Sometimes “entitlement” is developmentally healthy. Stay with me. Young children are 100% dependent on adults to take care of them. This is a vulnerable position to be in. It requires trust. As adults, when our needs are not met by those in position of authority, or if we have been mistreated or disrespected, we exhibit a sense of entitlement when we start to feel that we deserve better than we have been getting. This is part of a healthy shift towards self-respect. As maturing adults, we find a way to balance self-respect with respect for others. Children are still learning how to do this. In order to feel safe in the role of dependability children require adults who model responsibility and healthy vulnerability. We all feel safer and more grateful in trustworthy, respectful, empathetic relationships. As the adults it can be challenging to always be the one modeling what we hope to see. ~> attention, appreciation, attunement, cooperation etc… The remedy for “entitlement” is to fulfill the need for connection and set a good example of how to express emotions, needs, and wishes maturely. Here we all are, learning how to nurture ourselves as we nurture our children. When entitlement rises in us or in our kids, we can grow curious about what we need to feel seen, heard, supported and appreciated. With love, Lelia. Link in Bio for private live online consultations. #therapeuticparenting #connectedparenting #peacefulparenting #empoweredparenting innerchildhealing #gentleparenting #entitlement #appreciation #cooperation #behavioralscience #emotionfocusedtherapy #parenteducation #childdevelopment #parentcoach #leliaschott https://www.instagram.com/p/CUZzuy7LGSv/?utm_medium=tumblr
