Haha, not that I know anything about Ghost Flavors

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Kicking off my Ko-fi shop with a few stickers featuring some of the lil guys I've drawn recently and over the years. Featuring a two-pack of Marketable Brainiacs, John Jones and the Martian, and Doctor Doom-asaurus!

These designs are for waterproof, durable vinyl stickers. They measure at roughly 2" (50.8mm), with die cut shapes and low amounts of residue when removed.

Please note that these are pre-order items and will take 3-4 weeks for delivery. Pre-order period ends 6/19, Only shipping to US currently. Shipping is 1USD in a plain white envelope reinforced with cardboard to prevent the stickers from bending.

Hm! So obviously a skeletal cat does not have fur, a tongue, or a stomach, so it could not develop a hairball in the usual sense. (I'm now imagining other cats attempting to groom it for social reasons and getting their tongues stuck to the bone, though, a la licking fossils.)

But it meant that we had absolutely no help or support when we were trying to work on the relationship in ways that *did* value my autonomy. There's basically no advice for people who want to try to make a relationship where there's a big desire gap work that isn't "well you should just have sex anyway" or "just break up lol". And that sucks!

Just after giving birth, during a family crisis, during a mental health episode, during health problems, during stressful periods at work

There are a lot of times when one person is horned up and raring to go and the other has no interest

And the solution often presented is that the person who is going through something should just put out because they are the problem instead of like...finding ways to engage in non sexual intimacy to reaffirm closeness

An asexual person is going to get 10x the amount of pressure and blame put on them and no advice on how non-sexual intimacy can help their relationships and if they get that at all it will only be to sell it as a bridge to sex they don't want.

I really hate the selling of intimacy as only equaling or facilitating sex. Intimacy comes in many forms and should be explored more by every couple as a non sexual act. And it the given importance it deserves. In fact I would argue if we as a society put more value on non sexual intimacy more relationships would be happier and healthier

And also you're right that while this post is specifically about the asexual experience, these problems affect everyone; desire gaps, whether temporary/circumstantial or ongoing, affect many if not most long-term relationships. And the solution needs to reaffirm bodily autonomy and compassion for everyone, not just carve out a specific exception for ace people. Too frequently I see people and institutions that, even when they're attempting to be affirming, essentially say "Well this is what a committed relationship Needs To Look Like . . . unless you already id as ace I guess" instead of allowing their general idea of what relationships can look like to expand and become less prescriptive.

Erika, referencing ebenezer scrooge: You, boy! What day is it?!

Don’t ever hug a lobster when you see one on the street,

For decorum is essential when a lobster you must greet.

You may comment on the weather, compliment his choice of hat,

But crustaceans like their space if one should stop them for a chat.

Don’t ever hug a lobster when you’re strolling down the coast,

Simply nod and give a greeting, or a handshake at the most,

For a lobster’s first priority is formal social graces,

And one seemes over-familiar if a lobster one embraces.

Don’t ever hug a lobster when you meet one in the sea,

For a lobster’s spines and chitin make it difficult, you see,

And he might become self-conscious if you bring that fact to light,