#poly questions

What is it called when you yourself are not necessary poly but your partner being poly and having other partners doesn't really bother you and sometimes even feels nice???

Ok, first dear anon, you are not a pervert.

Second, you could be poly but also being attracted to other people while in a relationship is normal. Attraction doesn't just go away once in a relationship. Crushes and romantic feelings, yeah you probably are poly. Being in love with multiple people at the same time is what polyamory is.

Now, you're in a mono relationship, are you content with being in a mono relationship? Do you think your partner might be open to opening the relationship? Identifying yourself is the first step but now you need to figure out what will make you happy.

Talking to your partner and figuring out what's right for both of y'all is a good idea. Some poly people can be happy in mono relationships, some can't.

1: Have I ever felt romantic love for more than one person at the same time?

My first instinct is to say “yes.” But then I remember I was feeling sexual and companionate attraction, which only later became romantic attraction. But that yes, this had been while I was still very much in love with a partner with whom I had a deep romantic, intellectual, emotional and physical attraction.

So, yes. I have felt this way. Given that I had only been exposed to Polyamory in the merest of references in a fantasy novel at the time, I also felt absolutely awful that I felt this way. It was during two separate periods in which I was single, over ten years ago.

So T and I are talking about doing a poly tindr. Like the two of us as a couple.

Original by @polyhorde, reblogged from @austerefairy

29. What is one thing about your partner(s) that drives you nuts? What’s one thing that makes you smile?

-Gosh just one thing? Haha. I guess when they team up and tease me, or like, hit on me and high-five eachother, just silly little things. But it drives me nuts in a good way, idk they're my brats and I love them.

-‎OH! They both like touching my tummy when their hands are cold, that DEFINITELY drives me nuts!! Stop that!

-‎Something that makes me smile...when they're sweet and tender. Alex will just look at me and say she loves me, or compliment me, in this soft sincere way that always catches me off guard. Or Jess will just wrap her arm around my waist and pull me toward her, call me cute names and kiss me. Just sweet simple moments when they're each being romantic and cheesy in their own ways, I blush and die every time 💕

30. They’re about to get on a plane – what do you say?