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What does romantic attraction even feel like?

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Mild vent / rant about allos:

I was gonna have lunch with a close friend of mine, I hadn't seen him in 5 days. Old friends of his (who're very allo) invaded our usual lunch. (I say invaded because he quietly doesn't like them either)

The insanity of these allo (barely) kids and them touching him (poking, caressing) while also making sex jokes around us egged-on the chronic pain flares we were already both in.

It fuckin ruined our time together.

I just wanted to sit with him and yap, I don't want allo shitheads coming in and rating my friend's attractiveness as he subtly sulks in discomfort.

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Being a romance repulsed aromantic means that for me, a lot of things can make me uncomfortable. I don’t mean the actions that are seen as romantic, I mean when labelling them as such. Personally, I get accused of having crushes on people or dating them a lot. That is really scary for me. It scares me so much that I used to not interact with anyone in a way that was comforting or normal to me. I did nothing that anyone could interpret as romantic. It made me come off as cold and I got comments on that. It’s startling how people connect romance with being able to feel emotions and care for each other. Why do people believe they have the right to define my own relationships for me? It also happens when I get excited about talking to someone and people ask me why I’m not dating them yet when they know I’m aromantic. I don’t like the idea of romance. Sometimes other people’s romance makes me uneasy so my own is distressing. I am literally repulsed by it. It makes me nauseous. Allos do not recognise that I don’t feel romantic attraction and that isn’t just that I haven’t found the right person. I know plenty of people that are great but I don’t want romance. I’m not dating them because that is not my intention.

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Apparently,,, alloromantics don't confess to their crushes???

Like, okay, I knew that confessing to your crush was a big deal

And back in elementary school I would never confess to my crushes because we were in elementary school and my mom made it very clear I was not allowed to date until high school and I had no idea why you would confess to a crush unless you were going to start dating

But like... 8th grade I got a crush on a girl, aka the first and only crush on a girl I've ever had, we'll call her Genevieve (you might remember me mentioning her before if you've seen a lot of my original posts) and anyways, I had the BIGGEST crush on Genevieve to the point where I questioned, and still sometimes question, if I was in love with her

Anyways, Genevieve was also like my best friend and though she's since come out as queer, at the time I first had a crush on her she identified as a strong ally but was to my dismay painfully straight

I had a crush on this chick for 7 months, I had butterflies in my stomach so bad that being in the same room as her made me anxious, we had 1st hour together and one time I literally threw up in class because I was so nervous around her

And it was around the seven month mark that I realized I literally could not take this feeling anymore and had to confess despite knowing she didn't like me back and so I confessed, got rejected, and was finally able to get over it

Genevieve and I are still good friends though, so don't worry about me feeling bad, it was just awkward for a while and besides that was a year and a half ago anyways

The same time I had a crush on Genevieve, another one of my friends, who we'll call Michelle, ALSO had a crush on Genevieve and that was a mess in and of itself but Michelle knew I had I crush on Genevieve and we were helping each other through it and shortly after all was said and done Michelle confessed to Genevieve and got rejected and we became closer because of it

But then a few weeks ago, I was talking to another friend of mine and was talking about how people rarely confessed to their crushes??? Like... It just doesn't happen that often? My crush on Genevieve was the first serious crush I've ever had and I HAD to confess otherwise I think I would've died, so if alloromantics are constantly feeling that and not confessing idk how they get over their feelings

It is incorrect to believe that romance = monogamy. There are alloromantics who are polyromantic, and there are people (specifically me) who are monogamous aroallos.

I also need to say that if you don't talk about it with everyone involved so they can agree to it, it is cheating, not poly.

Truthfully, the reason I'm thinking about polyamory is because I'm worried people will falsely assume aroallos are automatically polysexual.

Oversharing below.

There also the fact that I am jealous. I have social disability (AuDHD) so I can't even have one relationship, let alone more than one. I haven't been able to have sex since 2017 and I really want to do that activity again.