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BNWO Friday - Snowbunny Beauty

As a white girl who have declared herself openly as a snowbunny, I often get the question whether or not I support the "say no to whiteboys movement". To me this is definitely not a simple question to answer as I both support women saying "no to whiteboys" but support women who are happy being with whiteboys.

First of all I definitely 100% acknowledge this movement to be happening where white women reject and deny white boys and date black men. I'm one of these women and I experience more and more girls my age and girls who are younger than me saying no to whiteboys. I think its a beautiful thing that women are finally standing their ground and follwing their hearts and denying whiteboys when they are exclusively attracted to black men.

I have been in a few relationships with whiteboys when I was younger and looking back I really had to compromise with my feelings to be with a whiteboy and even though I was miserable, I did it to "fit in" and because I was afraid of being labeled a slut if I came out as a girl who were attracted to black men. Fortunately this has changed these past years where its now fully acceptable and maybe even a symbol of status (at least among white women) for a white girl to date a black man. I see more and more white women (some of my closest girlfriends included) saying no to whiteboys and being happy about this choice and dating black men exclusively. As this is what makes them (and me) happy I fully support this choice and we finally live in a time where women get to choose without being shamed or wrongly labelled. I know many white men struggle to accept this happening and struggle to accept white women dating black men exclusively and permanently saying "no to whiteboys", but thats really just too bad. White men HAVE to accept and HAVE to cope with more and more of us girls going black and seeing the "say no to whiteboys" movement spreading at an increasingly faster rate, because this is beyond their power and this isn't about them! I understand how it may be heartbreaking and difficult for a whiteboy seeing their crush dating a black man and maybe even starting her family with a black man, but that's just how it is and that's how it used to be for both white women and black men in the past! Today many of us white girls choose black men as our life partners and this is just how things are. So do I support the "say no to whiteboys" movement? YES I do! When women freely choose to date black men exclusively! Do I support it as something every single white women should do and something political or structural? Of course not! But more and more of us choose black men and reject white boys as our partners and that's a good thing! Women should choose the partner they are attracted to!