The thingyness of the thing

there are people in your life who will never see any effort you make as good enough and you have to realize this and direct your efforts to people who value you instead. so many people have this problem with family members--endlessly trying to justify their existence to a parent, grandparent, cousin, whoever--but you will literally never win, because a person constantly putting you down and dismissing you has their own unresolved issues and that's not your responsibility to fix

“this character did not act in the most objectively logical way possible!” is not ! actually valid literary criticism

When I realized that a lot of social media discoursers treat politics and queerness like how people count watching streamers as actually experiencing a game, so many things clicked into place.