for real?!?

a critique that always irks me a little is when people say a fictional gay male relationship is actually being written as a lesbian relationship, like first of all what does that even mean and second of all a good chunk of the time it seems like people are only saying that because the men are emotionally vulnerable with each other

“people pleasers are all manipulative self-martyring assholes who need to get a grip” people pleasing is a pattern of behaviour that develops as a fear response because of what has happened when you’ve failed to please others. and sure this can be detrimental to being able to have healthy relationships as an adult and it should be something that is slowly worked on over time. but let’s not pretend every people pleaser on the planet is doing it because they’re sick and twisted on purpose

I also think. in the broad scheme of things. a lot of people pleasers (in the trauma-response sense) know full well that those behaviours Cause Problems. I’ve consented to medical procedures I didn’t want or was confused about out of a fear of upsetting authority (doctors). I’ve consented to sex I didn’t want. I’ve ended up in situations where I’ve been burnt out and overworked and still can’t say ‘no’ to someone when they ask me to take on yet another responsibility. in none of those situations have I walked away going “yeah that was fine and healthy, no problems at all”. mostly I walk away going “jesus fuck I need to sort out this shit and snap out of it”. but it also so happens that moving on from a trauma response that develops over a lifetime.. well that doesn’t just happen overnight. and it can’t be snapped out of just by being told “hey so it actually makes other people mad at you when you fearfully try and please them all the time”. lol

do you remember when we could post boobs and and pussy and penis and balls and taint on this site and nobody had to show their license and registration to see it 😔 was that developmentally good for 13 year old me? no. but I genuinely believe it is better than living in a dystopian advertiser friendly state with no anonymity and I would pick opening my Tumblr and seeing untagged porn at 14 over this bullshit any day

Literally the definition of imperialism and classism. Doesn’t matter how many peasants you sacrifice as long as the most powerful piece is left standing

Proximity of bishops to the rulers promotes theocratic oppression

the horse is so fuckable

the thing is, if your younger self was a bigot or an abuser, u can't make people forgive you. but you still gotta forgive yourself, like that's non-negotiable, dude. that happens before u can even ask the question of earning forgiveness from anyone lese

oops, in your attempt to martyr yourself out of respect for your victims you accidentally sabotaged your own ability to conceptualize yourself as anything but a perpetual evildoer who is always one bad day away from hurting everyone you love, all but guaranteeing history to repeat itself. rookie mistake

I love browsing cover-up tattoo stuff when every once in a while there's someone asking "how do I cover up this unspeakably idiotic thing" and people are like "please do not cover that up, that's fucking amazing." You just have "shrimps is bugs" written on your leg now. That's your legacy.

Have you seen that one weasel tattoo that someone was asking coverup advice for? One of the best tattoos I've seen.

It's so fucking beautiful I'm in tears. Laughing so hard I'm crying but what difference is that really.