Desperately need people to know that “queerplatonic” is not a real thing
the implication that gay people are just so fucking weird that even our normal ass friendships are somehow "queer"
Desperately need people to know that “queerplatonic” is a real thing and a term coined by aromantic people in 2010 to describe a relationship between aro and arospec people that isn't romantic but may fulfil certain aspects of a romantic relationship, such as living together or raising children. A queerplatonic relationship is not just a friendship between gay people. I need people to do fucking research before posting shit like this.
you mean like having friends?
Whoever coined "queerplatonic" in 2010 maybe shouldn't have used a homophobic slur if they didn't want anyone associating the term with gay people. That's on them.
This is something ive noticed with the rise of “internet friends” and such
People have phased out the word acquaintance.
So people are calling what are truthfully their acquaintances their “friends”
This leads to people calling what are truthfully their friends their “best friends”
And then they dont have a word to describe what are truthfully their best friends!
Acquaintance-> someone who probably doesnt know much about you. You can hang out with them occasionally but you may not know their birthday or the like. You two like each other but there is no meaningful connection beyond enjoying each others company and whatever activities you do together.
Friend-> someone you trust along with hanging out with them and liking each other. You probably know their full name, their birthday, etc. you would let them watch your pet or child. You would let them in your home with no second thoughts. You confide in them regularly and trust them with your secrets.
Best friend-> someone that, along with all the qualities of friend listed above, you would want to spend more time with. You create time to be around them. You may want to live with them. You may want to raise children or animals with them. Whatever you’d like to do, you’d like to do it with them. Your top confidant. And of course you can have more than one best friend but it is rare as this kind of relationship takes regular nurturing and growth.
But using this guide, many people come to realize that they have few or no friends. Few or no people they would trust in their home or with their loved pets or children. So they begin to use friend for any person they dont hate and they lose sight of what a friend is, leading them to need a term for best friend since they believe that a “best friend” relationship cannot be that close when in fact it is that close by definition.
