and sincerely hope those they love, befriend, fuck and fall in love wont require it.

i used to date a man that ran a porn blog w thousands of followers for a decade and grew up visibly poor and said he "had no childhood trauma or emotional issues". and he was going to therapy for financial advice.

i know his therapist be in there like

i knew a girl who would talk for hours on a call her abt herself, and overtalk me when i go to speak. limited her to 30 mins and would hang up. instead of addressing it directly like an emotionally intelligent human she exploded w this made up narrative abt me.

shouldnt be hard to have a 2 way convo.

never talked to her abt the fact that im limiting the call time.

just did it.

she was HEATED.

and tbh? i laughed. cause youre goofy a** expected this to be a one way friendship for free? girl gtfo.

my mornings usually look like scrolling until i wake up but im making more conscious choices these days to make sure my brain moves deliberately.

And one of the things they would do would be to journal about how *every single* event in their life, esp the annoying and inconvenient things were for the best.

At first, that looked like it wasnt working at all.

Her income was inconsistent, she was living w family members and their children in close quarters - just doing her best but clearly not where she wanted to be.

Id say they did that for about 4 months, and after that summer its like their life took off. They had more projects, they could move out, they had time and money to hang out with their friends - just flourishing.