#problematic behavior

I try to talk about these topics from time to time.

Because so many people have been trying to destroy beloved IPs from the 2000s and accuse creators, actors, and writers of all sorts of problematic behavior...

And it's often false accusations, mostly because the scenes and actions of characters are misinterpreted or misunderstood, or taken out of context, in order to demonize people and cancel them.

The best example of this is the twilight series...

Those series get the stupidest hatred I have ever seen on the internet... the characters and writer get accused of everything that didn't happen in the books, and they get immense hatred for it by massive numbers of lunatics on line🙄.

Today's topic is an example of a false narrative that is getting a lot of attention:

Indian traditional dresses are very beautiful bedazzled and beaded pieces. They're usually a feast to look at.

Which is why Padma and Parvati Patil from Harry Potter couldn't possibly wear these outfits to their ball...

Hermione was supposed to have her big moment: she was the " most beautiful girly girl in the room." And that wouldn't have been possible if Harry and Ron's dates were looking more gorgeous than her.

They had to look plain ( but still beautiful).

Not to mention, Harry and Ron ignored them during the entire evening. because they wanted someone else.

It would have been weird if Harry and Ron, two boys who can hardly speak to girls and don't usually get attention from pretty girls, were sitting next to two gorgeous-looking women but ignoring them. It would have been weird as well for these sisters to be ignored by every other young man until the end of the ball...

Cho is also an Asian girl, so why weren't the creators of the movie racists towards her?

It's because they're not racist, Cho was meant to look better. Because she is : Harry's crush, that he can't have.

This can easily be compared to the way Xavier behaved during the rave'in dance in Wednesday...

Bianca's look was easily the best that night...

But that didn't matter because:

A_ she was always considered the most beautiful girl at school.

Based on the problematic 'everything is fine' attitude she persists in having in regards to her family dynamic, I have a sinking suspicion that Fuyumi was the sort of kid/teenager who did not actively bully classmates...but was also part of the bully's friend group. You know, the character who feels uncomfortable with the way their toxic friends act but won't speak up or call them out either for fear of isolation or getting the same treatment, so they ignore the problem and hope it goes away.

And it was just like 😭 ???

“Xavier is cuter than Tyler so he should be with Wednesday”

Girl they have the exact same personality. They acted as cardboard cutouts in whatever dating sim that love triangle was supposed to be.

I pulled back a bit after this staying friends but becoming more platonic after Elm seemingly lost interest once I called him out on the cheating. There is one thing about Elm that always bugged me, the fact he would claimed his original characters or "muses" as he called them "tool control". (This was mentioned on call) When I asked if he had D.I.D he out right denied it but it seemed that whenever I would explain that something he was doing upset me that's when his Muses would "take over" and they always tried to make him blameless. For some context I have bpd and tend to split (I call it an episode) when I notice I'm being treated poorly, this can lead to rather explosive anger- Elm know this and would continue to do the behaviors that I asked him not to. I have one major instance of his main muse taking control

I was primarily upset because we had planned to hang out on call that day and Elm left barely 5 minutes in to hang out with a friend who randomly asked. )I blocked out names for their privacy because I know if I didn't they would raise hell. ) As you can see I'm trying to address a problematic pattern of behavior and he uses this muse to try and make me into the bad guy. He would purposely do something he knew would cause me to split, tell me to communicate if something upset me, then shame me and get pissed at me when I did. I had let him know multiple times that if I told him that an action he did was causing episodes then I would prefer it if he could refrain from repeating those actions as much as possible- he said he would but then would continue to do those same actions. This Azlute character only seemed to come out when I would call Elm out on how shitty he was treating me, and then would try to make me the one in the wrong for bringing it up. After this incident we muted each other and spent time apart to calm down after we settled we tried to remain friendly- but not fully friends. After a bit of not talking I had gone through a bit of a upsetting event with another friend and reached out to Elm this is the exchange. (I blocked out irrelevant messages prior)

Notic ehow he said "That's doesn't mean we have to be enemies,thought. I dont want to fight anymore .i consider you...an aquatance."

This interaction was 7 months ago we hadn't talked since. His words completely contradict his recent actions, if he didn't want to fight or be enemies why bring up these allegations? If he had such a big issue with me why wait til the allegations were made to block me? It makes honestly little sense to me

Moving on from Elm, next up we have Crimsons rather rude behavior. I did not blur her username out because these are public comments made on one of my posts. Keep in mind this woman is 31 years old (according to her Tumblr bio) and yet is behaving like a chronically online middle schooler.

First up I was already banned and blocked why would you still need evidence? Unless Elm had no evidence when the claims were made and the mods of the server decided to believe him, despite that went against our usual process.

"There's nothing you could possibly say that could change what you've done and said." If that's the case why prevent me from even attempting to plead my innocence?

"The only reason I've said anything is because I'm not involved." Yet you're being extremely rude and aggressive, and also involving yourself??

Once again based off her own words they did not have evidence when the claims were made.

I understand not posting the evidence to the public, I never asked for that I asked to see the evidence. When I gave another option to dm me the evidence she blocked me. This is the type of people running the server, people who will condemn you without evidence, who refuse to let you defend yourself, who refuse to even offer an explanation to what's going on. If the mods had just don't the mature Nad professional thing and discussed the issue with me,went through the claims, and let me defend myself none of this would have happened.

My original post was to try and reach the mods in the only option I had left to figure out what was actually going on. They banned and blocked me with zero explanation, I was left completely confused and blindsided. People are saying I'm immature but yet these mods are the reason I've had to go to extremes. I just want the evidence so I can defend myself. I'm not satin you have to believe me, I'm just saying you should jump to guilty until proven innocent.

I've had at least one person say "Well you should have just handled it privately" Well one can't handle it privately when all the mods decided to block me. I understand Elm made me out to be manipulative and when in an episode I can come across that way. Even still someone should have done the mature thing and been like "Maybe we should get Ry's side of the story and go from there".

I’ve mentioned this here before but it seems like people seem to gloss over Sassy’s problematic behaviour because she wasn’t competitive about her friendship with Keeley and Rebecca - which is great, but that doesn’t mean people need to like her. Over the last couple of days in some Ted Lasso discussions I’ve seen elsewhere some (not all) people seem incredulous and rude to others who don’t like her. So I need to vent.

Don’t get me wrong. I like outgoing people. Her take-down of Rupert was fantastic and it’s great to have outspoken people in your corner but she also can be pretty self-centered.

In her first scene - she steals champagne from a room service cart. I worked in a high end hotel and I know service workers can be held responsible for that so it ticked me off that it was a joke that the rich, white lady stole from the hotel not thinking of the actual consequences. (I will contrast that to when Keeley takes champagne at the auction, she ASKS the bartender if she can take it.)

The scene at the restaurant where she makes sexual innuendoes to the waiter on behalf of Rebecca. That’s harassment and if the sexes were reversed everyone would be be disgusted. It makes me uncomfortable every time I watch it. I was sad that Rebecca or Keeley didn’t pipe up about it, honestly. So again, privileged lady harassing someone who is just trying to be professional. Let Rebecca flirt by herself without butting your nose in.

While the front desk worker didn’t deserve any pity and he shot his shot, she walked away from him while he was still talking. So for me that’s three times she had little regard/respect for service workers.

we have to create and have ambition. we have to explore and store memories safely into the past in case our future selves regret their absence. when we take in art, it is either as a mindless consumption to rest before we throw ourselves into creating again or as inspiration for what we’ll create in the future.