Letâs stop saying âIâve never met anyone who couldnât be hypnotized.â
I was having some teaâtoo much caffeine at night is badâand I came across some texts that are as interesting as they are dull. As usual, I wonât say who wrote it or post the screenshot with the name crossed out; that would get more likes, but we donât want a witch hunt, do we?
Basically, this letâs say anonymous text stated: âOh, if the subject isnât hypnotized, donât blame their mental health issues (ADHD, etc.).â In other words, itâs not the neurotypeâs fault, but the hypnotistâsâand that theyâve never met someone who isnât hypnotizable.
Although most of the time the problem is the hypnotist, thereâs still that small percentage left. That deviation from the curve. That outlierâwhich is why doctors speak in percentages, in a range of probabilities. Someone resistant, who wonât lower their defenses, who is afraid, who doesnât want to let go.
Essentially, they decide itâs better and more ethical to blame the hypnotist. And while thatâs usually true, thereâs an issue with your ego in thereâthat youâre the hero who saves the lost llama that couldnât go into trance. Who do you think you are, that you must save the subject?
Is the hypnotist a hero? Personally, Iâve never felt like oneâquite the opposite, actuallyâbut if I can say something: the problem isnât the diagnosis.
But itâs not the hypnotistâs omnipotence either.
Hypnosis doesnât fail because of the subjectâs mind, nor is it guaranteed by the operatorâs skill.
It failsâor happensâin the relationship.
That idea of a messianic hypnotist who always achieves a stable trance in their subjects without constant micro-adjustments and who comes out of the session revitalized and happy is a myth.
Hypnosis isnât a spell that works in a vacuum. It needs something key: rapport. Connection. Trust.
No one surrenders to a vulnerable state unless there is at least some connection with the guide.
In person, this is woven through tone of voice, eye contact, body language, and realâtime adaptation. Itâs a dance, not a monologue.
Sometimes, trust isnât the main focus. Thatâs where another ingredient comes in: expectation and authority. Fame, reputation, ritual. A respected hypnotist can facilitate trance simply through the weight of what is expected of them.
And then thereâs the third pillar, the most subtle: feedback. A good hypnotist reads microâsignals (breathing, blinking, muscle tension) and adjusts their rhythm and words in real time. Thatâs why itâs easier to hypnotize in person than over video call, and much easier than over text. A text canât dance with you.
So before we declare âeveryone is hypnotizable,â letâs ask: What are we calling hypnosis?
Humans are bad at defining subjective experiences. If by âhypnosisâ we mean someone following a simple suggestion (âyour eyelids are getting heavyâ), then maybe yes, everyone can. But if weâre talking about deep trance, amnesia, hallucinations⌠thatâs another story.
The phrase âIâve never met someone who couldnât be hypnotizedâ usually comes from someone who:
â Only works in ideal settings (workshops, preâselected volunteers).
â Defines âhypnosisâ so broadly that any response counts as success.
â Or ignores the failures (confirmation bias, ever present).
Itâs not a superpower. Itâs a game of cooperative influence and, like any game, it depends on the rules, the players, and the environment.
Hypnosis is probabilistic, not deterministic. It depends on:
â The subject: their suggestibility, their mental state that day, their real willingness to let go. â The hypnotist: their skill, their charisma, their ability to adapt. â The context: privacy, safety, ritual, expectations.
Not everyone wants to drop in. Not everyone can, at that moment, with that person, in that place. And thatâs okay.
The âinfallibleâ hypnotist probably only dances with those who already wanted to dance. And that says more about the setup than the power.
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