fuck i can’t find that post we wrote about the difference between writing and posting coping stuff
ugh hold on
still can’t find it but the gist of it was that sharing really bad stuff (like content-wise, I’m talking r-pe fics, etc) that you’ve written tends to do more harm than good
and no I’m not going to blame the writer for someone using their writing to self harm or groom a person but i genuinely do not understand the need to post awful things online
and it doesn’t come from the feeling that people shouldn’t talk about what happened. because people can and should talk about it. i talk about it all the time with people that i trust, and i understand feeling like the abuse was your fault and needing to be reminded that it wasn’t
but i cannot and do not agree with writing abusive, p-dophilic, inc-stuous, etc relationships and posting it online for the whole world to see. i don’t get why it needs to be done. that’s not coping and it’s potentially exposing others things that could trigger them, be used to self harm, be used to groom them, etc
honestly i would argue that it’s even pretty unhealthy, even though i know that what’s healthy for everyone is different. i just genuinely do not get how the sharing part is helpful. the writing? completely understandable. but sharing i don’t get
so like idk, maybe I’m in the wrong, and probably am. but I’ll take that L because i don’t feel like you should share fics of nasty stuff online. there’s already a lot of it out there that isn’t written by people who are coping with stuff and i don’t think it belongs on the internet
also the problem with it does partially stem from the fact that people will use the “but I’m coping!” excuse even if it isn’t true. if we excuse stuff like that being online because someone is using it to cope we’re giving people excuses to use. and yeah that’s fucked up, but again, I’m really not a fan of posting that stuff unless it’s sharing it with people you know you can trust
PTSD caused by overexposure to triggering content IS an actual form of PTSD that people can develop.
Keep that in mind.


















