#lgbtadvice

Hi, thanks for your question!

I’m not really sure how to help you honestly. This page is run by myself only and I don’t identify as trans so I can’t personally speak on other trans peoples behalf or experiences.

I think the only thing you can really do is talk to any trans people you may know and read up on the topic as much as you can. Write about what you know but maybe stay away from topics that you don’t have as much experience on until you gain that experience.

So...i thought I was bi for about a year, and dated a guy for about 8 months, but now that that’s over, I’ve been thinking and I think I might only like girls? Does anyone have any tips at all? I’m just really confused

Over the years I’ve become very good at one thing in particular, waiting. Waiting to feel comfortable in my own skin. Waiting to feel pretty or beautiful. Waiting to look in the mirror and like or understand what I see. Waiting to feel like my body is truly my own.

And finally, I’ve become closer to that upon realizing I am transgender. I am a boy and my life became infinitely better-and worse-with this information. Better because finally, fucking finally I understood myself. I understood who I was and what I was. I was. boy.

Well then came the next process of waiting. Waiting to gain the courage to come out. That took a lot longer than I had hoped, but I did it. And of course being the sappy loser I am I did it in the mall parking lot of Love, Simon.

Then, came waiting for my family to understand and take action. This didn’t take long as they immediately scheduled me a gender therapist. And I finally met someone who truly understood. Who listended to every word I said and got me and what I was going through. He saw every part of me and not once did he ask, “Well are you sure?” Or, “Just wait a little longer.”

But the worst waiting of all has been waiting for the permission to finally transition. Words surround me though, practically drowning me.

‘Just wait’

‘Let us catch up’

‘This is hard on all of us’

‘It’s not all about you all the time’

‘Stop being so selfish’

But then I heard words that pulled me to the surface.

‘Son’

‘Brother’

‘He’s my friend’

‘Handsome’

‘His name is Jay’

Don't forget you can send in any questions you have about anything lgbt related!

Hi Everyone,

Unfortunately this page will not be as active as it once was due to the growth of queries, questions and DMs that we get. I regretfully don’t have enough time on my hands to be checking in everyday and making sure this page is active and informative as it could be.

The page will still be running for now but just at a lot slower of a pace than usual as I don’t want to abandon the people that rely on us for help and advice.

I would be up to the idea of adding more admins to keep the page as active as possible but I unfortunately don’t think many people would be interested. However if you are please give us a DM and we can talk!

Hi,

So personally I wouldn’t think you need to feel dysphoric to be non binary.

Gender dysphoria by definition is “a distressed state arising from conflict between a person's gender identity and the sex the person has or was identified as having at birth; also : a condition marked by such distress.”

I think you can recognise that your sex and gender don’t align without feeling distress. I mean of course you’re not going to be ecstatic about it but you don’t need to feel extreme negative emotions about it for you to be valid.

Hope this answered your question!