Fudgke

when you're disabled people also just assume you have no preferences. if you do have preferences then you're expected to put them aside for everyone else and keep them to yourself. because all disability assistance is being treated as a favour that is granted to you by the kind abled person. even if it's their job to help you. if you have to have a follow up appointment with your GP and the only available day is when you wanted to do something else, tough luck. if the appointment is at 7am and you wanted to sleep in? set an alarm. you're lucky to get an appointment anyway. if you need to have someone with you to go outside or go to events, their schedule always comes first. if they cancel you both have to cancel. if you can't go you have to make it up to them and to anyone else if there was an event you organised. if the only food available that caters to your dietary requirements are chips then you should be glad they have anything. asking for something that doesn't have all those ingredients is an imposition and you should be glad they had anything. it doesn't matter what cuisine you were feeling or if you actually like the offered food. like if you show up to an event and everyone else is having fresh cream cake from the bakery and you have some cake bar from the supermarket because that's the first free-from food they had you have to appreciate it. and like you can appreciate the fact that people go to the effort to get you food you can eat or go places with you that you can't go yourself. even if there are accommodations for you, the feasibility of those accommodations always always comes before your wants and preferences. and a disabled person has the same capacity to like and dislike things and want or not want certain things as anyone else. they just have to suck it up in order to have basic needs met, and that does get pretty exhausting

we're so used to extolling the virtues of anyone who is patient with a disabled person about their disabilities, and carefully trying to manage their patience so it doesn't run out that we completely overlook that disabled people can also become impatient about their own disabilities. except they're managing that on top of the feelings of everyone else around them just in case one too many inconvenient symptoms has the people in their life deciding that the care they need is more trouble than it's worth :/

there's something quite excruciating about seeing yourself make unhealthy choices you don't want to and deteriorate just because you lack the ability or opportunity to do anything else. like yes i see the path of knives before me. however the clear path is all the way up there and i don't have a ladder

if you're disabled and you have to cancel some plans because of disability, you're allowed to be upset by it. i think the notion of letting the other person down, and some people treating cancellations as your fault kinda makes it seem like the disabled person wanted to cancel. or that the disabled person wasn't managing their own time, energy, health, or money better and that's why they had to cancel. and it might have been plans you were really looking forward to. of course you're allowed to be upset or angry that something has stopped your activities. even if that thing is your own disability. especially if it's you own disability

there's that one friend who is always going through relentless bullshit but man when you're the disabled friend it's you. the relentless bullshit is onto you

personally, i don't view my crutches as an extension of my body. but i don't think i have to view them as literally a part of me in order to have people treat me and my ownership of these mobility aids with respect and for appropriate importance given to them considering how much i need them.

the "I don't look disabled? you don't look stupid but there you go" slogan you get on stickers or decals or shirts or whatever is genuinely the most ironic and nastiest bit of self-righteous ableism and it's completely unaware. quick, tell me what "looking stupid" actually looks like then.

i do think we should normalise being like. platonically enamoured with someone. perhaps i love and admire you dearly and there's nothing romantic about it

hey guys i understand that celebrity misuse of them makes it really tempting to slam the use of ozempic and similar drugs, but please remember when you're talking about them that there are appropriate uses for these drugs and some people genuinely need them

the problem with one shots is that they yearn to become 36 chapters

does anyone have $1k and a parasocial relationship with me that may tempt them to send it to me