Eric Andre is Jewish btw. I feel like a lot of people assume he isn't bc of racism or bc they assume every word out of his mouth is sarcastic but he is Jewish and has talked about it.
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Eric Andre is Jewish btw. I feel like a lot of people assume he isn't bc of racism or bc they assume every word out of his mouth is sarcastic but he is Jewish and has talked about it.

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After years of meaning to read it but never seeming to have the time, I finally started reading "How To Win Friends and Influence People" by Dale Carnegie. I've been told by countless people that this book is the ultimate handbook on how to talk to and deal with people.
I'm not far in, but so far it's been pretty interesting and insightful. This book is almost 100 years old but so far everything I've read seems to still hold up today.
I've had a few people message me asking about more resources on how to improve their social skills. There's always r/etiquette (I don't even have a reddit but I find myself lurking) but, if you're looking to read something to help brush up on your social skills, I can so far recommend "How To Wind Friends and Influence People"
Although, take my recommendation with a grain of salt because I haven't finished it yet. But I tried looking up if there was any criticism for it and had a hard time finding any. It is slightly more focused on social skills for a business setting, but honestly those skills can transfer to just about any social setting. (such as presenting your views and opinions to people in a way that doesn't make people feel attacked, and generally making people feel comfortable and at ease around you)
If there was one book I would suggest to everyone on here, Twitter (or X or whatever) and everywhere else on the internet where people lash out at strangers for no reason, it would be this book.
Because one concept it keeps returning to is that people do not like people who lash out at them, people who criticize them, people who scold them. People also do not listen to people who lash out at them, criticize them, and scold them. If you want people to like you, and people to actually listen to you, you should start by not doing that.
@2ndgengeek thank you, gonna go ahead and add this to my to-read list :) also as an FYI for any of my followers looking for more sources on manners / etiquette / social skills
@connanro also adding this to my reading list (and reccs for books on manners to my followers), thank you!
It's been ages since I read it and it is older, but What Does Everybody Else Know That I Don't? by Michele Novotni is specifically aimed at people with ADHD. Some of it is hella basic, but in all honesty it's shit I didn't know until I was an adult.
When I was 8 or 9, I came home from school in tears because I was getting picked on. Dad, being the absolute madman that he is, took me to the library and checked out How to Win Friends and Influence People. (I was a precocious reader.) Was it a weird parenting choice? Yes. Was it helpful? Also yes.
I also recommend books by Miss Manners, because Judith Martin is a delight.
Warren Hern has been performing late abortions for half a century. After Roe, he is as busy with patients as ever.
This was an interesting read. Surprisingly nonpreachy given the subject; and well worth the time.
This is oaywalled but it made me weep with relief to see an honest recounting for once, so I’ve saved some good bits:
[“Loneliness and recognition anxiety are not the same thing. Their symptoms sometimes overlap—withdrawal, irritability, vulnerability—but their origins and impacts differ. As posed, however, the question makes it impossible to distinguish between loneliness (a deficit of intimacy and connection) and what I would call a plea for recognition: the belief that one’s reality, perspective, authority, and inner life should be legible and prioritized by others and society, particularly by women, as a matter of social order.
Battiloro, for instance, didn’t lack Niotis’s company or friendship so much as he was angered by her refusal to prioritize him in her considerations. Nor did he escalate because she hated him; he did so because she ignored him. Her indifference was the insult that he couldn’t tolerate.
Loneliness is an emotional state, but recognition panic is a defensive reaction to a perceived threat to status and the entitlements that come with it. Collapsing them is unhelpful and has consequences. (See footnote 2 below for more.)
Among men, the “male loneliness crisis” as a political and media phenomenon is doing very specific work. Mainstream political and media coverage of male loneliness implicitly centers white, college-educated, and economically middle-class men. It centers, in other words, the emotional distress of the group least accustomed to being ignored, while rendering invisible men who are structurally abandoned and women more broadly. This strongly suggests that the real grievance is the loss of centrality and recognition, not social isolation per se.
Even when advocates go out of their way to provide intersectional analyses, the media strips out gender, class, and race specificity. Among Black men, for instance, suicide rates have risen significantly over the past ten years. Yet this shift receives only a fraction of the attention devoted to the more extensive male loneliness narrative. Poor and working-class men are also lonelier and more at risk than higher-wage-earning men, and yet there is no particular focus on either.
Here’s what definitely doesn’t and won’t work: Teaching boys that they will feel better if they are always centered does not prepare them for a world in which they will not be the way they once were. This only produces stressed-out and status-anxious men, as we are seeing so vividly today, who experience equality of any kind as erasure and threat. Yet, many well-meaning attempts to address men’s distress deepen complex problems by doubling down on men’s centrality rather than widening the field of both problems and solutions.
Precarious manhood is at the heart of masculinity crises.
At the core of this issue and the violence it breeds is that our society continues to essentially tell boys and men they have no intrinsic self-worth. Masculinity, in other words, as sociologist have explained for decades, a precarious state. Masculine identity, in theory a biological state that is fixed, is really an achievement that has to be earned, publicly performed, and reconfirmed continuously. It has to be proved over and over.
This means, for instance, that a single perceived failure — maybe a woman who outperforms a man or withholds deference or a person who doesn’t conform to hegemonic cis hetero norms — registers as a threat, propelling aggressive and disproportionate reactions.
This is also why trans people are so threatening. Conservatives keep the focus of their scapegoating on “men in women’s sports and bathrooms” as a danger. However, the real threat is to precarious manhood on multiple levels. Trans existence makes the performance of gender explicit. If manhood can be given up, transitioned into, or claimed by anyone, then it can’t be the fixed, essential category that the entire edifice of male supremacy is built on. I’m not suggesting this is a logical argument being consciously made, but this is why right-wing reaction to trans life is so disproportionate to the actual social or political footprint of trans people.
Today, queer and trans people’s lives are threatening male supremacy for the same reason women’s independence is threatening: all refuse the terms on which patriarchal masculinity depends. You cannot perpetuate precarious manhood without the gender binary. But to have the binary you have to police and enforce it at all times. The violence we live with follows from this logic to a tee.
From this perspective, the Manosphere as a Precarious Manhood Pyramid Scheme comes sharply into focus. What is a man, in this frame, if he cannot effortlessly demonstrate dominance over women, or gain access to them, or prove their dependence on him? If he has to compete against a woman and loses? If he has to earn women’s regard rather than assume it? He doesn’t just lose a relationship or work; he loses legibility within the system of male supremacist hierarchy on which his sense of self has been built. In fast-changing, uncertain times, boys and men are particularly vulnerable to pressure to “self-optimize” to keep up and compete for women, jobs, status, cars, and money. Online or off, the rage and contempt directed at women, especially those who distance themselves from men for any reason at all, is real, but its primary audience isn’t women but other men.
Recognition in crisis is the engine of the backlash politics, the vicious assemblies, and the firehose of assaults on women that we see every day. Men and male supremacist institutions are defensively responding to the withdrawal of a default centrality with the full range of tools and weapons available to them: from legislation to lawsuits to public harassment to interpersonal and political violence.”]
On decentering men, loneliness, men's desire for recognition, and why persistently misdiagnosing men's crises is making everything worse for

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People with low spoons, someone just recommended this cookbook to me, so I thought I’d pass it on.
I always look at cookbooks for people who have no energy/time to do elaborate meal preparations, and roll my eyes. Like, you want me to stay on my feet for long enough to prepare 15 different ingredients from scratch, and use 5 different pots and pans, when I have chronic fatigue and no dishwasher?
These people seem to get it, though. It’s very simple in places. It’s basically the cookbook for people who think, ‘I’m really bored of those same five low-spoons meals I eat, but I can’t think of anything else to cook that won’t exhaust me’. And it’s free!
by Rachel A. Rosen and Zilla Novikov || Food you can make so you don't die.
SPREAD THE WORD THIS IS FUCKING GOD TIER OH MY GOD, SOMETIMES I HAVE SPOONS SOMETIMES I DON’T BUT NO COOKBOOK OFFERS LEVELS IN THEIR RECIPES THIS ONE DOES!
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worst part of being an adult is how often youre forced to nag. you Have to be annoying or youre never getting anything done. which is unfortunate considering how common it is to teach kids to never nag and be annoying ever
a professional i am paying money doesnt show up w zero communication and IM the one who has to feel guilty for having to call him and ask whats going on. because when i was a little kid i would get yelled at for nagging. joke world
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Someday your hands will be old and wrinkled, the skin spotted and bunching over your knuckles. And a child will watch you make something. It's a simple task, you'll have done it a thousand times before. But to that child, the smooth, confident way your hands move will seem like impossible magic. You have to keep living.

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“Love isn’t something natural. Rather it requires discipline, concentration, patience, faith, and the overcoming of narcissism. It isn’t a feeling, it is a practice.”
— The Art of Loving, Erich Fromm (b. 23 March 1900)
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reading Anne of Green Gables for the first time is so funny bc Anne is primarily a sweet, eager, earnest, dramatic, imaginative child who’s taking the world with open arms and loving life, and also she’s trying to explode Gilbert Blythe with her mind
Anne is fascinating, because little girls were NOT usually that much of trouble-makers in kids literature of the era. Like, the authour is deliberately writing her as a TERROR, but social norms have changed so much that it isn’t as obvious these days. But also, the authour is obviously DELIGHTED by precocious little terrors of girls, and so she’s being written with a fondness somewhat at odds to how the audience is expected to receive her.
But her vendetta against Gilbert is one of the few things that still comes through perfectly clearly. He did one stupid thing and She Will Hate Him Forever. I love you, Anne of Green Gables!
I read the ENTIRE SERIES when I was about 11 years old, and the thing that really strikes me in hindsight about it is how Anne's troubles and hijinks are treated by the narrative -- the actual events are sometimes framed with a little of the wry amusement that comes from the narrative voice having an Adult Perspective on what actually constitutes a life-ruining catastrophe, but Anne's own feelings about the events are ALWAYS treated by the narrative with loving compassion. Yes, it's a little funny that Anne dyed her hair green by accident, but the narrator just naturally handles her as a whole person who is quite legitimately distressed about the unintended consequences of a mistake, with the same consideration that would be given to an adult who made a similarly embarrassing fumble. The thing that happened is funny, but Anne's feelings aren't.
We as the readers are staunchly NOT expected to mock her, and we are quite sternly NEVER permitted to think that she's stupid for her mistakes. The point the narrative implicitly emphasizes over and over again is that she's young, inexperienced, and too impulsive to think things through -- and that's normal, and almost everyone was like that when we were kids. And so the narrative's framing invites us to give Anne some grace and patience and compassion and good humor while she grows into herself (and perhaps implicitly reminds us that there are probably other very young people in our lives who might appreciate the same kindness).
It's a really amazing example of how to write children/teenagers without infantilizing them or invalidating the lived reality of their emotional experiences.
I am about halfway through Barkskins by Annie Proulx and for anyone even remotely interested in ancestral lifestyles, nature writing, traditional foods, indigenous culture, American environmental and/or colonial history (but who also struggles to read/learn about that history via nonfiction texts) I would highly highly highly recommend.. honestly even if you think you aren't I would still recommend it I think. it's like 700 pages long or something which seemed daunting for me as someone who used to love to read and stopped for many years due to attention issues and was afraid to start again and actually commit but it truly has sucked me into its universe and I feel grateful that it's so long of a book because I actually don't want it to end. I also forgot how much your brain and life perspective can be altered while reading a good book. It feels like I am immersed and has me rethinking parts of my own life randomly. Next on my list is watership down by richard adams and god's country by percival everett. I also want to get Proulx's book close range and also read lonesome dove. And Dersu the trapper.
once you start paying attention to birds and bugs the world becomes so magical

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Dude was just out there having his medical drama epiphany scene in real life.
Read "The Glass Essay," a poem richer than most novels nowadays. See how in its utter clarity of narration it weaves and conflates one theme with another, how it works in the Brontës as daimons to preside over the poem and to haunt it, how it tells two strong stories with Tolstoyan skill, how it reflects on its themes in subtle and surprising ways.
Guy Davenport, from the introduction to 'Glass, Irony and God' by Anne Carson