The Center for Sexual Pleasure & Health

Happy Bisexual Awareness Week! 💗💜💙 You are whole and perfect as you are 💗💜💙  Check out all the charts here: https://www.buzzfeed.com/annaborges/pie-chart-bi-chart

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Someone asked us:

Does the clitoris get hard during sex?

Yep! Your clitoris can get hard and swollen when you’re turned on. That can happen during sex, masturbation, or even just from seeing or hearing something sexy.

The clitoris is a pretty interesting part of the body. Basically it’s only known purpose is to make you feel awesome. The tip of the clitoris is located at the top of your vulva (where your inner lips meet) and is covered by a little hood. The outside part of the clit can be smaller than a pea, or as big a thumb.

This outside part is just the beginning of the clitoris though. It extends inside your body, back and down on both sides of the vagina. This part, called the shaft and crura (roots and legs), is about 5 inches long.

Learn more about sexual and reproductive anatomy.

You’re still a man if you cry.

You’re still a man if you love honestly and earnestly.

You’re still a man if you’re affectionate with your family, partners, friends, and children.

You’re still a man if you’re any flavour of GBT+/queer/trans.

You’re still a man if you struggle with some things and totally can’t figure other things out.

You’re still a man if you wear dresses, or skirts, or makeup.

You’re still a man regardless of your favourite colour.

You’re still a man regardless of your favourite hobby (sports, art, science, etc).

You’re still a man regardless of your relationship status.

You’re still a man regardless of how often you’ve had sex, regardless of whether you have sex now.

You’re still a man if you’re kind, sweet, compassion, empathetic, sympathetic.

You’re still a man if you have mental illness or are neurodivergent in any way.

You’re still a man if you’re disabled or chronically ill in any other way.

You’re still a man if you need medicine, counseling, therapy, or treatment of any kind.

You’re still a man regardless of your occupation.

You’re still a man if you break up with someone, if you divorce someone, if your heart gets broken.

You’re still a man if you need advice or help.

You’re still a man regardless of your body type.

You’re still a man if you take your partner’s last name, if your partner is the “breadwinner”, if you’re the stay-at-home parent.

You’re still a man if you’ve been a victim of any kind of abuse.

Bisexual people in relationships with folks of the other gender are not only themselves still bisexual (I’m really ashamed of a bunch of all that this shit even needs to be said, like c’mon), but their relationships are queer.

Yes, I just said that straight people can be involved in queer relationships without they themselves being queer.

The reason for this is simple: folks who are in relationships with queer people will always have to deal with their partner’s marginalization impacting their relationship. Always. Even if their bisexual partner chooses to be entirely stealth about their queerness (and that’s their right, by gods, fight me about it), their relationship is still impacted by that very choice existing. It’s a facet heterosexual relationships never have to negotiate.

Frankly, bisexual folks have to deal with active marginalization from multiple angles: heterocentrist and homocentrist. And in case I actually have to say this aloud? We should not be fucking marginalizing our own, y’all. That makes you a bad person, and you should feel bad.

To be an ally is to be constantly engaged in the discussion of issues that people of color face, but which you don’t face yourself.

Though you may not feel like the word “oppressor” describes you, you are in the position of authority, advantage, and oppression.

Decisions about your health care belong to you and your doctors, not politicians and judges. This shouldn’t be up for debate. Abortion is basic health care — it’s incredibly common, and it’s one of the safest medical procedures in the United States now that it’s legal.