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Gardens at Iford Manor in Wiltshire, near Bath. Created by Edwardian designer Harold Peto when Iford was his home from 1899-1933.

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📍Iford Manor Gardens, Wiltshire

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black-crested-jaybird

I always think of the description I saw years ago: Self-imposed deadlines don't help me, because I know the person who set them, and they're full of shit.

makingtrouble

Give yourself the treat before you start. I'm serious. And ideally during the task and afterwards too.

Executive dysfunction comes from a lack of available dopamine. Common advice is wrong. You need to provide your own dopamine before you can start. Otherwise you're trying to run your car on empty.

"But what if I still don't do it" well you already weren't getting it done anyway. Now you have a little treat. Try again later.

You deserve kindness and care even when you aren't being productive.

(Also read How to Keep House While Drowning by KC Davis)

arborescreens

i'm very tired

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official aromantic post

tinybro

so we have a conversational safeword in my group of friends and it’s great, idk why more people don’t do this. whenever someone wants a subject to be dropped immediately no questions asked we just say “spleen” and we stop immediately and it’s a really good way to avoid crossing the line between teasing friends and genuinely upsetting them by accident, or stopping debates from turning into actual arguments

the-hopeful-lark

Wait but no this is actually a brilliant idea.

imakegoodlifechoices

When I was a little baby high school student, I used to do the Living Chessboard at our local Renaissance Faire. We always used “forsooth” to indicate if someone was actually injured and needed to quickly end a choreographed fight. It was also very useful when doing little street improvisations because if someone tried to stop you, you could say “forsooth good sir, I must leave.” and they knew you couldn’t do a scene right then. We all used it in real life too, to say “no really” and it was amazing because there was a word used in a casual setting that meant “I’m not playing, I need you do listen to me.” So if someone tried to pick me up or tickle me, I could say “forsooth stop.” And I was instantly obeyed. I had “forsooth” long before I learned what a safeword was, and having a non-sexual safeword for everyday use amongst a circle of friends was the best thing ever. It made me feel very safe and listened to, even as a tiny 14 year old. Because let’s be honest, 14 year old me was teeny tiny and adorable and it’s easy to coo at kids when they say “no don’t pick me up!” but to have a word that every single person respected to mean “whatever I say after this MUST be listened to” was amazing. It gave me a definitive voice when it would have been easy to dismiss me.

So basically having platonic safewords is awesome and I’m all for it.

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postsforwhitepeopletoread

Welcome!

This blog is a curated post collection to help white people learn about racism, imperialism, activism, and their role in systems of oppression. This post contains the tag system so you can look at posts by subject, as well as a list of helpful resources and other blogs to follow. Any non-bold words that are underlined are links to recommended reading!

This blog is intended mainly for browsing, not just following. I will not reblog single posts more than once so please take time to look through the archived posts!

Tag System

Basics: This tag contains a handful of short(ish) posts to get you started (also read the links in the next few bullets!)

White Guilt: Posts about white guilt

White Fragility: Posts about white fragility

Privilege: Posts about privilege

Appropriation: Posts about cultural appropriation

White Culture: Posts about what white culture looks like (yes, white people do have culture!). Subset of the culture tag.

Culture: Very broad tag for posts about different cultures and cultural racism

Allyship: Posts about what being a good ally looks like (or doesn't look like!)

Antiracism: Posts about the action of unlearning racism and/or teaching others to do so (lots of overlap with allyship)

History: Posts with information about historical events or figures connected to systemic racism

Current events: Posts about instances of modern-day racism and imperialism

Antiblackness: Posts about racism against Black people

Indigenous: Broad tag for posts about indigenous cultures worldwide

Orientalism: Posts about racism against people of Asian descent

Imperialism: Posts about imperialism

Antisemitism: Posts about bigotry against Jews

Dogwhistles: Posts about words, phrases, and symbols with plausible deniability used by bigots to signal one another

Conspiracy theories: Posts about conspiracy theories that are rooted in bigotry (spoiler: it's most of them)

Environmentalism: Posts about bigotry in environmentalist movements/ideals

Community: Posts about how racism appears in communities and/or how to combat it

Relationships: Posts about how racism appears (or doesn't!) in interpersonal relationships

Experiences: Personal accounts/stories about experiencing racism

Gender: Posts about the intersection of racism and gender

Incarceration: Posts about the prison system in the US (basically, it's modern slavery)

Media: Posts about racism in media

Humor: Posts about jokes & memes as a vessel for both outright and subtle bigotry (and when they're not)

Activism: Posts about activism

Recommended media: Things to watch or read!

Not every tag has a lot of posts in it (yet), many posts are cross-tagged, and posts may also be tagged with additional relevant terms.

Please be aware: your comfort is not a priority here. Due to the subject matter of this blog, some posts may mention triggering topics. Any posts that describe these actions with any detail will be trigger tagged, but I will not be tagging for keyword mentions (e.g. "women of color are often sexually assaulted"). Nobody is ever obligated to read a detailed account of something horrible, but if you're here to learn about racism you need to be willing to hear that horrible things happen. If you cannot tolerate thinking about these things at all you can use tumblr's content filtering feature for keywords, but please acknowledge that your ability to avoid this kind of information is a form of white privilege.

Resources & Blogs:

The recommended media tag!

Re: media, I highly recommend beginning your antiracism journey by watching this in full.

@creatingblackcharacters: Fantastic blog for learning about antiblack racism. I recommend reading all the lessons in her pinned post.

@insertspanishhere: Blog about Hispanic tropes & stereotypes

@checkyourasianbias: Blog about Orientalism & Asian cultures

@modelsofcolor: Follow to help diversify your tumblr feed and subconsciously unlearn eurocentric beauty standards

@folkfashion: Same as the above

@naturalhairhow101: Posts about Black hairstyles

@isuggestlandback: Posts mainly about indigenous cultures and social issues

@olowan-waphiya: Posts mainly about indigenous cultures and social issues

@blackcharacterpolls: Posts about Black characters in various media

@does-it-like-black-women: Poll blog about media. I recommend looking through the notes on finished polls.

@doberbutts: Posts a lot about queer intersectionality with race and other social issues

@directactionforhope: Posts about current events, social issues, and activism

Melanin Library: Database of books by Black authors

JSTOR Reading Library: Free Black liberation reading materials

Indigenous website & resource list

Masterlist of Black focused resources

In general, try to follow as many POC on social media as you can. Do not comment on posts that are not meant for you, but make a habit of filling your feed with posts by people in other demographics and cultures. Likewise, make a habit of deliberately seeking out media created by POC. Doing these things will allow you to learn new things without having to ask people, and to unlearn the gut reaction to see white people as "default".

It should go without saying but this is tumblr, so: me (the blog owner) reblogging a post or recommending a blog is not the same as me endorsing all opinions and content posted by that blog. The content I recommend here is intended to make you think and (hopefully) grow as a person, and reading and understanding differing opinions is part of that!

Remember, you are still your own person and you should think for yourself! Do not just accept everything others tell you as fact unless they are referring to their own lived experiences– even if they are telling you something is racist, you still need to understand why it's racist. If you disagree with anything on this blog or any of the linked resources, then you should do your own research to find out whether your disagreement comes from a place of ignorance or internalized prejudice. If it doesn't, then it's just something you disagree with that particular person about. People in other demographics are not a monolith and you will not agree with everyone!

tpwrtrmnky

Like. Look. Listen. I have taught introductory quantum physics at a university level, and I need you all to incorporate this into your trans advocacy: There are situations where you need to make a decision to prioritize being comprehensible to your target audience above being The Most Unassailably Correct.

peppermintquartz

You can try to teach a toddler about germ theory or you can get them to wash their hands because "yucky"

tpwrtrmnky

Teaching a toddler to wash hands because yucky when the Ethics Understander crashes through the roof. "STOP RIGHT THERE," the Ethics Understander shouts at me. "The disgust response is not a legitimate substitute for a considered value judgment, and in fact, weaponizing disgust instead of grounding those judgments in a more rigorous framework is fundamental to reactionary rhetoric!"

The toddler looks at me. "You are a fascist, auntie. I have seen the light and will now go eat chewing gum from the pavement, unless you can educate me on a rigorous framework on the microbiology of pavement chewing gum this very instant."

tpwrtrmnky

This is a hyperbolic example but here's a more real one:

You are trying to explain the trajectory of research on trans issues, and how the informed consent model came about as a wildly successful alternative to the gatekeeping model because time and again, people with clinical experience who actually cared about their patients found that just letting trans people transition was easier and the fear that it would lead to something bad was unfounded.

The Principle Understander is shouting at you that the medicalization of trans people is inherently unjust, and even the informed consent provider is still a gatekeeper, just a more lenient one.

You are already aware of this.

You are talking to someone who, as a first priority, needs to know what the worse gatekeeping model looks like.

The person you're talking to is asking "but isn't it good to give patients more time to think before making irreversible changes?" because they didn't hear the part where you explained that asking patients about their masturbation habits has nothing to do with anyone's safety. They missed it because the Principle Understander was on a tangent about the necessity of abolishing capitalism because paying for medication is bad, which again, yes but this is really not the time or place for that.

wyf-of-bathe

This has the funniest name btw.

enbycarp

Today, i was handing out flyers about an anti trans iniitiative that's going to be on the ballot that would require that schools perform invasive exams on girls before they can play in sports. This includes genital exams.

A guy came up to me to ask about it and said, "but this is to keep boys out of girls sports, right? "

I responded with, "that's what they're saying, but all girls who want to play school sports will be subject to this law."

The man asked for a flyer and i heard him discussing it with his wife afterwards.

I don't know for sure that he's going to vote no on the initiative, but i could tell he was upset at the idea of girls being forced to go though genital examinations, so there's a chance. But if i had choosen to argue with him about the fact that trans girls are not boys, he would never have agreed with me and would have been more likely to vote yes on the iniitiative.

phleb0tomist

it’s such a basic part of the reality of disabled people as a whole but it’s STILL so hard to get ppl to understand that some people will simply die without 24/7 care. their care is not for comfort, it’s not for fun, it’s literally a matter of life and death. “if their care was taken away i’m sure they’d learn to suck it up like the rest of us!” – something ive heard time and time again. no they wouldn’t, they would die. they HAVE died. they continue to die as cuts are made to welfare and health. why is this so impossible for people to grasp.

hands-down favorite bit in lower decks is the twaining thing. go into the holodeck with someone you disagree with and sit on a belle-époque steamer ship in matching white suits talking to each other in benoit blanc voices until you've solved your problems. no one knows why it works but it does. it's so stupid. i'm laughing just thinking about it

#shoes life #star trek lower decks

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every now n then i think about how native americans as human beings just dont exist in like 99% of mainstream media. in movies or tv shows or books or video games or you know even in porn like we just arent people. when theres a native character theyre like a wild west indian. like truly to ppl we all died back in the 1900s.

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i`m going to loose my mind i just burnt my toast and i am so tired that for some reason i completely forgot where i was. and with the instinct ingrained from years of living on a sailing boat as a child i just went to feed the fish.

only that i am not on a sailing boat. there are no fish to feed. i just fucking threw bread out of the window of a third story apartment in the middle of the city very much on land. what the fuck

starrynet

fifa kills whales 💔

lostlegendaerie

He's suing them over it for $25M.

Wyland has said any financial recovery from the suit would support public art, ocean conservation, and environmental education through his foundation.

"This should have been an opportunity to show the world that global sports, public art, and environmental stewardship can stand together," he said. "Instead, a landmark was painted over. We want to do our part to make sure that what happened here does not become the standard for how public art is treated in cities across America."

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crochet colorwork ive done lately

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posting wips with a flagrant disregard for the amount of shame and stress i will inevitably feel about it for the next five to ten years

#shoes life #will i do it anyway? yes #will anyone read it and respond to it in a way that encourages me to continue? not even a little #will i STILL do it anyway? yes

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Thirty-year-old Tamara Rees shows us what trans empowerment looked like in 1954. She fought Nazis, taught parachuting, and traveled the world... but her biggest challenge came when the press learned of her identity.

1950s news coverage of Tamera Rees' transition shows a time before the trans moral panic. Most stories regarded her as brave or heroic for her openness. National newspapers even celebrated her wedding in 1955.

The New York Daily News, which now hosts daily anti-trans editorials, ran a shockingly respectful series on trans people in the 1950s. Tamara Rees's narrative was among the longest and most detailed. She thoughtfully implored the public to respect not only her identity, but also other trans people like her.

Tamara wasn't the first famous trans woman of the 1950s, nor was she the best known. However, she had a unique opportunity to share her own story. You can read Tamara's 1955 autobiography, Reborn: A Factual Life Story of a Transition from Male to Female, at transreads.org/reborn

innerchildabortionclinic

PARENT: I got "rubber duck" for my child's "bath" and she loves it.

AUTISM RESPONSE: Rubber ducks and other rubber bath toys can accumulate mold on the inside because of small holes underneath where moisture becomes trapped. The mold often goes unnoticed because it's not visible from the outside.

CORRECT RESPONSE(?): That's nice, I am unaware of how mold could impact this situation.

bowditch

don't worry. this concern made it to the fb mom groups (possibly via autistic moms 😅) and now every mom i know either knows/finds out while her kids are little. those toys get rotated and tossed or soaked in vinegar or bleach water rinses on a regular basis. i haven't talked to a single mom about bath time and bath toys without someone bringing up How to Clean the Bath Toys to Avoid Mold

#gonna start saying '' that's nice. i am unaware of how _______ could impact this situation''#i guarantee it'll do numbers at work (in my three-person department)

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