Bravely Generic

Shit. Um. I'll be honest, I can't think of a positive and universal generalization of men. Or women for that matter. Like I can think of examples of individuals of each having good qualities. But none of those qualities are gender locked or even standard within the gender. My mum is hard working and kind. But so is my Dad. My Dad can be a hothead. But so can my mum. My best friend is cool as fuck. And also gender fluid and his cool as fuck status does not shift with his gender identity. I had bullies of both genders growing up and one was not markedly worse or better than the other. I can think of singers male and female who I listen to regularly.

The closest thing I've ever posted would be some spicy Sunday writing, but even then it was more suggestive than explicit. It was basically just yearning posts and romance, nothing I'd personally consider outright NSFW, plus it was even on the transbian subreddit.

What's even stranger is that I don't really post on r/Trans in the first place. Lately I've only been posting very sporadically on Transbians, maybe once or twice a month at most, so getting hit with a permanent ban completely out of nowhere has left me genuinely confused.

Hello, my name is World's Most Privileged Trans Man, and I have some things to say about transandrophobia.

First of all, you trenders- I mean transandrobros, might not know this, but testosterone is soooo much more powerful than estrogen, so when you start T you pass instantly. I know this, because when I started T at 12 years old, I looked like all the other boys in my class, right after my first shot!

Also, abortion bans don't even affect us, because you can just get a hysterectomy. You should have been trying to get one anyway, since getting pregnant is only for women. If your insurance denies you, just have your parents pay for it like mine did!

I make a lot of money at my job where my colleagues make sexist jokes like I'm "one of the guys", and therefore so do you. I have never felt unsafe with a doctor or police officer, and therefore neither have you. I refuse to believe that anyone could have a different experience than me so they are just being a whiny baby, and I refuse to admit that being upper middle class, white, able bodied, and cis passing, might have a little more baring on my blissfully privileged life, rather than my True Male Soul

*Takes off my sarcastic voice*

The trans woman got they/themed

Wait? Is it even a trans woman? The picture makes it really unclear

(The replies)

"Hey, I'm a man and this hurt me worse than anything else in the world. My wife left me this morning and this post was my final straw. I'm standing in my bathtub right now with a pistol in my mouth and it's your fault you bitch. You bitch. You cunt bitch"

"Aaaaand this right here is why everyone hates lesbians."

"What about trans men????? You're saying you hate trans men??? You're saying you want all trans men to kill themselves??????????"

Literally wanting trans men & mascs to accept transphobia, harrassment, fetishisation and bullying from cis men online on the OFF CHANCE that they could potentially be trans women.

This goes for all my posts and my entire page I don't want to fucking hear it and you are not derailing these important conversations to centre trans women, yet again

- Telling us we deserve to get raped or engaging in other disgusting rape culture rhetoric like telling us we're too ugly to get raped

- Misgendering us

- Fantasising about all the ways of killing us/talking about how much they want to kill us and want us dead

- Using slurs against us which inherently misgender us

- Using slurs against us which infantilise us and infantilising us generally

- Telling us to kill ourselves

These are just some of the main horrible things trans femmes and women have been saying about us and I'm not even getting into the amount of abuse trans women and femmes like this are getting away with in community offline or the amount of general insults, microaggressions and erasure being thrown at our community

In contrast and as a proud transandrobro I would know, I have never seen trans mascs or men talking about killing trans women, telling trans women they deserve to be raped or killed, fantasising about killing trans women, telling trans women to kill themselves or misgendering trans women and we certainly haven't made up a bunch of misgendering slurs for them

I personally have never done any of these things and on the off chance there are trans mascs and men saying and doing this shit it is nowhere NEAR the numbers of trans women and femmes doing it and yet I say that trans women and femmes are entitled to center themselves in community and I'm the one who needs to be called in and tone policed for generalising? Do you people seriously think this is a fucking chill or normal way to react to people airing grievances about being transphobically abused en masse by other trans people??

There are transandrophobic trans women. I've pissed off enough of them in my time. And I will keep pissing them off, because pissing off bigots like them and you is fun.

My core point, besides bigotry being lame and bigots being losers of course, is that negative overgeneralisations do not combat negative overgeneralisations or indeed help anyone who isn't a whinging bigot. If you get mugged by a black man and think that makes it okay to be racist, you're a loser. If you hear black men complaining about the opression they face, and complain about how they're centering themselves and black women actually have it worse, you're a fucking loser and possibly an actively malicious propagandist on top of that.

and they removed the trans part and went: "no, women don't have to worry about being seen as predatory when interacting with people, either you are lying about that or you are not really a woman"

you would rightfully be pissed off

i actually fuck with that guy way more than I fuck with most of you freaks. He would not approve of your behavior at all, I think, actually...

Here's what I said about him a while back

“It’s easier for trans men to pass/be stealth!!”

Actually it’s easier for people with very specific bodies (white, thin, average height) with large incomes and supportive families to transition medically in a way which is more likely to conform to strict ideas of ‘man’ and ‘woman’

I swear every time I see someone try to make the argument for one of us having it better they exclusively either cite celebrities (again, see white, rich, thin) or assume that the people they know irl are representative of every trans person.

It also begs the point that YOU DO NOT KNOW IF SOMEONE IS STEALTH UNLESS THEY TELL YOU. No one actually knows how many trans people successfully live as stealth.

Most of the passing trans people I know personally are women, but most of the trans people I know to be stealth are men. I also know far more trans women than I do trans men. Not to ignore the fact that these arguments completely erase non binary people who are pressured to just pick a binary gender to ‘pass’ as because it is functionally impossible to be a ‘stealth’ non binary person.

Stop infantilizing them. [Oops, that's transandrophobia!]

- sincerely, a tfemme sister.

Sister, I'm coming up on 40, I'm allowed to point out when men who are half my age are acting like immature boys.

Plus, not all of the people I'm referring to are men, some are masc, and I don't want to misgender them.

"boys" correctly describes the group that I'm referring to.

When I was a teen and having some growing pains in my back, I used to hope it meant something, that I was going to sprout wings and become special

Now I feel special but the pain hasn't and won't gone away