Youâre uncomfortable being by yourself, and itâs ruining your life.
Weâre all human beings, and itâs in our nature to crave interaction. To yearn for hour-long talks and constant messages. And this is normal, itâs perfectly fine. We all experience it.Â
Problem comes when it reaches a point where you canât survive without it. When your social media becomes the centre of your life, and you can't stop checking/refreshing/posting in hopes of getting some more of that sweet, fresh interaction. When you canât sit for 5 minutes without needing to talk to someone.
Youâre uncomfortable with being by yourself. Donât get it? Let me rephrase. You are not able to sit in your own mind and be content. You canât be alone with your thoughts, and this trouble comes when all your thoughts are inherently negative. When all your thoughts are about how you look, all alone and pathetic. About your appearance or something embarrassing that made you feel bad.
âAeryneâ how do I combat that?â
Be okay with being boring. Be okay with your thoughts going to âwhat am I going to have for lunchâ or âthat movie I watched was really interesting, letâs think about a scene I likedâ Be okay with your thoughts being absolutely mundane.
Start observing. Iâm sure youâve seen babies or little children. They give you that thousand yard stare sometimes, because theyâre always observing. We live in a life of stimulation, that doesnât need to be your phone or your social media. Look at the colour of that wall, guess how fast that car is going. Fill up your time with some good old observations.
Get used to the fact that being alone is okay. And that no one elseâs thoughts should affect yours. If someone thinks sitting alone = pathetic, loner, disgusting, I think theyâre in for a rude awakening that life isnât a 2005 coming of age movie.Â
Now that weâve changed your mentality a little, let me talk about the beauty of being solitary. The way of being alone.
Being alone, and having âmeâ time is so wonderful. God- being able to think about myself, and only myself? Not worrying about how my replies sound to others? My tones in speech? Glorious. When youâre alone, you have no one else to appease or listen to. Only yourself, so listen.
Woah- did you realise that? You can actually hear your thoughts. In this world of action, my mind is detached from all that hustle and bustle. Thereâs no one elseâs thoughts or words filling up my logical reasoning. Just my own.Â
Treasure your time with yourself. Realise what Iâve told you, apply it and youâre going to be comfortable with being by yourself. Hereâs a personal challenge, if you can:
âTurn off all your notifications for an hour.
âObserve your surroundings.
âListen to the thoughts, appreciate them.
thank you for listening, sweet ones.