#mtf support

I still struggle with going home for the holidays and sometimes even dread it due to uncomfortable topics and deadnaming. I've learned healthy coping and ways to set up boundaries. I even had to pretend I wasnt in a relationship for 7 years so that my current fiance would be safe at home. So it is a hard time for many people but, as always, remember it eventually gets better. And it is okay and valid for you to have negative thoughts and feelings about going home if your family doesnt accept your sexual and gender identity. So, first is a link to coping mechanisms that anyone can use for anytime they feel anxious, depressed, or other sorts of distress.

Remember all families are situational and some tips and tricks may not work for you. That's okay, just know you have support in other places whether it be online or in person. Hopefully these links can help.

some trans guy got mad at me for my last post so im gonna do some passing tips 💖

hair and face

the first passing tip i have is for hair is please please dont dye your hair. if you dont do it properly it will die and youll have to cut it back which wont be good. instead use biotin (i think its called?) to grow your hair out quicker and healtier. For face ill link some makeup tutorials on how to femminize your face. if you dont have makeup then try to wear jewlery ie:chokers, earings, necklaces, or other face items like round glasses or eyelashs (they can be bought for like 4 dollars at claires or a dollar store).

2. chest and upper body

one of the best things you can get for chest dysphoria is pushup bras, padding, or a sports bra. somethings thats worked for me that could work for some of you is use socks as padding if you cant afford padding or gels. the way to do it is fold them from tip to back and put it in your bra. it works well for hiding a flat chest or a lack of curves. another thing for curves is to wear waist liners, but dont make them to tight itll fuck up your ribs major.

3. tucking and legs

as a trans women whos goal is to pass tucking is a necisary evil. the way to tuck is to push your balls into theyre sockets and pull back the p*nis between your butt. to keep a tuck in place theres 4 methods ranked from safest to dangerous.

gaffs are special panties made for trans women to tuck tightly and comftarbly. they can cost anywhere from 15 to 250 dollars US. homemade ones can also be made (linked below)

multiple pairs of panties (usually 2 or 3) can be put over the tuck to make it stay (this is the method i use)

duct tape is very dangerous but works so well for things like bathing suits or lingerie. it can however rip skin and cause epidermal damage from the adhesives

and finally is hair ties. yes, some people do this. wrapping hair ties around the scroatal skin can cause blood lose and need for surgery to removed the killed skin.

for legs wear tights and mom jeans to hide a lack of curves (unless you have them).

and for the crescendo

voice:

i will link tutorials below but the best way is to push back your adams apple and speak from the top of your throat and not your chest. practice this on an app like voice pitch anyliser made for trans voice training

please reblog this so all our trans sisters can see💖

-love, alexis texas⛦

edit: @discyours suggested instead of sports bras which when worn for long periods can cause damage, to have vest bras i think theyre called?

Ceyenne Dorsohow, based in NYC, is a trans woman of color who runs GlitsInc. GLITS stands for Gay and Lesbians Living in a Transgender Society.

She is a wonderful woman running a wonderful organization and it means so much to have this visibility and have someone this amazing! Please check her and her organization out!

The Transgender Community needs to accept and welcome all its individuals, including those with disabilities. Both visible and invisible disabilities are important and deserve their voices be heard in our community.

Voice pitches are measured by Hertz (Hz) because they are used to measure electromagnetic waves, electric currents, and sound. When you see the number higher that means the pitch is higher, the lower the number the lower the voice.

So a very femine voice would be around 255 Hz and a very masculine voice around 85 Hz. Androgynous voices range around 180-165 Hz. So the lowest of feminine and highest of masculine.

As you transition your voice may vary, instated with a voice ranging at 208 Hz and eight now I'm at around 158 Hz, so just in the masculine. But, since I'm in early stages of transition with Testosterone, it occasionally goes up a lot. This is true of all voices though! They all change a little, and that can make us feel dysphoric, but voice fluctuation is normal and okay.

Heres my voice fluxuations and the dates so you can see how it looks, the Hz is at the end.

It's like a slap in the face! I'm used to it by now, being deadnamed by family, but being deadnamed by the law sucks a lot too.