That Lady Eve

it’s truly remarkable when you put it this way. but it also begs the question: what is there, if anything, that could prevent this?

feminism has been around for decades, yet educating men has never worked.

the best thing a woman can do is be educated, have her own career and financial independence. and never partner with a male.

Also I've seen a lot of bios with something in the lines of "het partnered women DNI" and it makes me laugh so hard because, again, I'm literally almost double your age and if you think I don't have good enough criteria to know who tf I'm dating, then I'll laugh even harder.

Sure, young girls are hypersexualized and will date any loser, but.... that's kind of a part of life too, people fuck up, especially teens and young adults, I know you girlies have a superiority complex and know you're just so much better than the girls who socialize with men, but trust me, you're literally not helping anybody here, I have no clue how tf you're supposed to help other women and make feminist literature if you don't talk to women from all walks of life.

This childish cancel culture is so tiring istg.

"no i won't talk to you because boys have cooties!!!"

This is exactly why so many of us are frustrated with feminists who date men. Because you have this idea that you hold some special knowledge to find a Good Man™️, implying that women who end up with abusive and dangerous men just aren’t as smart as you are.

How can you assure a woman who’s experienced domestic abuse that it wasn’t her fault, because no woman can ever predict if a man will end up being abusive…but then turn around and say “well I have good criteria for the men I date, so I’ll be fine”. Did she not have good enough criteria? Was she too stupid to see red flags? Is she just “hypersexualised and will date any loser” as you said in your post? But you’re better than her, you’ll make a good choice. You’ll find the nicest guy ever who’s super duper feminist and will never lay a hand on you. All those women who ended up unlucky just didn’t have your superior abuse screening skills.

Also, if you think that 4B is about getting women to “give up their love life for literally no reason at all”, you don’t understand the 4B movement and haven’t been listening to feminists. There’s many reasons feminists give for 4B, including but not limited to: there’s really no “love life” to be had in the first place because men are misogynistic, you can never know what man will make you breakfast in bed vs which man will kill you in a fit of rage, you can never know for sure which men are laughing at their friend’s rape jokes or simply staying quiet, and men have spent thousands of years treating women like domestic servants and have not yet unlearned this so a truly equal heterosexual relationship free of this power dynamic is nearly impossible.

It’s not just “boys have cooties”. It’s “men are dangerous to women, and get even more dangerous when they’re romantically/sexually partnered with women. Women and girls should, as a class, refrain from putting themselves in dangerous relationships with them until they—men and boys—work together as a class to stop being a danger to women and girls”.

Because last time I checked, it takes me almost zero effort to find perfectly healthy, sane, friendly and empathetic women to date. They just fucking walk to me every day. Probably one in every three woman would be fine for me to marry (assuming they liked me too), and even then I would exclude the other two only because of inherent interest/value/personality differences, not because there was anything wrong with them otherwise.

But I am supposed to use every single brain cell, observation skill, communicative tool and bit of wisdom stored in me to find a dude that is not a loser?

So heterosexual partnership is only reserved for extremely intelligent and mature women who have the patience and the skills to sift through countless of men?

That would inherently mean most women aren't going to find one, and that's not because most women are stupid or immature, but because THEY WILL QUICKLY RUN OUT OF GOOD MEN.

If only around 1% of straight men are worth dating then trying to be oh-so-clever to find one of those is NOT going to solve the fact that 99% of straight women will be left dating losers. If they choose to stay alone instead, you, out of ANYONE else, should understand why. You went through the lot and ditched them all, didn't you?

Another sword, another cairn. Cut up an old necklace for the chain. The background fabric is scrap fabric from a thrift shop in Edinburgh, Scotland. Photo doesn't do the fabric justice! It's very pretty!

When I was in retail and got a pissy customer I was getting yelled at over inanimate objects I was selling

When I was a "sex worker" and had a pissy customer I got punched and my body violated because I WAS THE FUCKING OBJECT

Standing behind a counter for cash and getting raped for cash are not comparable and if you think they're equivalent you're fucking stupid

A man paying you for a loaf of bread vs paying to penetrate your fucking body I can't stand you rape apologist shits comparing our bodies to literal objects on the shelves