Things Real People Do in Dialogue (For Your Next Story)
Okay, letโs be realโdialogue can make or break a scene. You want your characters to sound natural, like actual humans talking, not robots reading a script. So, how do you write dialogue that feels real without it turning into a mess of awkward pauses and โumsโ? Hereโs a little cheat sheet of what real people actually do when they talk (and you can totally steal these for your next story):
1. People Interrupt Each Other All the Time
In real conversations, nobody waits for the perfect moment to speak. We interrupt, cut each other off, and finish each other's sentences. Throw in some overlaps or interruptions in your dialogue to make it feel more dynamic and less like a rehearsed play.
2. They Donโt Always Say What They Mean
Real people are masters of dodging. Theyโll say one thing but mean something totally different (hello, passive-aggressive banter). Or theyโll just avoid the question entirely. Let your characters be vague, sarcastic, or just plain evasive sometimesโit makes their conversations feel more layered.
3. People Trail Off...
We donโt always finish our sentences. Sometimes we just... stop talking because we assume the other person gets what weโre trying to say. Use that in your dialogue! Let a sentence trail off into nothing. It adds realism and shows the comfort (or awkwardness) between characters.
4. Repeating Words Is Normal
In real life, people repeat words when theyโre excited, nervous, or trying to make a point. Itโs not a sign of bad writingโitโs how we talk. Let your characters get a little repetitive now and then. It adds a rhythm to their speech that feels more genuine.
5. Fillers Are Your Friends
People say "um," "uh," "like," "you know," all the time. Not every character needs to sound polished or poetic. Sprinkle in some filler words where it makes sense, especially if the character is nervous or thinking on their feet.
6. Not Everyone Speaks in Complete Sentences
Sometimes, people just throw out fragments instead of complete sentences, especially when emotions are high. Short, choppy dialogue can convey tension or excitement. Instead of saying โI really think we need to talk about this,โ try โWe need to talk. Now.โ
7. Body Language Is Part of the Conversation
Real people donโt just communicate with words; they use facial expressions, gestures, and body language. When your characters are talking, think about what theyโre doingโare they fidgeting? Smiling? Crossing their arms? Those little actions can add a lot of subtext to the dialogue without needing extra words.
8. Awkward Silences Are Golden
People donโt talk non-stop. Sometimes, they stop mid-conversation to think, or because things just got weird. Donโt be afraid to add a beat of awkward silence, a long pause, or a meaningful look between characters. It can say more than words.
9. People Talk Over Themselves When They're Nervous
When weโre anxious, we tend to talk too fast, go back to rephrase what we just said, or add unnecessary details. If your characterโs nervous, let them ramble a bit or correct themselves. Itโs a great way to show their internal state through dialogue.
10. Inside Jokes and Shared History
Real people have history. Sometimes they reference something that happened off-page, or they share an inside joke only they get. This makes your dialogue feel lived-in and shows that your characters have a life beyond the scene. Throw in a callback to something earlier, or a joke only two characters understand.
11. No One Explains Everything
People leave stuff out. We assume the person weโre talking to knows what weโre talking about, so we skip over background details. Instead of having your character explain everything for the readerโs benefit, let some things go unsaid. Itโll feel more naturalโand trust your reader to keep up!
12. Characters Have Different Voices
Real people donโt all talk the same way. Your characters shouldnโt either! Pay attention to their unique quirksโdoes one character use slang? Does another speak more formally? Maybe someoneโs always cutting people off while another is super polite. Give them different voices and patterns of speech so their dialogue feels authentic to them.
13. People Change the Subject
In real life, conversations donโt always stay on track. People get sidetracked, jump to random topics, or avoid certain subjects altogether. If your characters are uncomfortable or trying to dodge a question, let them awkwardly change the subject or ramble to fill the space.
14. Reactions Arenโt Always Immediate
People donโt always respond right away. They pause, they think, they hesitate. Sometimes they donโt know what to say, and that delay can speak volumes. Give your characters a moment to process before they respondโitโll make the conversation feel more natural.
Important note: Please donโt use all of these tips in one dialogue at once.
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Watching the First Doctor for the first time, and itโs wild how different he is at the start. Very โwe mustnโt interfere, weโre just observers of historyโ energy. All stiff coat, no meddling. But thenโhe fakes a busted fluid link just so they have to explore the city? Heโs not above poking the universe when it suits him.
Heโs curious, definitely. Almost childishly so. But unless it directly involves Susan being in danger, heโs surprisingly hands-off. Cold, even. Itโs like heโs treating the universe as a lab experiment and heโs the guy behind the glass.
Whatโs interesting isโI always assumed, since he and Susan stole the TARDIS and we know he was kind of a disaster at the Academy, that he was just a bad Time Lord. Like, the rebel from the start. But watching him now? Itโs kind of clear he still buys into a lot of their ideals. The whole โwe observe, we donโt interfereโ mindset? Thatโs textbook Time Lord. He's not so much a rebel as he is a rule-follower with an itchy curiosity.
And thatโs where Barbara and Ian come in. And by extension, Susanโwho, letโs be real, is clearly picking up her worldview more from them than from her grandfather.
Barbara and Ian donโt just observe. They care. They intervene. They ask questions like โWhy is this happening?โ and then go do something about it. They push back when the Doctor tries to stay detached. They hold him accountable.
And the more I watch, the more I think they're why the Doctor changes. They donโt just travel with himโthey teach him how to be better.
Which is kind of hilarious when you think about it. All it took to corrupt this ancient, immortal time traveler was two schoolteachers and his granddaughter.
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๐ Creating Character Names: A Non-Basic Guide for Fantasy Writers ๐
Listen up fellow writers! aggressively slides into your dashboard with chai in hand Let's talk about one of the most CHAOTIC yet FUN parts of writing - naming your precious book babies!
๐ First things first - throw out everything you know about "normal" naming conventions because honey, we're going WILD today!
Here's the tea: Your character's name is literally their FIRST impression on the page. It's their brandโข๏ธ, their essence, their whole vibe condensed into a few syllables. And in fantasy? The rules? We don't know her.
๐ฎ Non-Basic Methods for Name Creation:
The Vibes-Based Approach
Close your eyes and picture your character
What color are they giving off?
What texture?
Now translate that into sounds
Example: A character who feels like liquid silver might be named Sylthra or Mercurine
Peanut butter and jelly. Mac and cheese. Jimmy and Kyle! Some friendships are just meant to be. When both of these creatures were rejected by their own species and society at large, they found each other. Kyle the black vulture (aka zopilote or Mexican vulture) has faced his fair share of hardship and cruelty, yet his joyful spirit still soars and ย inspires those who know him, and has been essential in keeping Jimmy afloat (yeah, Jimmy looks pretty rough when we first meet him! Subscribe to my Patreon to learn his story). Kyle is ever present in his local music scene and loves to meet everyone, a trait that will allow him to connect Jimmy with Emmaโs band, Scream At The Moon, a move that will save the scruffy coyoteโs life in more ways than one.
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As someone who does not speak English as their first language, I often encounter a problem when writing: how to describe certain activities.
This is because translations do not always convey the meaning I want to express. That is why I have been working on a mini dictionary for some time now.
The list will be updated as soon as I manage to create another category or encounter another problem.
Below you will find:
Said
Asked
Sounds Without Words
Touch
Move
Emotions In Speach
Voice Tone
Way Of Breathing
Eye Expression
Movement / friction
Involuntary Sensations / Muscle Responses
Onomatopoeic Words
Verbal reactions
Mouth movements
Posture and body position
Physiological reactions
It may contain mistakes, I'm not a genius at English, I may have messed something up.
I have also started a new batch with prompts, i.e., what to do when I run out of words and need new, alternative phrases that better convey the meaning. Divided into categories for convenience (solo posts). It will be updated on an ongoing basis:
Reactions to leaving without permission
Pulling away โ similar to leaving without permission
Giving compliment โ or so it's for me
What he can say after a kiss
Commands
Control through attention
Said
1. Neutral / Basic
said โ the most common, neutral reporting verb
told โ to give information to someone directly
stated โ to say something clearly and formally
remark โ to comment casually or briefly
noted โ to mention or observe in passing
observe โ to say something as an observation or fact
declare โ to announce formally or officially
proclaim โ to announce publicly and with emphasis
assert โ to state firmly and confidently
announce โ to make something known publicly
affirm โ to confirm or strongly state something as true
2. Sharp / Aggressive
snap โ to speak suddenly and sharply, often in anger
growl โ to speak in a low, rough, angry tone
bark โ to shout abruptly, like a command
hiss โ to whisper angrily, with sharpness or contempt
spat โ to speak angrily and abruptly, often after an insult
roar โ to shout loudly in rage or authority
thunder โ to speak with booming, overwhelming force
snarl โ to speak with hostility, like an animal baring teeth
scream โ to cry out in anger, fear, or frustration
threat(en) โ to speak in a menacing or intimidating way
3. Impatient / Reluctant
grumble โ to complain in a low, annoyed tone
mutter โ to speak quietly and unclearly, often displeased
mumble โ to speak unclearly, almost under oneโs breath
groan โ to complain or respond with frustration or pain
sigh โ to speak while exhaling, showing weariness or resignation
4. Quietly / Confidentially
whisper โ to speak very softly, in secrecy or intimacy
breathe โ to speak almost as softly as breathing itself
murmur โ to speak softly and gently, often soothingly
utter โ to say softly, often with difficulty or hesitation
mutter โ to speak low, under oneโs breath (can be secretive or annoyed)
5. Emotional / Emphasis
exclaim โ to cry out suddenly, in surprise or excitement
shout โ to speak loudly, often in urgency or anger
yell โ to call out loudly, usually emotionally charged
cry โ to call out in distress, fear, or strong feeling
plead โ to ask desperately, with urgency and emotion
beg โ to implore, asking earnestly or desperately
demand โ to ask forcefully, leaving no room for refusal
order โ to command with authority
command โ to give a directive authoritatively and decisively
6. With Additional Emotions
laugh โ to speak while laughing, light-heartedly
chuckle โ to speak with a quiet, amused laugh
sneer โ to speak with contempt, mocking or scornful tone
mock โ to imitate or ridicule cruelly or playfully
tease โ to joke or provoke lightly, often playfully
taunt โ to provoke or insult to upset someone
jeer โ to ridicule loudly, often in a group
joke โ to say something humorous or playful
Asked
1. Neutral / Basic
asked โ the standard, most neutral way to request information
inquired โ to ask formally or politely about something
queried โ to raise a question, often showing doubt or curiosity
2. With Emotion / Tone
wondered โ to ask in a reflective, curious, or uncertain way
questioned โ to ask closely, sometimes with suspicion
demanded โ to ask forcefully, expecting an answer
pressed โ to push for an answer, with persistence
probed โ to dig deeper with detailed, sometimes uncomfortable questions
challenged โ to question in a confrontational or defiant way
3. In Everyday Dialogue
inquired of โ to ask someone directly, a bit formal but conversational
wanted to know โ casual phrasing, showing simple curiosity
checked โ to ask in order to confirm or verify something
posed โ to put forward a question, often neutrally or thoughtfully
4. Emotional Strain
snapped โ to ask sharply and angrily
barked โ to ask abruptly, like an order
growled โ to ask in a low, hostile tone
hissed โ to ask with anger or contempt, in a sharp whisper
muttered โ to ask quietly, unclearly, often annoyed
whispered โ to ask very softly, in secrecy or intimacy
stammered โ to ask while stumbling over words, nervous or shaken
pleaded โ to ask desperately, with emotion and urgency
begged โ to ask earnestly, desperately seeking a response
implored โ to ask with intense emotion, almost a heartfelt plea
Sounds without words
1. Surprise / Emotions
gasp โ a sudden, sharp intake of breath, often from shock or awe
pant โ short, quick breaths, usually from exertion or excitement
huff โ a sharp exhalation, often showing irritation or impatience
puff โ heavier, blowing breaths, usually from effort or tiredness
2. Pain / Suffering (neutral use, not in NSFW)
groan โ a low, drawn-out sound of discomfort, pain, or annoyance
moan โ a prolonged sound expressing pain, sadness, or exhaustion
whimper โ a soft, broken sound, showing weakness or distress
yelp โ a short, high-pitched cry, usually sudden pain or fright
cry out โ a loud exclamation of pain, fear, or strong emotion
wail โ a long, loud, mournful cry of grief or suffering
3. Sadness / Fatigue
sigh โ a deep breath out, showing weariness, sadness, or relief
sob โ loud, uncontrolled crying, with heaving breaths
sniffle โ short, wet inhalations, often while holding back tears or with a runny nose
snivel โ crying or whining with weak, self-pitying sounds
4. Anger / Frustration
snarl โ a low, aggressive sound, often with bared teeth
growl โ a deep, rumbling sound of anger or threat
grunt โ a short, rough sound, showing effort or annoyance
grumble โ a low, complaining sound, halfway between words and noise
roar โ a loud, booming cry of anger, frustration, or authority
5. Joy / Relief
chuckle โ a soft, low laugh, amused and gentle
giggle โ a high-pitched, silly laugh, often nervous or playful
snicker โ a suppressed, sly laugh, mocking or secretive
laugh โ a general expression of amusement or joy, varying in tone
cackle โ a loud, harsh laugh, often manic or mischievous
squeal โ a high-pitched cry of delight, excitement, or surprise
Touch
1. Light / Gentle Touch
brush โ to touch lightly in passing, often barely noticeable
caress โ to touch softly and lovingly, usually with the hand
stroke โ to move the hand gently and smoothly along a surface
pat โ a light, quick touch, often reassuring or friendly
tap โ a small, brief touch, usually with the fingers or hand
dab โ to touch lightly, often to apply or remove something
graze โ to touch slightly, often by accident or in passing
2. Stronger / Definite Touch
grab โ to take hold of suddenly and firmly
clutch โ to hold something tightly, often with desperation
seize โ to take hold of forcefully or with urgency
grip โ a firm, controlled hold with the hand
hold โ to keep something in the hand or arms steadily
squeeze โ to press something tightly between hands or fingers
press โ to push down or against with steady force
grasp โ to take firmly into the hand, usually with intent
3. Movement / Friction
rub โ to move the hand repeatedly back and forth on a surface
knead โ to press, stretch, and work something (like dough or muscles) with the hands
massage โ to rub or knead muscles, usually to relieve tension
scratch โ to scrape with nails or fingers, sometimes relieving an itch
tickle โ to touch lightly in a way that provokes laughter or squirming
ruffle โ to move through or disturb (like hair or fabric) with the hand
4. Urgency / Intensity
shove โ to push roughly or forcefully
push โ to apply force to move something or someone away
tug โ to pull quickly and sharply
jerk โ to move or pull suddenly with force
yank โ to pull with a strong, sharp movement
drag โ to pull someone or something along the ground or surface
5. Supportive / Caring Contact
embrace โ to hold closely in the arms, often warmly
hug โ to put arms around someone in affection or comfort
cuddle โ to hold close for warmth or affection, often gently
snuggle โ to settle closely and comfortably against someone or something
hold onto โ to keep physical contact, often for reassurance or stability
Move
This category may be similar to movement / friction, but I see subtle differences, so I made a separate category. Move is intended to show motion from point to point. Movement / friction may refer more to motion in place, movement of a body part, not necessarily the whole body as in move.
1. Neutral / Basic Movement
moved โ general, neutral
shifted โ slightly, imperceptibly
turned โ rotation, often with determination
leaned โ slight movement in one direction
reached โ movement with the intention of reaching for something/someone
2. Slow / Hesitant
inched โ literally: to move inch by inch; tension, caution.
crept โ quietly, as if in hiding; not only physically, but also emotionally (โcrept closerโ).
slid โ smooth movement, almost silent, can be sensual or disturbing.
drifted โ fluid movement, aimless, often with thoughtfulness.
glided โ elegantly, lightly, almost effortlessly.
3. Sudden / Sharp / Controlled
snapped โ violent, impulsive; can refer to movement of the head, hands, or body.
jerked โ sudden, jerky movement; lack of full control.
whipped โ quick, sharp, like a cut; intense reaction.
lunged โ violent step forward, often with aggression or desperation.
snatched โ quick movement with intent; control, desire, anger.
This category will be slightly different, but equally necessary. These are verbal reactions during speech without interrupting the dialogue to add narration. This makes it easier to imagine how a particular statement sounded without constantly inserting reactions into the narration. Below, I have created some categories, emotional tones, and rhythmic nuances (how length, repetition, and punctuation change the sound or meaning).
1. Light / Breathless / Startled
Used when a character is surprised, breathless, flustered, or reacting to sudden touch or emotion.
ah - soft, startled - brief intake of breath โ surprise, slight pain, or pleasure
e.g.: โItโs notโ ahโ like that.โ
oh - airy, emotional - softer than ah; often linked to realization or wonderโ
e.g.: Oh... I didnโt expect you here.โ
hah - breathy, amused - mixes air and sound โ half-laugh, half-exhale
e.g.: โDonโtโ hahโ tease me.โ
uh - uncertain, hesitant - filler of hesitation or confusion
e.g.: โIโ uhโ didnโt mean to.โ
hm / hmm - thoughtful, restrained - often shows mild agreement or suppressed emotion
e.g.: โHmm... you really think so?โ
mm - muffled, through closed lips - gentle hum of satisfaction, sometimes sensual
e.g.: โMm... maybe.โ
Rhythmic note:
Short = spontaneous (reaction).
Repeated (hah, hah) = panting or breathless.
Ellipsis (...) = hesitation or soft trailing off.
2. Heated / Sensual / Restrained
Used for NSFW or high-tension moments when speech and breath collide โ words interrupted by physical reaction, desire, or restraint.
ahh - open, releasing soft - breathy exhale of pleasure or relief
E.g.: โAhhโ right there.โ
hahh - shaky, forced heavier breathing - tense control or arousal
E.g.: โDonโtโ hahhโ stop.โ
mmh / mnh - muffled, closed-mouth -subdued moan or breath through resistance
e.g.: โMmh... youโre impossible.โ
ngh - guttural, restrained sound caught in the throat โ effort or stifled pleasure
e.g.: โNghโ wait.โ
hnn -internalized, tense - tight, barely audible; often signals control
e.g.: โHnnโ you think Iโll break?โ
aah - open, vulnerable louder or less controlled sound โ surrender or high emotion
e.g.: โAahโ pleaseโโ
So Iโve been working on a continuation timeline for Wally , spanning ages 8 to 41. I really wanted to explore this idea of a โphoenix effectโ, where he hits rock bottom, but slowly grows back stronger through all the cracks.
And I think this really shows it. I tried to keep a balance throughout, and I hope yโall like it. This timelike is inspired by @theamericanwoodcock .
Enjoy!
Wallyโs life was shaped early by misunderstanding rather than malice. Growing up with undiagnosed ADHD, autism, and dyslexia, he was largely unsupported. Instead of receiving tools, he faced punishment, dismissal, and constant attempts to "fix" behavior he couldn't regulate. Repeated academic struggles and being labeled "dumb" reinforced a belief that he was "less than."
โThis defensive wall grew higher when his parents, unable to manage his neurodivergence, sent him to boarding school. This abandonment shattered his trust and left him with deep-seated issues. He grew to hate "girly things" because he was mocked for angry crying (a result of sensory and emotional overload), leading him to build a hyper-masculine "tough guy" persona as a protective shell. Amidst this, Abby and Hoagie became his only true light, a found family that offered support without judgment.
โAdulthood brought a volatile descent into self-sabotage. His search for belonging led him to a Lead Singer and him having a friends with benefits reaction and an accessory for his public image. Under his toxic influence, Wally spiraled into substance dependency.
โThe first major breaking point occurred when he suffered an overdose while babysitting his brother Joey. The trauma of Joey witnessing the medical emergency forced his parents to make the agonizing choice to kick him out to protect his brother. During this time, his relationships shattered: he unintentionally cheated on Hoagie with Kuki, leading to a bitter drift from the man who had been his anchor. Isolated and drowning in alcoholism, his rage peaked in a brutal fight with Nigel, nearly leaving Nigel comatose and effectively severing his last ties to his old life.
Desperate for the "structure" his parents always wanted for him, Wally joined the Army. He found a rare, profound connection with a fellow soldier named Tyler. Their bond was his first glimpse of real stability in years, but it ended in tragedy. During a mission to rescue captives from a dictator, Wally stepped on a pressure plate. The explosion killed Tyler and claimed Wallyโs leg.
โDischarged and broken, Wally suffered a second, near-fatal overdose. He was found by Hoagie, which led to a visceral "wake-up call" in the hospital. Seeing Kuki, usually the most cheerful person he knew, cursing and screaming at him in a state of sheer heartbreak finally forced him to reckon with the wreckage of his life.
Wallyโs recovery was never an overnight "fix" but rather a slow, deliberate rebuilding of a self-worth that had been fractured since childhood. Through the relentless intervention and love of Abby and Hoagie, he finally committed to therapy, AA, and medication management, allowing him to address his neurodivergence and trauma with the tools he was once denied. This newfound stability gave him the strength to return to school and transition into a career as a medical professional, where he could heal others with the same empathy he had lacked in his youth. His life eventually settled into a hard-won peace, centered around a unique polyamorous partnership with Kuki and Hoagie that ensured no one was ever left behind again. Together with Kuki, he raised four children Rini, Talia, the twins Yuki and Kai becoming a father who chose to support his childrenโs emotions rather than trying to "fix" them. By repairing his relationships with Joey and his parents, Wally moved past the scars of his boarding school years, trading a life of survival for one defined by maintenance, connection, and the courageous choice to be soft.