Growing Up and Loving Life

Happy 100th Birthday to the greatest soldier this world has ever seen 🇺🇸!

my dad told me he was taking me to see “the skeleton house”

and i took some pics for tumblr since yall love skeletons and whatnot and it got a bunch of notes but then it died down and i didnt see a single notification for months.

but today. october 1st. i get on tumblr

and suddenly i have like 10 notifs on my dash for this post

I saw a post about “Please stop hitting on women while they’re at work” and I 100% agree with it, which is why I’m making a separate post to say please don’t hit on people in general when they’re at work.

I work at a bakery and we have this sweet 16 about to turn 17 year old boy who works up front of our store. He used to work at the place next door to us and, while he was there, a girl he was working with developed a bit of a crush on him and asked him out.

He said no, that he has a girlfriend (which she already knew) and thought they could just continue on being friends and coworkers.

Since beginning work at our bakery she stops in every single day and talks to him for the entirety of her 30 minute long break. He has told her multiple times that he’s at work and can’t stand around and talk and when I asked him if he was uncomfortable his response was a very relieved “Oh, God, yes.” 

He’s tried to talk to one of the owners about it and his response was “You can talk to her after work” not realizing this poor boy is being made incredibly uncomfortable on a daily basis in the work place. 

When we told him he could come into the back to find something to do if he needed to he was so incredibly thankful and relieved. This girl spent twenty minutes standing up front waiting for him to come back after he said he had to go do something. Twenty minutes in the front of the store ever after being told he can’t talk to her. He doesn’t know what would happen if he says that he doesn’t want to talk to her and is genuinely nervous every time she walks in.

The only reprieve he gets is from the bakers in the back saying “I get it. Come back here” because the Owners don’t understand that he, a male coworker, can be made uncomfortable by these unwanted advancements being made toward him. 

Please.

This post isn’t made to undersell not hitting on women while they’re at work. I get that and that’s why this separate post exists.

Please.

Don’t hit on people when they’re at work.

I can't speak for all asexual people out there, but I know that for me, posts like this are the opposite of helpful.  I’m sure that there are homophobic and/or transphobic ace/aro people in the world/on tumblr.  There is always hatred.  There are transphobic gay and lesbian people.  To others, being bisexual means that you don’t belong in the LGBTQ community.  Hatred breeds hate.  To say that ace/aro people might not have a space in “your” community, doesn’t help the situation.  

I can't and won't compare my experiences to yours. I don't know your life story, but I will tell you a little bit about mine.  I’ve spent most of my life thinking that I was broken.  I’ve spent most of my life not knowing that there were other people like me.  For all that most representations of gay/lesbian people in popular culture are flawed (and they are), at least they exist.  I was in my early 20s before I realized that what I was feeling had a name.

From about the time puberty hit, I knew I was different.  My friends and other people at school started getting really interested in sex.  At first, I assumed that I was a late bloomer.  Then I started developing romantic feelings for a boy.  We were together for almost two years.  This boy wanted to have sex.  I never felt any interest in it.  I liked him, but sex did not appeal to me.  We broke up because I “couldn’t give him what he needed.”  Flash forward several years, I’ve had a few flirtations (with both men and women), but I’ve started another serious relationship.  This time I didn’t want, what I considered at the time to be a fault, to ruin the relationship.  I didn’t enjoy any of it, and regretted everything almost immediately.  That time I broke it off.  

One of my best friends once told me to my face that I was broken, that there was something wrong with me.  He believed that with his whole heart.  My heart, on the other hand, shattered that day.  My mother still thinks that someday I’ll meet the right guy, and I’ll magically be cured and want all the sex.  I can’t explain to her that won’t happen.  The rest of my family does not know, because how do you even begin to bring it up in conversation?

I want you to feel safe.  I want you to have a community that accepts you, but I want to be a part of that community without constantly feeling like I have to defend my right to be there. I do agree with you that we should all start listening to each other and working together.  There is not enough acceptance and love in this world.  

@avantgaye, please know that I write this with the upmost respect and love.  I hope it helps you to look at the situation from another’s perspective, as your blog has helped me.  

Best wishes,

And believe it or not, it gets better. Rosa’s also gives out sweatshirts to the homeless (or sells them to the general public) that has information on local soup kitchens and even computer training in the area, on an insert sewn inside the sweatshirt.

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      “Let me tell you something about those who get left behind. Because it’s hard. And that’s what you become, hard. But if there’s one thing I’ve learnt, it’s that I will never let her down. And I’ll protect them both until the end of my life. So whatever you want, I’m warning you, back off.”

It parallels Elton (who lost his mother) and even Bridget (who lost her daughter), who got involved with LINDA as a coping mechanism for being left behind.

It’s also got a great ending speech:

       ”you know, when you’re a kid, they tell you it’s all, grow up, get a job, get married, get a house, have a kid, and that’s it. But the truth is, the world is so much stranger than that. It’s so much darker, and so much madder. And so much better.”

A message that RTDs Doctor tries to convey in almost every episode.

Frequently dismissed by people because “lol monster not scary”. Maybe if he was a stone angel with some pointy teeth…

Space Pig: Clearly not meant to be taken seriously. Designed to be obviously not an alien to the audience, to show the gullibility of humans and their tendency to overreact and act violently when faced with the unknown, as the soldiers did when they shot him to death when he clearly showed no threat. Also, meant as a DISTRACTION for the overreacting humans so that the real alien threat could put the world on red alert and they could get ahold of nuclear weapons.

Scribble: A product of an emotionally disturbed child from an abusive home where her only living family member refuses to give her closure of the abusive part of her childhood.

Slitheen: Skinned human beings and wore their pelt. Intended to use nuclear weapons to destroy the planet to sell for profit. A clear symbol for the destructiveness of corporate greed. But like “lol it fart and green so it bad”, right?

Lazarus: Tried to play god and delay the inevitability of aging and death. It resulted in him becoming quite literally a monster who’s fears and selfishness made him disregard other’s lives. 

       ”It doesn’t work like that. Some people live more in twenty years than others do in eighty. It’s not the time that matters, it’s the person.”

Everything ends. That’s a common theme in Davies work. He’s informing us that death is inevitable but it doesn’t have to be horrible if we make the most of what we have.

Shrivelled Ten: The Master purposefully made the Doctor pathetic and weak to destroy the will of the people of earth. The Doctor is a symbol of hope, and if you weaken him then people give in to their fate.

Max Capricorn: He planned to wipe out London just to get revenge on members of the board. His inability to let go of his anger at the board is paralleled by his inability to let go of life, hence his existence as a cyborg at 200+ years of age. but “lol head on wheals, right?”

The Master: He’s completely physically unstable, because he planned his own resurrection as a means to escape the Doctor and cause the Doctor grief. His physical instability is just a visual manifestation of his emotional/mental instability. It’s symbolism Davies uses to get his point to the audience. 

Chloe Webber: Already addressed this a bit, but I’ll continue. Chloe was being possessed by another child who she felt kinship to, because she literally had no one. She had no way to communicate to other children because of the emotional distress her father caused, and her mother also had emotional distress which caused her to not be able to communicate with Chloe about her father. The means the Isolus uses to get to Chloe is hardly relevant when you put it into the perspective of WHY she targetted Chloe.

Tinkerten: This is admittedly a Deus Ex Machina, but it’s a decently executed one, because the story arc is intended to take a backseat to character and emotional one. From a narrative perspective, Martha’s journey is less about finding a solution to the Master and more about her coming in to her own person. Furthermore, the God Symbolism is used for a reason, so it can be deconstructed (as RTD tends to do), as the minute he survives, he’s punished for his hubris. His self-righteousness (forgiving the master) leads to the Master deciding to leave him alone in the universe, and later leads to Martha leaving, as he caused a HUGE rift in her family life.

RTD knew he was writing a kids show. He took serious stories and complex emotional arcs, and buried then under sixty feet of silly to get them accross to the young audience, as he should. Moffat, however, takes silly nonsensical stories and shallow emotional “arcs”, changes the chronological order, ads some scary monsters and flowery speeches, and thinks himself mature.

I read somewhere that RTD’s Doctor Who was a serious show pretending to be silly, and Moffat’s was a silly show pretending to be serious, and I think this all explains it well, and you’re a perfect example of the people who buy into it.

If you’re participating in Pride Month and you have the gall to post something along the lines of “Happy pride, cishet aces still aren’t LGBT!” or “Friendly reminder for pride month that cishet aces aren’t part of it” then kindly fuck off of Tumblr for the whole month.