#core values

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Ever notice how any time someone in the Trump Administration starts talking about "returning to core values", it means destroying all that is good in the world?

"One of the hardest parts of being in a relationship is accepting that it won’t always be perfect… 🫣

At times, these experiences can lead to needing to decide whether you are facing a problem that needs to be repaired… or a pattern that means it’s time to walk away.

Most people struggle with this because a real relationship consists of both connection and pain…

And while it is normal for those two truths to exist at the same time… this can also lead to a lot of confusion. 😵‍💫

Here are a few ways to explore whether a situation is a deal breaker or something worth fixing…

A fixable issue is usually about things like miscommunication, emotional reactivity, different conflict styles, or stress that spills over into the relationship.

However, these problems tend to show some improvement when they are addressed. ❤️‍🩹

This includes accountability… and a willingness from BOTH people to put intentional efforts towards change.

In these situations, there is evidence that both people care about the impact they have on each other… and are prepared to adjust their behaviors accordingly.

A true deal breaker is different. 😓

It is not defined by how intense the problem feels in the moment, but by whether the pattern consistently violates your core needs for safety, respect, and emotional security.

Deal breakers often show up as repeated dishonesty, chronic dismissal of your feelings, unwillingness to take responsibility, or a refusal to engage in growth. 😒

The part that gets really difficult is that you can still love the person, still have good moments, and still hope things will change.

That emotional bond is exactly what makes the decision feel so confusing. 😩

So, the real question here is not “Is this relationship hard?”

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Washington Post

Sorry, it’s fire-walled:

In a sign of those sweeping changes — both in the administration and at the FBI — a mural at the bureau’s training academy in Quantico, Virginia, that highlighted values such as “leadership,” “diversity,” “fairness” and “integrity” was painted over on Wednesday, January 30, 2025 with gunmetal gray paint, according to a photo obtained by The Washington Post.

The FBI acknowledged in a statement Thursday, January 31, 2025 that all visual and informational materials promoting diversity as a core value were being removed from its facilities.