Chooseable: A Meta on Buckâs Arc and Why It Was Never About Destiny
Before I start, I want to say this gently:
This is a fan theory. Itâs not an attack on Buddie. Itâs not meant to invalidate anyoneâs interpretation. Itâs simply how I personally read Buckâs arc on 9-1-1.
Youâre absolutely allowed to disagree. I only ask that disagreement stays respectful. We can interpret the same story in different ways without tearing each other apart.
Fan Theory:
Buck has never been searching for love.
Heâs been searching for proof that heâs chooseable.
If you follow Evan Buckleyâs journey from Season 1 onward, his arc isnât fundamentally romantic.
1. Buck Was Born to Be Useful
Buck isnât âthe guy who loves too much.â
Heâs the child who was born to save someone.
The Daniel reveal reframes everything. Itâs not just family drama â itâs psychological foundation.
Buck wasnât born to exist.
He was born to fix.
And when that becomes your origin story, your entire sense of self is tied to usefulness.
The question under all of Buckâs behavior becomes:
âIf Iâm not needed, who am I?â
2. Seasons 1â2: The Body as Anesthesia
Early Buck is impulsive, hypersexual, adrenaline-driven.
But thatâs not shallowness.
Thatâs avoidance.
Sex. Risk. Chaos.
Those arenât expressions of freedom.
Because silence forces him to confront the fear that he has no intrinsic worth.
Buck doesnât want to be loved for who he is.
He wants to be necessary.
That distinction defines him.
3. The 118: Love vs. Usefulness
At the 118, something shifts.
For the first time, people care if he disappears.
Thatâs new.
Thatâs destabilizing.
Thatâs terrifying.
Being needed is safe.
Being loved is fragile.
So Buck oscillates:
â deep attachment
â self-sabotage
â control
â constant reassurance-seeking
He believes abandonment is inevitable, so if something feels too good, he destabilizes it first.
Because controlling the loss feels safer than being blindsided by it.
4. The Daniel Reveal: The Core Wound
When Buck learns the truth about his birth, his internal narrative changes permanently.
Itâs no longer:
âMy parents didnât understand me.â
It becomes:
âI was never meant to be me.â
That creates three deep wounds:
â fear of being second choice
â anger at parental betrayal
â compulsion to compensate
From here comes his most dangerous pattern:
If something feels too good, he risks it himself.
Control over abandonment.
5. Buckâs Bisexuality Is Consistent, Not a Twist
Buckâs fluidity doesnât contradict his arc â it fits it.
Heâs never been rigid.
Heâs connection-oriented, not label-oriented.
The real question isnât who he loves.
Itâs why he chooses.
If love has always functioned as proof, validation, necessity â then his endgame cannot be passion-based or destiny-based.
It has to be stability-based.
6. Seasons 7â9: The Shift Toward Maturity
In the later seasons, Buck changes.
He stays in hard conversations.
He doesnât flee immediately.
He tolerates vulnerability.
He asks for reciprocity.
He isnât healed.
But heâs self-aware.
And this leads to the central thesis:
The person who stays with Buck long-term wonât be someone who completes him.
It will be someone who doesnât need to be saved by him.
He needs someone who:
â doesnât idealize him
â doesnât fear him
â doesnât use him as emotional scaffolding
â doesnât leave when he stops being the hero
Someone who stands in front of him when heâs wrong.
Not behind him.
Someone who teaches him duration.
His happy ending wonât be loud.
It will be quiet.
7. Buck and Eddie: The Deepest Bond in the Show
Buck and Eddie have the deepest connection on 9-1-1.
And thatâs exactly why I donât read them as romantic.
Intimacy is not automatically romance.
What they share is intimacy â but of a specific kind.
8. Eddie Is Not the Resolution of Buckâs Core Trauma
Buckâs foundational wound is:
âI exist to be useful.â
To truly heal, he needs someone who:
â doesnât depend on him to survive
â doesnât need rescuing
â doesnât choose him because heâs indispensable
Eddie enters Buckâs life with Christopher.
Buck becomes essential in that dynamic.
Heâs steady. Protective. Present.
But that also means heâs necessary again.
That doesnât make the bond unhealthy.
It just means it doesnât fully break the original pattern.
9. Eddie Is a Mirror, Not a Regulator
Buck and Eddie are deeply similar.
They both:
â carry family trauma
â struggle to ask for help
â default to self-sacrifice
â protect others to avoid themselves
They understand each other instinctively.
But they amplify each other.
They donât regulate each other.
And mature Buck needs grounding, not mirroring.
10. Theyâve Already Said âI Love Youâ â Just Not Romantically
Thereâs a kind of love that isnât romantic.
Itâs ontological. Foundational.
Buck and Eddie have already expressed that kind of love:
â absolute trust
â guardianship
â instinctive loyalty
â emotional belonging
That bond feels complete.
Romanticizing it could actually reduce it.
Because its strength is that itâs not dependent on desire.
11. Buckâs Romantic Arc Must Exist Outside the Firehouse
If Buckâs growth is about identity and conscious choice, his endgame relationship must:
â not be built on shared trauma
â not revolve around mutual saving
â not function as an extension of the 118
Eddie is family.
Chosen family.
Emotional brotherhood.
But Buckâs romantic love has to exist outside that ecosystem.
Not as mission.
As choice.
Buck and Eddie are not a failed romance.
They are a completed love in another form.
And some bonds donât evolve because theyâre lacking.
They donât evolve because theyâre already whole.