FROM THE PERSPECTIVE OF AN INFJ

***I am only referencing people who are CONFIRMED as these types, not people who I THINK are these types***

***Also, I’M NOT EXPERT. I just find MBTI to be an interesting way of understanding people***

ENFP

well fuck you guys are great

you’re strong where i’m weak and weak where i’m strong

i always find i’m so drawn to you guys and your energy and i hAVE NO FUCKING IDEA WHY AND IT SCARES ME

every person i’ve become really really fast friends with have always ended up being enfp, go figure (which is a total of 5 people now)

anyways you guys are super whimsical and random and quirky and it’s infectious

your minds aren’t always super grounded but your hearts are, and that’s why i love you

never fail to flip my perspective on something, or at least shake things up for me

always fuel me with great ideas (that i end up having to integrate because bOY do you guys hate organizing thoughts)

seemingly random and wild but you really have hearts of gold

if i piss you off, though, it’s silent treatment for a whiiiiile

and passive aggressive disses

it’s low-key scary because i can just tell you’re not unleashing their full wrath on me lmaooo

never have i ever seen an enfp that doesn’t care about society at large; my enfp friends are so passionate about liberalism and how everyone should be accepting of people despite race, sexuality, gender, etc.

and they’re totally right, but it’s just rare to see someone who’s an outspoken advocate for such people

IT’S DAMN BEAUTIFUL

INTJ

i’ve only met two intj’s and it’s always a deep mental connection

like yOU GUYS GET ME AND I GET YOU AND I LOVE IT

we both tend to think the same way but in completely different spheres of life, so when we get together we just get glimpses of these other areas of life that we never would’ve given thought otherwise

that te though

that tE THOUGH

y’all efficient and cutthroat (in the nicest possible sense of the word) as fuckkkkk

you can analyze events like nobody’s business; people tend to confuse this as an infj trait, but i’ve noticed that i’ll recognize what a PERSON will do next rather than what will happen next

i can sit in complete silence right next to you and not feel obligated to fill that silence, and that’s the introvert’s dream right there

you teach me how to be more goal-oriented and get things done, and i do my best to teach you the beauty of relationships and people

the intj’s in my life have given me the best advice on how to just go after something that is important to me, and i find myself coming to you guys a lot if i’m feeling insecure or my fe starts to turn unhealthy again

as much as we bicker about things (anyone with strong te tends to trigger my trickster te and makes me paranoid, so intj’s aren’t an exception), we will always come back to that little nest of comfort that we have

ALSO YOU GUYS GET MY SENSE OF HUMOR AND LITERALLY NO ONE ELSE DOES SO THANK YOU FOR THAT

ESFJ

okay not gonna lie my first impression of the esfj’s that i’ve met were that they were kind of ditzy AHAHA

that inferior ti is a pain in the butt when i’m trying to help them with something, but that fe is so charming that i just keep helping them

besides that, though, literally the sweetest human beings ever

the stereotype of being the mom friend is totally true

honestly the type of people to make you a care package or bake you cookies if you’re sick, upset, sad, or any other situation where you’d need a pick me up

no matter who you are, THEY ARE YOUR BIGGEST CHEERLEADER

they know they’re not good at the nitty-gritty, logical stuff, but they make up for it with a whole lot of smiling, good times, and good feelings

the BEST house party hosts because they make it a point to make everyone feel like they’re part of the group and make sure everyone’s enjoying themselves

that one person at a party who insists everyone eats at least two plates before they even start piling up their first one, even if they’re starving

love anything cute and fluffy, or something that reminds them of their childhood

FOR SUUURE one of those people who dress nice and put makeup on to spend 10 minutes at the grocery store

always look good, always make you feel good... just good people in general

APPLAUSE APPLAUSE APPLAUSE FOR ALL THE ESFJ’S OUT THERE

INFP

you guys. are. adorable.

it’s so cute seeing you so passionate about so many things and it’s SO CUTE that you have all these little interests that you spend so much time learning about

that friend that always motivates me to get organized at school but honestly are just as much of a mess themselves AHAHAH

but when you’re in a funk though, or someone decided to piss you off...

i feel like i need to hold my breath and back away, making no noise

otherwise, they’re mushy-gushy and easy to please

GIVE THE BEST CUDDLES TBH LIKE YOU GUYS ARE SO CUDDLY AND CUTE

most of you are disney fanatics... and you probably love rapunzel or mulan

you guys have cool creative outlets like poetry and music and it’s so cool to see how much you guys express through them

ESPECIALLY poetry

you guys are so passionate about your ideas and passionate about your values that it’s infectious

it’s hard for me not to care about them too

10/10 would recommend being friends with an infp

ISFJ

mom friend 2.0 (sorry, isfj’s, esfj’s still got ya beat in that regard)

have like two planners that are color coded and colorful to keep your schedule in check and make sure that you maintain your little system

you guys are so hardworking and grounded and i fucking live for it

not typically into school and learning, but you’re super task-oriented and will get a job done no matter what it takes

great integrity too

as long as your fe isn’t unhealthy or doesn’t get carried away, you guys are the most responsible and dutiful people i know

you guys will have like ONE dish at this ONE favorite restaurant in this ONE specific location (no other locations if it’s a franchise)

or like ONE specific way your food needs to be made or it’s not the same for you

one of the two isfj’s i know irl needs to have red apples and rainbow carrots in her japanese curry or she will literally make a face and almost refuse to eat it

IT’S SO CUTE THOUGH LOWKEY AHAHHA

also if you’re an isfj and aren’t in love with puppies i seriously think you’ve mistyped

^jk but really, you guys love cutesy stuff haha

That’s all I have for now! As you can see, I’m usually attracted to the same types of people, haha. I really need to work on that.

- This is all from my personal experience, everybody is different- yada yada yada.

- I love you all

INFP:

- You make me laugh so much

- No sense of space or direction, basically don’t send us to get something together because we will fail. 

- Good counselor

- Sometimes you don’t see what other people are implying because you are very genuine and trusting. 

- Nice stash of memes

ISFP:

- Why the HELL, why the absolutely HECKING HELL, do you SIT IN THE RAIN WHEN YOU HAVE A COLD? I understand you are a child of nature, but WHY? You will get an even worse cold!??? 

- I love you

- You’re emo sometimes 

- A lot of ISFP weebs

ISFJ:

- Why the hell haven’t you ever made me cookies like the stereotype says, huh?

- ISFJ’s will listen to you whine

- Good solid advice

- You are nit picky perfectionists at heart.

- You are very anxious and small and I love you. 

- Will cry if you insult their favourite characters

INFJ:

- I don’t understand the unique unicorn thing, you are all massive nerds and know it.

- Secret memelords

- Terrible at social interaction on the inside, but you aren’t as bad as you think from an outsiders perspective.

- Gets overwhelmed at parties. 

INTP:

- I love you

- Best type

- I’m joking

- I’m not

- Big nerd for video games

- I’ll be there at 3pm. (aka 5pm)

- Not actually good at maths

INTJ:

- When we first start talking I always think you hate me and then you secretly liked me all along?

- Hilarious

- Blunt in a good and bad way

- Your ideas amaze me

- Make very good artists

ISTJ:

- So, so, sarcastic

- A+ grade student 18 years in a row

- Speaks a lot but not to you

- Obsessed with young adult fiction 

- Has a crush on every actor

- Doesn’t like my memes?

ISTP:

- Understated humor that gets me every time

- Whenever i need anything fixed, after i try to fix it myself, you are there for me.

- Bad at social interaction until they get older.. and then, still....

- Leather jacket

ESTJ:

- Bad experiences, good experiences...

- That tertiary Ne gets me giggling 

- You listen to my opinions and accept them, even if you disagree with them- sometimes you even change yours once you hear mine. I admire this a lot and appreciate it.

- In the grip or looping ESTJ’s have been the most annoyingly patronizing people I have ever met, HOWEVER, healthy ESTJ’s are cool cats and I like you lots. 

ESTP:

- Honestly, dominant Se scares the hell out of me and I don’t know how you survive. 

- Bluntly honest, smart, caring- good good good.

- Always willing to help you

- Very eager to learn 

- Charming and hilarious

ESFP:

- Met two kinds of ESFP’s- shy and standoffish but sweethearts, and GO GO GO GO GOGO GOGOOG.

- Okay so once my ESFP friend slid down a 20 metre long railing with rocks beneath it and I almost died because YOU COULD HAVE DIED

- “I’m looking for a girl that will encourage me to slide down railings.”

- So much love to give, so many hugs.

- Please stop shaking it’s like a big chihuahua

ENFP:

- I can’t keep up with you but it’s so good

- I’m smiling at you in admiration 90% of the time

- Cute 

- Gets everything done somehow and has fun doing it?

- Doesn’t like emotions but is simultaneously the most emotive person ever.

ENTP:

- Everything, I love everything.

- Devils Advocate TM

- Very concerned and caring

- The memes are revolutionary

- Has a joke for every situation

- Cool nerd TM

- Stares at people lovingly when you don’t think I can see you doing it.

ESFJ:

- STOP. WORRYING.

- Takes responsibility for everything

- Actually hilarious

- Loves all boys

- Hates all boys

- Doesn’t give themselves enough credit

ENFJ:

- So much Disney

- So. much.

- Loves INTP’s too much

- Incredibly strong people

- Once they have a vision they go at it full throttle 

- Want’s everyone to be happy

- Hates conflict

ENTJ:

- The grand master

- I am terrified of you but i love you

- Gets it done

- Visionary’s

- Can get caught up sometimes and needs a friend to talk to

- Makes a lot of enemies accidentally, and a lot of the time on purpose

- Get’s annoyed when I make jokes about things that are unrealistic 

Trying to do things on the computer but ESTJ roommate keeps trying to show me metal music videos and it’s loud and distracting but I’m too nice to say anything or leave so I try to do both and now I has headache. 

"The Moriarty Fear" is the textbook phobia of INTPs that if anyone is better than they are in the area in which they specialize, that they will not only be outshined, but rendered meaningless, worthless and obsolete.  IP's are the specialists, loving detail and preferring depth over breadth, but this means the areas in which they sink all their time and energy are very precious to them.  INTPs especially tend to get the most inside their own heads as they love to use their minds to explore the world by themselves, using abstract thought to find solutions to problems.  For them, smart often becomes a moral thing and the only battleground worth winning. But, especially if they let that battle make them arrogant and self-righteous about the areas in which they specialize, pretentiously believing that they are the only ones that can know the things they know, an INTP can end up overlooking important details outside themselves and someone with a wider scope of field can end up surpassing them even in their own area of expertise.  Rather than recognizing that they need to learn more, an INTP can dig in their heels and instead insist on beating down their "usurper," making sure they rise to the top again, not by self-improvement, but by being the last man standing.   Even if they are able to weed out the competition, an INTP at "the top" will constantly be watching their back, waiting for the day they secretly fear will come, when others will see their gaps in wisdom and knowledge, call out their weaknesses and that they will have no recourse. But if an INTP instead seeks for improvement for its own sake, rather than as a competition, they indeed can be exceptional in what they do; in fact an INTP can't truly excel in the ways they are needed unless they stop comparing and learn again for its own sake.

Calise Sellers 

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