we get it you hate transfems.
i am a transfem and i love myself
unironically im one of the least depressed and self hating people ik
AND
i love other transfems°❀⋆.ೃ࿔:・°❀⋆.ೃ࿔:・
i make posts about how much i love my fellow sisters and siblings frequently but i have critiques of some of my sisters rhetoric especially when it harms other sisters and siblings especially when they use language that erases our history or even uses terms like transfem for purposes of exclusion something that is in direct opposition of how the transfem that coined the term wanted it to be used
jane nance explicitly created the term transfeminine in order to have a more expansive label for people like her who felt she was being gatekept out of community terms and labels
in order to show my love and affection for my transfem sisters and siblings in fact it is my duty to defend them ALL transfems including afab transfems and it is my duty to fight against rhetoric that defines us by our suffering or our sex takes that are both transphobic and actively harmful ideologies not just to others but to those that hold them
if you truly love someone you support and accept them even if you may not understand them if you truly support and accept someone you listen to what they have to say (always not just when its convenient) and you care about their well being
no group is a monolith and people in groups have opposing views and beliefs and stances and ultimately at the end of the day you have to make an informed choice and form your own conclusions based on what helps the most people in the affected group
it is harmful for transfems to feel as if their only friends are other transfems it is harmful to transfems (ESPECIALLY intersex and nonbinary transfems) to act as if any other kind of trans person is inherently much different from transfems in fact its oppositional sexism and transmisogyny to act as if transfems are in direct opposition with transmascs
OR that in order to BE transfem that they must have an oppositional relationship with their agab
transfems deserve community amongst our fellow siblings and brothers transfems deserve support from anyone and everyone willing to give it and actions and rhetoric that intentionally isolate us from the broader trans and queer communtiy should be taken as they are threats to the support systems of vulnerable trans women and femmes
honestly fam i think youve picked the wrong girl ALL of my activism and advocacy is clearly and blatantly repeatedly FOR my fellow transfems my biggest sin in the eye of trfs in fact the reason im red on shinigami eyes is because i ardently and repeatedly support afab transfems who are LITERALLY transfem theres no wrong way to be a trans woman and ill kill on this hill
i do not approach discourse with hate or anger except very rarely (i am only human after all) but rather patience and good faith my most popular posts are positivity posts i do think that if you only see me and my actions as rage and my hatred and do not see me for my love and acceptance and support then i would question why you consider a trans woman on the internet speaking passionately and patiently to be violent and angry especially since on the internet tone is something thats almost entirely inferred by the reader











