#queermisogyny

This is the result of paramisia.

You know, I never understood the "what if they're transitioning because...they're into it 😱" argument. It's literally just purity culture. If a person wants to transition because it attracts or arouses them, literally let them. It's their body, their autonomy, their life. What is the problem with that?

This article argues that the government should impose a curfew on all men to protect women. Besides violating basic human rights, it also sounds like homoandrophobia, aceandrophobia and androclassism because it ignores the existence of gay men, asexual men and homeless men.

Link.

This is anti-masculinity, transphobia, exorsexism, varsexism, homoandrophobia, andro-amatonormativity, and androclassism.

So much going on here. First of all, this is gender essentialist as fuck, as it indicates that men are inherently predatory. If men weren't allowed out at night, you know what would happen? We'd see a statistical rise in crimes from women, because their crimes are underreported right now, and it would bring attention to it. A curfew wouldn't truly prevent crime in men either, criminal men would sneak out, or find ways to commit crimes from inside the home.

Second of all, what about TGD (trans & gender diverse) people? They aren't considered in the slightest here. What counts as a "man" in these equations? Do trans women and enben socially imposed as male count "as men"? Do trans men and enben socially imposed as female count "as women"? What about menwomen and boygirls? How do you decide who does and doesn't have this curfew? Appearance, identity, anatomy, all of the above?

Third of all, what about men who have sleep disorders that lead them to be awake at night? What jobs would they get, if they're not allowed to do night shifts? Would they be compensated? What about disabled women who have men as caregivers, would those men be an exception?

Fourthly, how late would this curfew be? What about men who get stuck in traffic on their way home, for example? What about men who have delivery jobs or are otherwise traveling, would they be allowed to drive at night, or do they have to stop at a hotel, or sleep in their car? This curfew would uproot millions of people from their jobs.

And finally, as you said, what about homeless men? Would this encourage people to end homelessness? No, it would just lead the government to arrest all homeless men.

I was in class earlier where we were tasked with drawing quick character design from a period and one of the students was struggling to draw based off of reference and saying "ugh, how do i draw men?" "I can't draw men, I only want to draw women!" And someone also commented "ew" to the "i gotta draw a man" which is wow so awesome haha funny. >:/

I don't care if you think having a penis is somehow automatically discusting or that every time you say "woman body, man body" you really just mean "male body, female body" stop saying this please! No one should feel like crap for their body. No, not even perisex cis gender-conforming folk. And I say that as a transgender individual. Everyone can look like anything and we shouldn't have to categories bodies into very few and strict binaries!

This shit makes me feel angry to be around you because then how do you view me then huh?

This is transphobia, exorsexism, and varsexism. (Also anti-masculinity to the response of "ew" to drawing men.)

"I can't draw men" - you mean "I can't draw pericistypical androgenized bodies?"

"I can't draw women" - you mean "I can't draw pericistypical estrogenized bodies?"

We are begging people to understand what being intersex means. It is a sociopolitical identity to describe people who have differences in their primary sex traits (genitals, reproductive organs, hormones/hormone responsiveness, and chromosomes.)

Most doctors WILL NOT diagnose someone as intersex and instead diagnose them with a "disorder of sexual development/DSD," "urogenital deformity/disorder," "reproductive disorder," "hormone disorder," or whatever other intersexist bullshit they learned from anti-intersex teachings, or personally came up with.

Being intersex is not a "disorder." it is not a "condition." It is a sex spectrum. Would you say endosex (non-intersex) people have a "female condition" or "male disorder?" No, unless you are being a sexist asshole.

The correct terms are intersex traits, intersex variations, and intersex spectrum.

(And the subsets are penile traits, urethral traits, ambiguous genitals, the agenital spectrum, reproductive traits, hormonal traits, and chromosomal variations.)

Intersex people are not disordered just because they have a higher rate of co-occurring disabilities and complications. That's like saying that endosex females are disordered for having high rates of breast cancer and menstrual disorders, and that they deserve to be mutilated because of it. Do you hear that stupid that sounds?

but i am intersex my gender is both masc and fem i am transfemasc but i am terrified to interact with either community because to some from one i am a not fem enough and i am just a man who is invading and is horrible for existing and to the some of the other i am not masc enough i am to fem to be with them,i am wrong in there eyes and i am inherently not trusted

And to some from both i am a monster who should be fixed because i am intersex

i am just frustrated at all of this why is are the loudest of both communities the worst? We are FUCKIG SIBLINGS intersex,trans,nonbinary and xenogenders we are siblings we share so many experiences but why do some of us hate each other

Not all people are like this just i have seen so much i am scared

This is androqueerphobia, gynequeerphobia, exorsexism, and intersexism.

Those people are ableist if they think you have a choice in what disorder you have, and they are queermisogynystic because they are essentially implying you should detransition or otherwise be isolated from womanhood because you "feed into stereotypes."

Having a paraphilic disorder does not make you any less of a woman, nor does it make you a predator.

luckily my clinic is informed consent so my answers didn't really matter, especially since this is my second clinic and I've already been doing hrt, but it was such a ridiculous question...

This is gender essentialism.

First of all, emotions aren't gendered. TGD (trans & gender diverse) clinics and doctors shouldn't be required to give out questionaries that have gender essentialist questions. We should be breaking down societal gender roles, not reinforcing them.

Second of all, why the hell would it matter how you emotionally present yourself, in regards to getting HRT? It seems like the questions are designed to tell if a person "deserves" HRT based on their behaviors. It reeks with transmedicalism.

Just. The fetishizing of trans men/women in smut. It's frustrating as a gay trans man to look for writing with my kinks and it's just straight smut with a coat of paint slapped over it. It's especially egregious in fandom where they take a canonically cis guy and make him trans SOLELY to give him a vagina and make him the bottom.

Sorry if this ain't articulated well

This is complicated.

There is definitely fetishization that happens of trans & varsex people in fictional porn. That I won't deny.

And it definitely is true that fictional men with vulvas are often put into a submitting role, while fictional women with penises are often put into a dominating role.

That is, of course, androqueerphobia and transgynephobia. Men with vulvas can absolutely be submissive, and women with penises can absolutely be dominant, but stereotyping every single one in that manner reinforces sexed stereotypes of penis = dominant and vulva = submissive.

That being said, art of dominant women with penises and submissive men with vulvas still deserve to exist because people like that do exist. There just needs to be more variety.

However, I really dislike the way that you're calling this "straight smut with a coat of paint slapped over it." There is no sex act that is "straight", just as there is no sex act that is "not straight." I discussed this in further detail here [link].

I also dislike the way you are using "cis guy" to mean "guy with a penis." Not all cis men have penises. Transsex, altersex, and intersex cis men exist.