Shadow

No,,,,,,, we are not!

It really baffles me how some people simply cannot grasp that being able to present to society as heterosexual IS, infact, a priviledge. Lesbians and gay men do not have the ability to happily pursue a relationship with a person of the opposite sex; the only time you'll a lesbian or a gay man with the opposite sex, is either in cases such as lavendar marriages or forced conforminity within society, both of these cases leading to unfulfilment due to the inability to have a relationship with a person of the same sex. This isn't the case for bisexuals of either gender. They have the ability to be attracted to persons of both the opposite and the same sex, giving them an advantage in an otherwise homophobic society. This isn't to say that bisexuals are not discriminated against, nor that they don't face oppression, but to acknowledge the fact that a bisexual is capable of feeling attraction to the opposite sex, and thus being able to happily live out their lives while presenting as straight to the outside world, which IS a priviledge in a world where you are shunned, oppressed, discriminated against, and even murdered, for being attracted to the same sex. Bisexuals being able to choose between dating a man or a woman is a massive advantage, as they can avoid said prejudice by simply choosing to present straight. The fact that bisexuals are forced to choose between discrimination or acceptance, though, IS also discrimination. Society will often persuade bisexuals to pursue het relationships by rewarding their conformity with acceptance, and punish them for pursuing a gay relationship by shunning them, leaving most bisexuals with a situation where they must choose to be het-partnered to get through the world "fairly", especially in highly homophobic countries where their life would be on the life otherwise. But that choice in itself is a priviledge, a priviledge that homosexuals simply do not have, and recognising that isn't "biphobia" or bigoted, it's simply a fact of life and that fact does not make bisexual suffering disappear.

Don't men also do this to rape crisis hotline workers and DV hotline workers?

I think the reason why so many struggling people balk at "it gets better" is because of how often that statement plays a role in dismissal instead of being followed by actual support. "It gets better!!! (so we don't actually have to do anything to tangibly help you improve your current situation)"

free my girl she did all that and should’ve fucking done even more