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How do you stim?
Today I’m working on writing a post about stimming! I’m going to talk about my own experiences with stimming as well as share the information I found about it.Â
Writing this post has got me wondering something.Â
Neurodivergent fam, how do you stim? What situations cause you do it? And what does it feel like for you?
Share your stimming experiences below!
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Stop letting yourself wilt!
Hey everyone! So sorry I didn't post yesterday. I took a mental health day because I realized I was burning out.Â
I’ll be the first to admit I’m far from a perfect person. I have multiple flaws. One of them being selflessness. Which isn’t a bad thing on paper. In fact, it’s something that we should be encouraging more of in this day and age! I’m always looking to help out my family, friends and the people around me.Â
The problem is I have a tendency to be overly selfless because I struggle with establishing boundaries. I overestimate my limits and how much time I can give and end up biting off more than I can chew. And then I physically and mentally exhausting myself.Â
In this particular instance, I ended up saying “Yes” to far too many projects at once. I’ve been working on launching this blog and building a platform, while also trying to find funding to pursue grad school, while also pursuing multiple research projects at the request of my friends and family! So I ended up feeling exhausted, stressed and irritated and I couldn’t figure out why. Until Tuesday evening, it finally hit me - I was pushing myself too hard! I was stressing myself out trying to do a million things at once and getting mad when I couldn’t, and felt exhausted and stressed because I felt like I constantly needed to be working on something. I wasn’t allowing myself to rest or even catch my breath.Â
If you’re going to take anything away from this post, my fellow wildflowers, let it be this. Don’t give away so much of your nutrients to other flowers that you start to wilt. Always prioritize yourself and your needs first. It’s okay to say no. It’s okay to be a bit selfish.
Thank goodness for GPS and backup cams!
Very thankful today that we live in an age where GPS and backup cameras exist.
With my lack of direction and depth perception, my neurodivergent butt would be getting lost everyday and constantly backing up into stuff! I’d be an absolute menace on the road! I’d probably get lost just going down the street!
Neurodivergents are like wildflowers
Being neurodivergent in a neurotypical world is like being a wildflower planted among garden flowers. You’re tended to like a garden flower, but don’t thrive because you have different needs. So you’re left to figure out how to grow and bloom in a space you’re not built for and push through the “help” that harms and deliberate attacks from pests and weed killers. You want to reach out to other wildflowers when you’re struggling, but there’s no one else around. And the garden flowers can’t help you because you’re not like them. Well I say it’s high time the gardener starts seeing the wildflower as a different kind of flower, but a flower all the same.
Why I created The Wildflower Mind
Why did I start my blog? And why the name The Wildflower Mind? Read about it in my newest post!
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Finding true love as a young woman these days is hard. As an autistic woman? Even harder.
As a young woman, I know all too well how hard it is to find true love in today's world. Add being autistic on top of it, and it's a whole new level of difficulty! Here's my takes on being a neurodivergent woman looking for love.
My first love ended in a devastating heartbreak - here's how I put myself back together
Years ago, I thought I found the love of my life. And, being a hopeless romantic, I was over the moon with happiness. Only for him to brutally, unexpectedly break my heart at the worst possible time. The pain almost destroyed me and left me devastated for months. But I survived and am fully healed today. Here's how I did it.
Displaying your emotions should be part of healthy self-care, not childishness
Neurodivergent people feel emotions much more deeply and powerfully than neurotypicals. Yet we're expected to bottle them up for "maturity". Well I think that's absurd! Emotions are a normal part of life, and part of what makes us human. Expressing your emotions should be seen as a form of self-care and self-love, not weakness or immaturity. Especially when you're a neurodivergent who feels deeply. Read my thoughts on Substack.
Cities can be difficult for neurodivergents with audio sensitivity. But they can also be a neurodivergent's playground!
Cities are often described as a concrete jungle or an urban playground. But neurodivergents don't experience city life that way a neurotypical does. Cities can be a blessing and a curse for a neurodivergent. Overstimulating (especially for those with audio sensitivity) but also lots to see and do to occupy the neurodivergent mind. Read more to learn about my life as an autistic city dweller!
Love your past self, because that child still lives deep inside you. Honor their joy by remembering their happy moments. Forgive them for past mistakes, because they were still learning and doing the best they knew how. Use gentle words when they feel sad, scared or otherwise unhappy, because harsh words will only hurt them worse. Accept them and thank them for making you who you are.
Love your present self and present life, because you deserve it. Do one thing that makes you happy everyday. Find your hobbies. Prevent yourself from doomscrolling, and turn off your phone if it gets to be too much. Mindfully observe the world around you, and take note of all the good and beautiful things you see. Surround yourself with good people who care about you, and cut out anyone who drains your energy and steals your happiness. Keep a daily journal of things you’re grateful for and appreciate about yourself, no matter how small or silly it seems. Give yourself the things you wish you’d had growing up (care, compassion, patience, etc.). Take the time to breathe and feel whatever emotions are trapped inside you. Always remember that you are special, worthy, and deserving of everything you want and need.
Love your future self and dream big, because you can make those dreams your reality. Make plans and take steps forward everyday, even if they’re small. Work hard and remember that you can do difficult things. Don’t be afraid of ashamed to ask for help when you need it. Celebrate your wins and think your way around obstacles. See them as a challenge for you to overcome. Learn from your losses and then push yourself back up. Never let defeat have the last word. And never let anyone discourage you or make you give up. One day your future self will thank you.
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This is exactly how I feel! I used to desperately want to be neurotypical and hated myself for the parts I couldn’t mask. But I realized that being yourself is much healthier for you than pretending to be something you’re not and hating yourself when you can’t fit in a mold not made for you.
You’re not gonna be everyone’s cup of tea, and that’s okay. That doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with you, it just means that person isn’t your person. That’s on them. And if they’re a jerk about it, they just suck as a human! These kinds of people don’t deserve you, your time or energy. The right people will come to you.
YOU are the most important thing in your life. You matter so much more than trying to please someone who couldn’t care less about you. You have a unique story and voice that’s needs to be shared with the world. And somewhere out there, your story’s going to resonate with someone.
My fellow wildflowers, NEVER shrink yourself down to look “better” to the flower next to you. Your natural blooms are beautiful.
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