Idk if you've lived the same thing but holy shit people tell me to get a reduction totally unprompted. My transmasc friend talked about it like it was just a regular trip to the grocery store when it's a serious surgery that can cause lack of sensations and takes a while to recover from. And the fact it's happened twice with two people just because I complained about bras/clothes ???? Anyway I don't really know how to respond to it and they make it seem like I'm only not doing it because I "like having big boobs". That's just my body ????? Fuck man it just annoys me how commodified the body has become in a "woke" way. I don't think we should view ourselves as detachable pieces either for the sake of conservative men who want to sell you products or for "gender" that is rooted in stereotypes.
I commiserate. The number of people, men & women, young & old, stranger & love one, through out my life that felt completely comfortable commenting on my boobs without warning is literally uncountable. Luckily, as an older woman, I now have the tools to tell them "you thought that was acceptable to say?" and make them uncomfortable. The best defense is to just call them out on that shit. "You should get a reduction" "I don't remember asking you your opinion on that" etc. If you really want to be sassy you can always respond something like "let me be decent and ask you first before I do which part of your body you'd like me to comment on" I mean like really practice getting to the point of the matter, not just explaining why they shouldn't or how it makes you feel. Like put all the energy on their behavior and calling it out.
also as someone who got reduction a year and a half ago - it really is not that simple. maybe some women go through the recovery smoothly and without a care in the world, but it wasn't the case for me.
for a long time you can't sleep on your back, raise your hands (even to do such simple tasks as taking a glass out of a cupboard), wash your hair (or even wash yourself because of the bandages). it hurts, it itches, you can get hematomas or other weird side effects after your nipples have been basically cut away, put aside and stitched back after a while.
despite getting it done by a surgeon with stellar reviews, my body still decided to do some weird shit with scar tissue, change the sensory levels over time, and sometimes it still. fucking. itches. ohmygooood.
it was a necessary thing for me to do, as i was at risk of developing some spinal pathologies, i don't regret it by any means, but when i see it treated as some sort of a new, fun way to spend your free afternoon, my blood boils for a second
