#mpsec

I have a group of characters in my story and two of them start dating, and then one of them reunites with her childhood friend/first crush. I wanted to subvert the "Girl has to chose between hot guy and childhood friend" thing and have them end up in a bi4bi4bi polyam relationship instead.

But I just saw a post talking about how it's a bad if bisexual characters are dating/having sex with multiple people because it reinforces the stereotype that bisexuals are greedy.

Is that even a thing? I know that there's a stereotype that bisexuals are cheaters or promiscuous but I don't think I've ever seen a show/movie with a polyam relationship, let alone a polyam relationship with a bisexual character(s).

As a bi polyamorous person, I think the idea that polyamory is some kind of stereotype, or bisexuality is some kind of stereotype, inherently is someone pigeonholing those identities in a harmful way. It sounds like whoever made that post thinks that polyamory implies greed, when it doesn't. It's just a relationship format. It works for some people and for others it doesn't.

There are so many real life people that will probably feel represented by this kind of work. There also already is some representation with mspec (bi/pan/otherwise multiple-gender-attracted people) polyamory out there and they write it pretty well. Iron Widow by Xiran Jay Zhao is one great example of this I think. Really Cute People by Markus Harwood-Jones is another example of a queer triad of everyone being mspec.

Basically, I wouldn't worry about it. Some people who have misunderstandings about polyamory or bisexuality may feel weird about it, but I think that stems from their own ignorance. Neither of those things make someone greedy or entitled. Polyamory is not being careless with other people's hearts, it's not being entitled, etc. (Though there are people who call themselves polyamorous who haven't done much inner work, who may be like that.) If you're really concerned, you can always add some monogamous bi rep in there in passing, but I don't think it's necessary in order to make the main bi4bi4bi triad good representation.

I now have them in categories so they're easier to find!

Gay/MLM:

Monsoon

And Then We Danced

The 10 Tear Plan

BearCity

Friends And Family

Brokeback Mountain

Those People

I Am Jonas

I Am Michael

Handsome Devil

The Thing About Harry

Your Name Engraved Herein

Seashore

Benjamin

Play The Devil

From Zero To I Love Uou

Wish You

Loev

Breaking Fast

Supernova

My Own Private Idaho

(BPM) Beats Per Minute

Happy Yogether

Weekend

Beautiful Thing

Parting Glances

Mysterious Skin

Maurice

Giant Little Ones

Boy Erased

The Way He Looks

The Birdcage

Last Summer

Fair Haven

Men For Sale

Dreams From Strangers

Lucky Bastard

Daddy

Out In The Dark

District

Into The Lion's Den

I Want To Get Married

Hara Kiri

I Am Happiness On Earth

Moonlight

Peyote

Such Good People

Holding The Man

Naz & Maalik

Getting Go: The Go Doc Project

Touch Of Pink

Sun Kissed

Free Fall

Shared Rooms

Boys

Rag Tag

Something Beautiful

A Wake

Ripples Of Water

Akron

Love The One You're With

Speech And Debate

Milk

Alaska Is A Drag

Eternals

Bros

Lesbian/WLW:

Dare Me

Saving Face

Elisa And Marcella

The Favorite

The Miseducation of Cameron Post

Tell It To The Bees

Rafiki

Elena Undone

Ride or Die

Ana e Vitória

The World To Come

The Girl King

House Of Hummingbird

Disobedience

The Watermelon Woman

Imagine Me & You

Duck Butter

Desert Hearts

Shiva Baby

Girl Gets Girl

Elvis And Madonna

Her Side Of The Bed

Sand Dollars

Below Her Mouth

Summer Time

Kyss Mig

Hearts Beat Loud

The Half Of It

Pariah

Mosquita y Mari

Cloudburst

Two Of Us

The Feels

Benedetta

The Portrait Of a Lady On Fire

Colette

Claire Of The Moon

The Handmaiden

My Last Summer

Beautiful Creatures

Between Two Women

Circumstance

The Fish Child

Signature Move

Set It Off

Unfreedom

Stud Life

Desi's Looking For A New Girl

Yes Or No

Tender

Ammonite

Moonlit Winter

Trans:

Port Authority

The True Adventures of Wolfboy

Transfinite

Alice Junior

A Fantastic Woman

Happy Birthday, Marsha!

Tangerine

Disclosure

Paris Is Burning

Anything's Possible

Bit

Girl

Boy Meets Girl

Boys Don't Cry

Ma Vie En Rose

Queer: (Multiple Sexualities/Genders In These Films And/or Sexualities Not Disclosed)

Undertow

Check It

But I'm A Cheerleader

Edge Of Seventeen

Saturday Church

Tucked

The Wound

Stage Mother

Lady Peacock

Velvet Goldmine

Bessie

The Skinny

Can You Ever Forgive Me?

Heartstone

Booksmart

Polyamory:

The Sex Of Angel's

Havana Eva

Vicky Christina Barcelona

Design For Living

Taste Of Betel Nut

We Are Three

Professor Marston And The Wonder Women

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I'm still adding to this list, recommendations are greatly appreciated!

If any of these are labeled wrong or are problematic let me know I'll change or remove them!

Masc lesbians are not the only women that can use he/him.

Lesbians are not the only ones that are butch or femme and they never were.

Lesbians are not the only wlw not attracted to men.

I'm not a lesbian. I never will be. It's extremely dysphoric for me to use that term but I still find myself relating to "lesbian topics" That are only considered lesbian topics because people don't know that bi wlw and lesbians share the same history.

Maybe bi wlw are separated from lesbians now, but it's not fair to exclude us and keep us from our history andd exclude us from conversation that affect us.