#microaggression

rough translation

Jordan Palermo quoted in a report by Alaina Demopoulos in The Guardian. ‘Hello ladies and sons of ladies’: women are using ‘microfeminisms’ to flip the gender script

The practice is not entirely serious – but it raises awareness of the many sexist tropes built into everyday life

Sometimes I catch myself enacting "everyday sexism". I feel embarrassed, but there and uncomfortable tug that there are probably too many times I don't even notice.

Stop saying Kpop Demon Hunters has "Korean/Asian culture". There are plenty of Asian countries that have VERY different cultures from Korea. Korea does not represent all of this vast continent. Talking like this is a disservice to other cultures that do NOT share Korea's culture and do not need to be grouped up with it, and it's also an erasure of Korea as a part of one amorphous blob of "Asian culture", which does not exist.

We say Norwegian fairytale; we don't say "This is a Norwegian/European fairytale". We say "Irish traditions"; we don't say "Irish/European traditions". We recognize that cultures within Europe deserve individual recognition; yet we still talk about individual Asian countries as if Asia is one giant monolith and all its countries blend into one another. It's just another way of saying "The Orient"; at this day and age, it can't even be excused with 'ignorance' -- it's just lazy and racist.

Every one of us is capable of building systems. Some systems nourish people. Others destroy. And both can last for generations.

The difference between activism and bigotry is clear: one is morally grounded, the other is morally bankrupt — no matter how well it’s disguised.

If we dismantle harmful behaviors — like gaslighting, denial, and refusal to be accountable — we reveal what lies beneath: fear, control, and broken belief systems. Today, I want to walk you through a few common bigot behaviors you’ll find, especially in fandom spaces — and how to dismantle them.

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1. The Angry One

This is the loudest and most recognizable kind of bigot. They shout, they insult, they try to shut you down — not because they have a strong argument, but because they don’t. Their power comes from volume, not from truth.

They often form groups out of shared hate, trying to feel more valid through numbers. But hate isn’t a strategy. It’s a reaction. And it burns itself out faster than they realize.

What they lack — and what terrifies them — is cohesion.

They can’t organize, so they scream.

They can’t build, so they tear down.

They collapse into infighting because there’s no center — only fear.

How to dismantle them:

Say calmly:

“Why the aggression? Let’s talk like human beings.”

You’re not just disarming them. You’re holding up a mirror — and they hate what they see. And everyone else sees it too.

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2. The Silencer

Some bigots know that shouting will get them called out. So instead, they go quiet. They act like nothing is happening. When asked why they’re absent, they’ll say they’re “overwhelmed” or “busy.”

There’s a difference between real overwhelm and avoidance. People who care will show up eventually. They’ll grow. They’ll speak.

But those hiding in silence? Watch them. If someone should be speaking, and they aren’t — if they exit the conversation when you ask them to show up — that’s not neutrality. That’s hiding. And it might be bigotry in disguise.

How to dismantle them:

Call it out. Gently but publicly.

Give them safety, yes — but also accountability. When they’re exposed, they’ll either grow or show you who they truly are.

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3. The Enabler

This one looks like support — but it’s not.

They tell you:

“I just don’t want you to get hurt.”

“Maybe there’s a nicer way to say it.”

“Aren’t you worried you’re being too harsh?”

They want you to shrink your truth so it doesn’t make them uncomfortable. Sometimes, they’re also victims — shaped by systems that told them they had to make peace with injustice to survive. That if harm wasn’t intentional, it shouldn’t count.

But harm is harm. And when they protect the aggressors instead of you, they become part of the problem.

How to dismantle them:

Name what’s happening — out loud. With compassion, but with clarity.

Offer them a path to change. But don’t skip accountability just because they’ve been hurt too. If they want to reform, help them. If they don’t, let them go.

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4. “I Care! Just… Not Right Now”

Yes, people have lives outside fandom.

But that doesn’t mean they get a pass.

If someone claims to care but always puts the work off, offer them small, meaningful actions: daily check-ins, emotional support, signal boosting.

Their response will tell you a lot.

People who truly care show up, even in small ways.

People who don’t? They fade out. That’s a red flag.

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5. The Guilty Ally

This is the person who says all the right things.

They show up loudly, telling you how much they support you.

But something feels off. Because over time, their support fades. They struggle to sustain the work. They expect you to save them from their guilt, to teach them how to be good.

They aren’t trying to grow — they’re trying to feel better about themselves.

How to dismantle them:

Tell them what you see. That support without action is empty. That being an ally means growing, not just performing.

Then show them how to be accountable — not for praise, but for change. Offer them a path: reflection, learning, community repair.

But make one thing clear:

It’s not your job to fix them.

That work is theirs to carry.

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A Final Note

It’s not wise to expect someone who isn’t a person of color or international to fully understand your struggle right away. What seems basic to you — awareness of racism, microaggressions, cultural erasure — might feel like a revelation to them.

So before someone claims to be an ally, teach them first. Let them earn that title.

Some (fanfictions) allows Butters to cheerleading and/or in the girls' group; wear make up, dress up and it's just :sparkles: wow...

How does he not get grounded? It's Butters and someone has to rat Butters sometime. (cough cough Eric Cartman.) Also, he gets grounded for the littlest things too!

And it just makes me think about how plenty of options to make the snakes shutting it up (including Cartman, because Wendy will kick his butt.) "Whoever snitch to Butters' dad is going to get it."

The consequences can be widely limited to: Blackmail, Bullying, Shame, and FINALLY PC Principal! (also more!)

Now, I absolutely think it is funny when PC principal blocks Butters' Dad from grounding him (Which he will probably ground him for other things instead of that opportunity or he will GET HURT.)

Cartman would probably not tell on Butters when it is involving him. But, then he could just go in for the lolz. Also, in the game, Fractured But Whole, Stephen did say, "Tell me everything what Butters does." (Gist Quote.) to the New Kid. (To ground him. I swear, Mr. Stotch just LOVES grounding Butters, geez man.) So, the poor kid definitely has some snakes lmfao. + It's a small town + Gossip can spreads FAST.

My name is Shaoni Ghosh and I am currently pursuing M.A. in Applied Psychology in Calcutta University. As part of my dissertation, I am conducting a research to understand the impact of Microaggression faced by individuals from the ACE SPECTRUM or ASEXUAL SPECTRUM on their Psychological Well-being and Distress, Mental Health issues, Perceived Self Concept, Attachment and relationship issues

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