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Are you okay with people being exclusively same sex attracted?
You mean being transphobic?
Support for the research into, and development of, a bomb that rapes all transmascs is not, in and of itself, general support for the use of such a device. The main purpose of the bomb that rapes all transmascs is in its deterrent effect, that is, that it presents a credible threat of retaliatory violence. However, it is true that this deterrence is only maintained insofar as the credibility of its threat is substantiated. The deterrent effect is predicated on real willingness on the part of ourselves to utilise the device against the enemy. We are against it, but we are not afraid of it. If we are pushed, we will push back. So much on the matter.
I genuinely do believe that if you find a certain kind of genitalia disgusting then you should keep that to your fucking self. I'm done reading/listening to how disgusting you think dick or vagina is especially when you're saying it to trans people. Yes, even if you're trans yourself. STFU. Keep that body shaming shit to yourself. (Not to mention a lot of you are also very intersexist about it as well.)
there was one super rapey cotton ceiling post i saw once that was so heinous that like i feel like the need to go find it and make everyone look at it to prove that we are not making it up like they really do say shit like that.
sorry for long post but I found it!!!
it just makes me feel crazy that they will deny that anyone has ever perpetuated this cotton ceiling rhetoric when they make posts like this acting like a woman's lack of attraction to them is a problem to be solved. It doesn't matter why a woman doesn't want to fuck you!!! Coming at her like it's some type of debate and trying to convince her that she's a bad person for not having sex with you is sex pest behavior!!!
Here's another one I found while looking for this one where the same user reblogged that conflates allyship with dating and hookups. Maybe that's why women don't want to be your allies anymore!!!!!!
And here's another one where they're just for real just lying and saying we're the ones who are loudly announcing totally unprompted that we don't want to fuck you!!! No!!! You people will pester us about whether or not we'd theoretically fuck you and then you call us hysterical terfs if we say no!!!! Or you'll hear some random women you don't even know mention that she's only into vagina and you'll take that as a personal attack for some reason because you feel completely fucking entitled to a random woman's body!!!!!
like it reminds me of the scenario in this comic where this person gets offended that a female celebrity that doesn't know they exist would not theoretically fuck them. Like you realize that's a completely normal situation for lesbians since most female celebrities being straight??? who the fuck caresssssssss
Yeah I canāt imagine why he never hears lesbians say theyāre grossed out by vulvas. Weird. I canāt think of a possible reason that lesbians donāt say that. Oh well.

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Original event flyer and conference details for No More Apologies, where the āOvercoming The Cotton Ceilingā workshop was hosted, January 21 2012:
āHow to negotiate consent for the most amount of pleasureā
Tweets/FB comments from organizers leading up to, and after, the event:
Statement from Planned Parenthood Toronto, after they received a ton of criticism and negative feedback for hosting the event:
They can deny it and try to rewrite it as many times as they want but we have the receipts. This has been about sexual coercion from the very beginning.
terfs getting all up in arms about their right to not date or fuck trans people is so crazy to me because like girl. you literally don't have to. no one is trying to force you to. if anyone IS trying to pressure you into dating or sleeping with someone you are correct that is bad!! you never have to date anyone you don't want to!! however have you considered the issue is less that you won't date/sleep with trans people and more that you've felt the urge to declare loudly that you won't sleep with trans people because you think they're icky and you don't like them. maybe people take issue with this not because they think you're obligated to fuck a trans person but rather because you're being a dick about it. like you can literally just not date anyone you don't want to it doesn't have to be a big announcement. like I might not date a business major but that doesn't mean I'm gonna tell every business major I see that I think they're unfuckable. no one is trying to force you to date trans people just literally don't be a douche about it and you're fine!! you've invented this entire problem!!
also i know there's a lot of jokes in transfem superiority/supremacy kink stuff about how "to be a good ally to trans women you should become her on-demand cumdump", but like in all seriousness letting trans women know that you find them attractive and sexually desirable, not just despite being trans, but explicitly because of it, is actually a very important thing to do to help support transfems
ohhhhh this one is cheeky! "when we create and share [profoundly graphically misogynistic hate speech] to pretend that the ONLY good thing you can do for MOST MARGINALIZED COMUNITY EVER ! is to [give us unfettered sexual access to yourself to a point where you're not even a human being in your own right], it's totally just a funny little tee-hee joke it is sooooo unserious! we don't mean it at all :p But for real though if you actually care about our continued survival and well-being as a marginalized group you should probably consider your role as an object of our sexual desire, define your allyship in relation to the fact that we sexually desire you, and act accordingly by investing conscious effort into letting us know whenever you are sexually available. it's just a funny little joke tho it's fiction!!! But you better freaking lock in."
I really want to be attracted to penises so I can be a better person. I've tried meditation, hypnosis, and reading media written by trans people, but penises still seem unpleasant. Any advice?
You canāt force yourself to be attracted to penises, anon. Just make sure that when youāre talking about trans people, you donāt equate them with their genitalia - for example, by saying,Ā āI would never date a trans woman, because I donāt like penises.ā Equating trans people with their genitals is wrong because 1) it perpetuates the cultural fixation on our body parts, and this contributes to anti-trans violence; and 2) you donāt know what a personās genitals are until you ask. Some trans women have penises; some donāt. Thatās why itās transphobic to say that you just arenāt attracted to trans women - because itās making a blanket assumption about an oppressed group of people.Ā
Bottom line: try to avoid making statements about other people that imply something that may or may not be true. And know that itās okay to simply state:Ā āIām not attracted to people with penises.ā Makes sense?
This is a great response but I want to correct one thing and also add to it. The problem with āIām not attracted to people with penisesā is that attraction isnāt usually based on genitals. Of course they play a part in sex and sexual attraction, but attraction generally begins before we can even know for sure what genitals the person weāre attracted to has.Ā
Anon, if you see a woman on the bus who youāre attracted to, you canāt know for sure what genitalia she actually has, and your attraction to her wonāt (or at least shouldnāt) become completely void if you get to know her and she tells you she has a penis. If you were attracted to her face when you were first attracted to her, she still has the same face that she had before you knew what her genitals were, so it wouldnāt make sense for you to suddenly have no attraction to her face. The same goes for any other aspect of a person that you might be attracted to, including personality, which is super important.Ā
Essentially, genitals do not define a person, so you can be attracted to a person without being attracted to their genitals. There are so many aspects to every human being (even physical aspects) that have nothing to do with what genitals they have. You can date trans women - even trans women who havenāt gotten genital surgeryĀ - and not be attracted to penises. And you wonāt be forced to interact with their genitals unless you actually want to.
This is coming from a lesbian who is currently dating a trans woman and has dated a couple others in the past, and is repulsed by penises. None of the trans women Iāve dated have forced me to interact with their genitals in any way, and itās common for trans women not to even want their sexual partners to interact with their genitals in any way. The first person I had sex with was a trans girl, and she interacted with my genitals, but I never interacted directly with hers. My current (long-distance) girlfriend and I have shared orgasms through skype and sheās seen my genitals, but I havenāt seen hers.*
That being said, I do want to give the anon some tips related to the question they were actually asking, based on my own experience of being in the process of trying to warm myself up to the genitals of trans girlfriends (past and present). If youāre not currently either dating a trans woman or wanting to date a specific trans woman youāre attracted to, then you donāt have to worry about this, and you should follow Marsās advice of just not trying to be attracted to penises (since you arenāt and thatās ok). If you areĀ dating a trans woman and want to pleasure her but arenāt attracted to her genitals, here are some tips (for cis women, but if youāre a cis man or transmasculine person a lot of these can apply as well):
1. Donāt think of it as a penis. Many trans women (who havenāt gotten genital surgery) actually think of their own genitals as a vulva, with theĀ āpenisā actually being a clit and theĀ āscrotumā actually being labia. Itās is pretty accurate considering that this was literally true even by cissexist biological essentiallist standards while she was in the womb, and that having been on HRT for even just a few weeks, trans womenās genitals actually behave more like cis womenās clits than cis menās penises. So itās a clit, not a penis. (Itās actually really important when talking about trans womenās genitals to not refer to them universally as penises even when just talking about trans women who havenāt had genital surgery, because for some trans women, referring to their genitals as aĀ āpenisā can invoke extreme dysphoria.) Itās also worth nothing that trans menās genitals start behaving more like cis menās penises than cis womenās clitorises after theyāve been on HRT for a while, so if youāre with a trans man and feel weird about his genitals, you can think of his āclitā as a cock.
2. Make sure your girlfriend knows youāre attracted to her, even if youāre not attracted to her genitals. Think her face and overall appearance is beautiful? Tell her that. Think she looks sexy when sheās wearing lingerie for you? Tell her that. Think her face looks sexy when sheās receiving some sort of sexual pleasure (like nipple stimulation, or masturbation while youāre on top of her and looking at her face)? Tell her she looks sexy. As I said before, there are so many aspects (even physical ones) of a person that can be beautiful even if that personās genitals arenāt. Make sure your girlfriend knows that you really do find her attractive, physically as well as mentally and emotionally.
*3. Take your time. Iād advise touching before seeing, and touching through clothing before under clothing. Rubbing your crotch against hers while both fully clothed, or both in just underwear, can be really wonderful (Iāve only done it fully clothed so farĀ with an ex). While rubbing, just think about how good it feels for you (and her), instead of thinking about what youāre rubbing your clit against. Months later with the same ex, I finally felt ready to feel her crotch with my hands, but not go under her underwear. She told me informatively when I inquired about it that she probably wouldnāt be able to orgasm unless I went under her underwear, but she didnāt force or coerce me into doing it, and it probably would have been another couple months before I would have felt ready (even though at that point in our relationship she had become extremely good at fingering me, and sheād also eaten me out).Ā If your girlfriend coerces (or forces) you to do anything you donāt want to do, or shows you her genitals before you say youāre ready to see them, thatās bad, but most trans girls are decent human beings who wouldnāt do that to someone they care about. With my current long-distance girlfriend, I actually once did ask if I could see her genitals, and we decided the best way to do it was to have her take photos and e-mail them to me so I would be in total control of whether, and for how long, I would see them. She reminded me plenty of times that I did not have to open the e-mail if I did not want to, and I could even delete it. I did end up being able to muster the confidence to open the e-mail, but I only looked at two of the six or so photos, and I could only look at them for a second or less due to the repulsion I still feel towards genitals like hers. I might try looking at it again sometime and seeing if I can look at any of the photos for longer, or I might just go with the touching-through-clothing-first strategy after she arrives here (btw you can help us out with that). Small steps are still steps that you should feel proud of yourself for, and even effort is something you should feel proud of yourself for with regards to warming up to something that you naturally feel repulsed about. (Btw anon, this includes the meditation and hynosis that youāve tried.) It can take months or even years, and thatās okay. Itās also worth noting that you might never actually fully feel ready to interact with her genitals, and your repulsion might not fully go away. Itās perfectly legitimate to decide to just pleasure her even though you feel uncomfortable doing it because of her genitals (as long as itās a non-coerced decision that you made), and itās also perfectly okay to go through your relationship without ever interacting with her genitals unless she gets genital surgery. (If you do the latter you might want to talk to her about maybe having some sort of poly-relationship where someone else will give her the pleasure she craves, and it would also be perfectly legitimate for her to decide to break up with you if she wants a monogamous relationship where her partner gives her genital stimulation. As stated before, however, some trans women donāt actually want to receive any genital stimulation from sexual partners, so it could easily work out if youāre dating one with that preference.) Itās also worth mentioning that just like how it wouldnāt be okay for her to force or coerce you to see or touch her genitals, itās not ok for you to force or coerce her into getting genital surgery if sheās not absolutely and independently sure that she wants it. (As a side note to that, stating a preference is not the same asĀ coercion. Both of my trans exes as well as my current girlfriend have told me that they would like for me to touch their genitals, but none of them have coerced me into doing it. They all made it clear that whether-or-not I do it is entirely up to me.)
4. There are plenty of non-traditional ways you can have sex and interact with her genitals. Hereās one.Ā Hereās another (and hereās a slightly more descriptive guide to it). That last link was from a whole zine (written by trans women) called āFucking Trans Womenā, which is available online for $5. Also, here are some suggestions for pleasuring her even if youāre not comfortable with touching her genitals at all. Basically, sex with your trans girlfriend does not have to be like sex with a cis guy in any way, even if you give her genital stimulation.
That was really long but I hope itās helpful to at least someone who reads it. If you take only one thing away from this, I hope itās that trans women are women so if youāre attracted to women you should be open to dating trans women, even if you donāt like penises.
This is what these idiots are preaching⦠did you guys take notes from my abusive ex? If someone coerces, pressures or forces you to do anything sexual itās not just ābad,ā itās sexual assault or rape and you should run the fuck away because it only goes downhill from there. Also, no one owes anyone a date or sex of any kind regardless of who theyāre attracted to, this should be basic shit. No one is obligated to think of your genitals as anything other than what they are, no one has to put their trauma or feelings aside to get you off, no one has to date or stay with someone they are not attracted to or do not want to have sex with. It is perfectly okay to absolutely never have sex with someone even if they change some aspect of themselves⦠like are you all serious with this? āUnless they have surgery?ā Not one of you is concerned about why anon wants to like penis to be a better person?? In a fucking patriarchy?? You all are something else
This is rape. Youāre literally fucking promoting corrective rape. Guess what, I think dicks are fucking gross, I donāt care who itās attached to. I donāt have toĀ āexamineā why I donāt like them, and I donāt have to force myself to like them. Theyāre fucking gross. End of story. You sound just like the MAN who raped me and told me the entire time that all I needed was the right dick to come along and prove Iām not ~actually~ lesbian. Guess what, Iām still a lesbian, I still hate dick, and I still love vulva. There is literally no difference between a man forcing his dick on me to teach me a lesson, and you forcing your gross dicks on lesbians to ~make them better people~. Youāre still a man, and youāre still normalizing rape.
Leave young girls alone, you vile fucking rapists.Ā
Look at all those instructions for how to get a lesbian to interact with a male body sexually. āDonāt think of it as a penisā, ātouch it through clothes firstā. These people are fucking disgusting.
When a lesbian comes to you saying āI want to like dicks to be a better personā the correct answer is āyou donāt have to ever like dicks to be a good person. Only date who youāre attracted to and never apologize for yourselfā.
You donāt write a fucking novel to help ease her into self-inflicted conversion therapy.
@earthmoonlotus @afrohoneycomb
You do both realize youāre literally advocating for grooming of lesbians to like dick, right?
Do you not see how fundamentally disgusting and wrong that is?
Listen to what the radfems are saying in this post, please.
Iām a transwoman and also telling you that under no circumstances should you ever feel like you need to like penises or date transwomen. If a transwoman calls you transphobic for it, theyāre WRONG, itās not transphobic. Youāre not doing anything wrong or evil by not like penises or transwomen.
If a transwoman tries to get you to change your mind on that, get away from them as fast as possible and do not trust them.
Please stop promoting corrective rape and that lesbians should like penis and transwomen.
If transwomen also canāt accept no then that is another reason to get away from them quickly.
Anon please read what the radfems are saying.
This is the most horrific, homophobic conversion therapy shit I have seen on this website ever. Iāve seen some pretty bad shit but oh my god this is the worst. LEAVE LESBIANS ALONE YOU SICK FUCKS
This is what lesbians, often lesbians who are still children, are dealing with. And FYI, OP is still the same rapey asshole.
Want to know why lesbians go from trans allies to what you assholes call āterfsā, I mean aside from being unable to keep ignoring the male pattern behaviors and violence, itās this. This is usually the first crack in the advocacy. The demand that lesbians be opposite sex attracted for the sake of non-women. Itās the refusal to listen to usmwhen we say no. Itās the refusal to respect same sex attraction. Itās the demand that lesbians be open to the male sex and be used as sexual validation tools for their egos. Itās the conversion rape rhetoric.
This lesbian hating conversion rapist peddling OP still thinks after 3-4 years that any lesbian who dares not agree with homophobic rape is a āterfā, because itās more important to dehumanize and mark for violence a group you hate then actually do any work to become a less subhuman bigot. Itās more important to be a pimp for transwomen than ensure the mental and physical health of their victims.
OP is a misogynistic homophobic bigot. OP is at best a rape apologist and at worst, a rapist.
Sexual access to women is not a political or social right, and women do not have to prove their political credentials on their backs with their legs spread. Thanks!

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So right for... Being a rapey homophobic male who tries to shame lesbians into sleeping with him/his male buddies. Classic.
Let's see what people are saying in the reblogs, shall we?
The homophobia really jumps out of some of the people on this website, huh? I'd ask what gives them the nerve, but we all already know.
So not only are they saying that sexual orientation can be changed, they are also saying that you should die if you can't change it.
Genital preference is not transphobic. Not any more than dysphoric trans people transitioning is transphobic ("because it implies that some physical traits are feminine or masculine"). That's just how human sexuality works. I am sure that my attraction to women started with attraction to sexual characteristics, not vague vibes. And it was before I learned about differences in genitalia, so I wasn't conditioned to have such response, and yet seeing vagina for the first time immediately felt erotic. My repulsion to penises also started before I learned about differences. Even though I have one, I always considered it and especially adult versions ugly. I am not dysphoric about it, just dislike how does it look. Trans people are a minority and a mutation, so literal biology doesn't have to account for our existence. Not everything is about us, and there is nothing wrong with the fact that majority of straight and gay people would never want to fuck us, sex is not validation
wachin porno and some bitch with a deathly hallow's tattoo is gettin dp'd by some trannies, call that reparations
Omg I love trans women defying gender roles š like watching porn, calling women bitches, thinking of penetrating as a dominant act and some kind of payback š Iām sure every āAFABā person in your circle is suuuuper comfortable around you š
You're next in line ššš
Oh no! A rape threat! Would have never expected that
All lesbian kisses need a girls cock in the middle.
Homophobic porn addict alert
oh god this is disgusting, lesbians absolutely do not need that or want that. lesbians are not attracted to penis. there is no such thing as a āgirl cockā LEAVE WOMEN ALONE! LEAVE LESBIANS ALONE!!!
you and all the other āgirl cockā havers stay away from women.
20 years old and already brain-rotted.
From OPās blog:
Rape, homophobia, harm to children, and misogyny. Just another ātrans womanā on the internet.

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ok im actually done being nice now. if youāre a cis lesbian who refuses to date trans women i genuinely think youāre a bad person. ābut my genital preferenceā i dont care. fix your heart or die idk what to tell you
Cotton ceiling rhetoric is rape culture.
These people want to correctively rape lesbians through guilt and shame, making them think having sex with males (who they are not sexually attracted to) is proof of their allyship to a marginalized group.
Lesbians: you never have to sleep with males. You never have to be physically intimate with males in any way. You never have to consider dating males. You don't owe males romance, dates, sex, affection, anything. You don't have to explain yourself or provide reasons or try to "fix" the fact that you are not attracted to males.
Homosexuality is natural, innate, and exclusive of the opposite sex by definition.
You aren't a bad person for being a lesbian.
how do you reconcile calling yourself a feminist and blogging about kate mckinnon, a TERF? i come in peace, not looking to start an argument, just genuinely curious.
I honestly donāt know how to deal with it. I like Kateās comedy; I think sheās funny and pretty, and I have a big crush on her. All of that happened before I found out what sheād said/done. And now, I still have those feelings, but Iām very uncomfortable with it. On one hand, I donāt like this culture of totally writing off everyone whoās said problematic things; on the other hand, her actions are dangerous and perpetuate ideas that put real life people in danger. Iām still thinking about it.Ā
Hereās an example of it taking next to nothing for a woman to be called aĀ āTERFā. Kate McKinnon is a lesbian. She expressed this by saying sheāsĀ ānever seen a human penis.ā That was enough to enrage the tumblrs.Ā
Now that she had been branded people delved back for anything they could find to vilify her and found a gay sketch comedy show from ten years ago where she played a boy who wants a vagina. Keep in mind this show also had a skit where a straight man became gay under the light of the full moon so Iām thinking it was perhapsĀ meant to be just a bit absurdist.Ā
But really thatās it. The bare scraps of what got Kate McKinnon branded as a witch aĀ āTERFā. What it comes down to is so-called progressives find lesbian sexuality offensive.
Kate McKinnon is a LESBIAN. Stop fucking calling every lesbian a TERF just because y'all are uncomfortable with lesbians and fetishize lesbianism. Thatās your issue, not HERS.
Women not liking penises is dangerous, all I want to know is who sent us back to the 1800ās