There's the problem of;

Anything marketed as SciFi post Star Wars rightfully deserves suspicion and mockery

Also telling other people not to judge a book by its cover is textbook condescending mansplaining

Yes first impressions are rarely more than a culmination of your own lifelong biases, rather than judgement worth a damn

This may be my circus, but those sure aren't my monkeys (I just work here)

Why are my monkeys in your circus? (my ducks aren't in a row and my monkeys have run away)

For those who aren’t familiar with the English (possibly just American) colloquialism of giving or receiving a shovel talk, it refers to someone threatening the new romantic partner of someone else (usually a family member or close friend).

Example: Mutual and Partner are dating. And Mutual and Loved One are either family or close friends. A shovel talk is when Loved One threatens Partner against hurting Mutual; these are typically threats of bodily harm to Partner. Mutual is usually not present for, or aware of the shovel talk interaction.

I’ve seen this concept subverted in various ways. Most common, is Partner threatening Loved One over Mutual; or Loved One threatening Mutual over Partner. Sometimes, Mutual will threaten Loved One over Partner. Occasionally, Partner will threaten Mutual over Loved One. But my absolute favorite, is when Mutual threatens Partner over Loved One.

We have this tendency to use the suffix "-aholic" as shorthand for addiction. Workaholic, shopaholic, you name it.

But the origin of the term is "alcoholic." Which just adds "-ic" to the word "alcohol."

Which makes terms like workaholic or shopaholic stupid, because it implies and addiction to workahol or shopahol.

I mean, I get why we do it, so I don't need some long, drawn out condescending answer about how people and language work. I'm a whole ass grown man and a classically trained manipulator, I know how people work better than they do.