I said I won’t talk about that here, but this is one rambling post about it anyway. Just this one, no worries.
It is my firm belief that humans are inherently loving and good. And then placed in a toxic system and brainwashed into a sometimes rigid belief system based on guilt and separation. As a result, we kind of block ourselves from that inherent love, thinking it makes us vulnerable. Because it’s a love for all and you can’t do that if this all™ is constantly guilt-tripping you.
Some are good at recognising and undoing that programming, others not, but everyone is trying to do the right thing in their own way. While being stressed and struggling to access that inherent love.
And here’s the thing: No matter how much of that programming we unlearn, separation stays to a degree because it’s hard to recognise.
Feeling the need to openly pick a side while condemning the other side due to fear of being seen as a bad person if you don’t is separation. Fearing to feel compassion for someone who did bad things because you think it makes you bad yourself is separation. Us vs. them is separation.
What causes the most getting used to and often fear in a healing process is opening yourself to that inherent universal love that is not based on conditions, because of all the guilt-tripping, siding and black and white thinking. What we need to learn is that you can help someone and/or be compassionate towards someone while absolutely not agreeing with them and their opinion – and that this doesn’t make you bad or weak or vulnerable. It makes you patient.
And once you unblock yourself and can access this inherent love, there will be a subtle calmness.
It will be easier to see what you have in common with someone you absolutely didn’t like before, and bonding over these things while agreeing to not address your differences (that is, if that person agrees to do so too). You won’t be triggered that often. You will judge others less or not at all, and you won’t care that much about being judged, because you will recognise that people judging are simply people who are still in the process of unlearning things. And you won’t be impatient for them to finally unlearn that, you will go “yeah, been there too”. Or at least not feel afraid to turn around and go for your own peace.
Overcoming separation is nuance in everything incarnate. Separation is what we need to overcome as a society, but it is possible to unlearn it to a big degree on our own as well. And once you unlearned enough, life will be much less triggering and much calmer.
