#shallowness

Nobody valued me when I had a "great personality" but suddenly once I started treating them like they did with me it's my fault I don't have anyone like any of their advice ever worked

The distinction that lies in being unhappy (as if to feel happy were a sign of shallowness, lack of ambition, ordinariness) is so great that when someone says, "But how happy you must be!" we usually protest.

“Shallow natures dream of an easy sway over the emotions of others, trusting implicitly in their own petty magic to turn the deepest streams, and confident, by pretty gestures and remarks, of making the thing that is not as though it were. She knew that Will had received a severe blow, but she had been little used to imagining other people’s states of mind except as a material cut into shape by her own wishes; and she believed in her own power to soothe or subdue.”

The ground we stand on looks solid enough, but if something happens, it can drop right out from under you. And, once that happens, you've had it: things'll never be the same. All you can do is go one living alone down there in the darkness.