta hablando de racismo, y más especificamente racismo contra los negros (El racismo contra los indigenas también es importante, por supuesto, y por eso entiendo los dos primeros ejemplos que pusiste, pero ese no era el argumento principal del OP). ¿A que viene la mención del Plan Cóndor, excepto tal vez por puro "Esto lo hicieron los gringos y tu eres gringa, así que te callas"?

Let’s talk about full integration / final fusion where the parts are never erased and where being a whole-yet-multifaceted person is the goal of the fusion.

I don’t think I’ve ever seen anyone talk about this. Then again, I don’t think that there are many systems on Tumblr who are at this point in therapy with this particular goal.

Final fusion is usually thought of as the merging of all parts into one self. Before fusion, there are metaphorical walls of dissociation between you and other parts of your mind. Whichever part of the mind is active is perceived as “Me” while the other parts are perceived as “Not Me”. After fusion, those metaphorical walls disappear, allowing all parts of the mind to become “Me”.

In the past, the westernized approach to self often led to therapists pressuring fully fused systems to stop valuing (or even acknowledging) that they had parts. It makes sense to me why those older systems would often compare fusion to death. In the present day, the plurality of self is being valued more. Especially with therapeutic practices like internal family systems, it’s more normalized to acknowledge that everyone has multiple parts to themselves.

When I fused with all of my parts for the first time, we still felt each other. We were one person with full access to each other, but also somehow still parts. We were connected parts and a single person at the same exact time. I thought that maybe I did it wrong, or maybe I wasn’t fully fused yet, but my therapist (who is from a culture where having parts is more normalized) told me that this is just another way that final fusion can be experienced.

So, full integration / final fusion doesn’t mean that parts have to go away. Maybe that’s how some people want to still do it. If someone wants to recover like that, please let them. But this is a type of final fusion that I have never heard talked about before. 

I often felt alone with this experience. I felt like no one would believe me if I brought this to Tumblr, because people can get so aggressive about fusion. Something that can be so beautiful is often shoved aside and attacked. I think it’s important to talk about this, though. Hearing about this can probably really help some people.

I want to share some statements from former DID patients who have fully fused, from this professional study. These statements helped me feel less alone with my experience.

Rebecca:

“Today I feel I am fully aware and present both as the collective of parts and as any individual part. That is, even when a part of me is present, there is a collective awareness of the experience.”

Irene:

“It gradually dawned on me that I could get some relief if I paid enough attention to the voices and their pain. I understood they needed to be heard… . My integration is about being in control, being aware, being able to understand myself. Whenever I’m anxious and I can’t understand why, I turn inside and I ask: What’s going on? I usually get an answer that either helps me deal better with an external problem or guides me as to how to calm myself down… . There is a clear advantage to my situation: I have better access to my subconscious than most people do. I call this ability Creative Disintegration.”

Loraine:

“I think the best way to describe my integration process is as a progressive one. First, there were brief moments of integration; later on I was integrated during some of the time but wasn’t on other occasions. This developed into a period in which I was integrated most of the time and then, into full integration with only momentary periods of disintegration… . It is a process of forward and backward movement on the dissociation continuum, but the general trend is towards a decrease in dissociation… . once you’re integrated, you don’t feel fragmented anymore, but in emergency situations there is a proclivity to utilize the mechanism for brief periods of time to help with coping.”

Some notes from the study:

“It is noteworthy that integration was not always described in terms of a renunciation of dissociative capabilities. Rebecca, Loraine, and even more so, Irene described occasional post-integrational awareness of the old psychological entities that once formed the personality alters… .  Whereas Sara and Tina talked about their lives as ‘one,’ others were clearly continuing to utilize some of the advantages of the dissociative process. It is probable, though, that rather than representing ‘imperfect’ integrations this variance portrays the naturally occurring distribution of dissociative phenomena in the population. It is, perhaps, not only an unreasonable expectation but also an undesirable outcome to have a useful defense mechanism, naturally occurring in society, completely abolished in this particular population.”

The concept originated with Pamela and Peter Freyd who started the False Memory Syndrome Foundation (FMSF) after private accusations of Peter sexually abusing his daughter Jennifer were shared within the family. It has never been a concept backed by scientific process, but the FMSF was largely a pseudoscience political interest group hellbent on pushing the conspiracy theory of therapists generating "false memories" of experiencing child abuse in their patients. A way they did this was suing therapists and protecting abusers from their children in court by providing financial resources. The organization lasted from 1992 to 2012, but the long term impact still goes on today.

This ableism is rooted in the need for victims to be wrong about their abusers, and to protect abusers from their victims. This happened during the second wave of feminism's push to recognize incest as abuse and PTSD as impacting more than only those who went to war. The FMSF is largely to blame for the media at the time and now claiming that allegations of child abuse are dubious at best, and this seeps into newer organizations that push this same rhetoric such as Grey Faction (An offshoot of The Satanic Temple).

Sources:

https://news.isst-d.org/the-rise-and-fall-of-the-false-memory-syndrome-foundation/

https://www.jstor.org/stable/20834648

https://archive.org/details/sim_columbia-journalism-review_july-august-1997_36_2/mode/2up?q=FMSF

This is ableism and very important for others to know!!!

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and this frustrates me so fucking much. not because i want to deny the impacts of transphobic oppression--i'm a trans intersex person, trust me when i say i am intimately aware of transphobia. this frustrates me because there is no way we can achieve collective liberation if our "allies" fail to even engage with basic intersex topics and are seemingly unaware of the many forms of intersex oppression that we are already facing every fucking day. if you are not aware of compulsory dyadism, if you are not aware of interphobia, if you are not aware of the many different ways that intersex people are directly and often violently targeted--how the fuck do you think we're going to dismantle all of these systems of oppression?

if you were truly an intersex ally, you would already KNOW that this is not new, and would not be surprised--interphobia in sports has been going on for decades. you would know that we do have a community, an identity, a history--you would have already read/listened/watched to intersex resources that give you the background information you need for allyship. you would know that although there is a really distinct lack of resources and political education, that intersex people ARE developing a political understanding of ourselves and our oppression--Cripping Intersex by Celeste Orr and their framework of compulsory dyadism is one example of how we're theorizing our oppression. It's absolutely fucking wild to me how few people I've seen actually use words like "interphobia" "intersexism" "compulsory dyadism" or "intersex oppression"--endosex people are seemingly incapable of recognizing that there is already an entrenched system of oppression towards intersex people that violently reshapes our bodies, restricts our autonomy, and attempts to eradicate intersex through a variety of medical and legal means.

you cannot treat intersex people like an afterthought. not just because we're meaningful parts of your community and deserving of solidarity, but also because intersex oppression impacts everyone!!! especially trans community--trans people will not be free until intersex people are free, so much of transphobia is shaped by compulsory dyadism, the mythical sex binary, all these ideas of enforced "biological sex" that are just as fake as the gender binary.

it makes me absolutely fucking livid every time this shit happens because it becomes so abundantly clear to me how little the average endosex person knows about intersex issues and also how little the average endosex person cares about changing that. i don't know what to say to get you to care, to get you to change that, but we fucking need it to happen and i, personally, am tired of constantly being grateful when i meet an endosex person who knows the bare minimum. i think we have a right to expect better and to demand that if you're going to call yourself our ally, you actually fucking listen to us when we tell you what that means.

A lot of conservatives argue that "if we have to have sex education" (because God forbid), it shouldn't include queer concepts or intersex information because then more students will choose to become queer.

I'm not even going to get into all the problems that come from telling kids what they can and can't choose. That's a whole additional can of worms. Let me just give my basic response to those people's arguments, which are founded on the assumption that we chose to be queer.

I was born with an intersex body that didn't fit into the socially compulsory dyadic sex categories that we MADE UP. Yes, Karen, we fucking made them up to describe the two most common sexes we saw and were familiar with. But just because male and female are the most common sexes doesn't erase us intersex folk.

But even if I wasn't born intersex. Say I was just pansexual (my predominant sexual orientation).

Why would I actively choose to be a marginalized person? Someone who faces discrimination and dehumanization? Why would I choose to be someone my own parents used slurs to describe? Why would I choose to be afraid that my own country's government is going to kill me for who I am? Why would I ever choose to be this scared? This depressed? This traumatized? Why would anyone? 

I never received any education about queer theory until I was an adult and sought it out myself. I'm a human trafficking survivor, so my legal guardianship situation was different than most kids,' but I think a lot of the notes from my experience with queer education as a youth will still apply. My handlers did everything they could to prevent me from learning about queerness, going so far as to keep me out of school entirely. And yet, I have felt the way I now feel about my queer identity since I was very small—practically since I could walk. 

Sex, gender identity, and sexual orientation are as optional as having ADHD, red hair, or freckles, or a taste for spicy food. 

Education wouldn't have made me choose to be this way. I already was this way. Education would have given me the words I desperately needed to describe what I felt was an isolating experience. It might have introduced me to others like me so i didn't feel so unbearably alone. It might have given me resources to cope with the mental health challenges, abuse, and discrimination I inevitably faced. 

I didn't get to decide what education I received, but I still got to make up my mind what I thought about it. Children aren't robots you can program. They are people who deserve to understand their minds and bodies. Keeping knowledge about queerness away from children is not an effective "preventative" strategy, because you can't prevent queerness.

"if this is true for trans men the opposite is true for trans women" when it's... Really not as you know.

The sociopolitical class of "man" and the privileges alongside said class- is not afforded to any trans person.

Not closeted trans women, not stealth trans men, not nonbinary people.

Closeted trans women stifle their true selves to mental detriment. Any "privilege" they might access is conditional on staying closeted.

Stealth Trans men have to erase a part of their lives and uproot with no guarantee they won't be outed or have to out themselves through either giving documents about a name change if records are in their dead name, or through medical care depending on what they still need.

Its all conditional. It's miserable.

This all still hinges on the binary, so nonbinary peoples treatment is often varied. I also can't say I'm well versed on proper wording here so Ill leave it at that.

At the end of the day, if we live out and proud like we deserve to- were all within the third box of "tranny freak" because the current system only willingly acknowledges pericis manhood or womanhood. Though assimilation should still be an option if one deems it comfortable, our safety shouldn't rely on it.

Trans people are considered their socially imposed gender when that perception benefits violence against us, we're considered our true gender when that benefits violence against us, we're neither and some third thing when that benefits violence against us,

You may think you are not hurting anyone by pretending to be intersex to get GAC. But just because you don't personally witness the ways you're hurting people does not mean you aren't causing harm. And you are.

Every time someone gets GAC by pretending to be intersex, systemic intersexism in medicine gets reenforced. You are actively rewarding doctors for performing unnecessary nonconsensual surgeries and "treatments" on intersex people. This encourages them to do it more.