Create, Collect, Curate

for my career girlies on Tumblr

You know what? Notice how a man who possesses beautiful things is seen as a man of taste, an elegant man, a man who takes care of himself, someone who is cultured.

Women are always pushed to either shop for bad-quality items, buy less or not buy at all, partly because women are more likely to end up in structural situations with less money. I have rarely seen men being pushed to buy dupes or low-quality things. This world is made for women to either enjoy bad-quality items or no items at all.

Don't get me wrong, this is not a post to say that men cannot enjoy high-quality things, nor is it to create any rivalry. Men deserve good-quality things just as much as women do.

But when you really take a closer look, even your average simple guy with relatively inexpensive who loves nature and enjoys simple “activities” will buy high-quality hiking attire and would not see these expenses as “materialistic”.

there's a trade-off that comes with being with an ambitious man.

i don't mean a wealthy man.

i mean an ambitious one.

the kind who has money but is still building.

still creating.

still expanding.

everyone talks about the trips, the dinners, the big bouquets, the shopping, the five star hotels.

but they don't talk about the hours you spend alone.

because while you should absolutely be a priority, you won't necessarily be the priority every hour of every day.

there will be investors.

clients.

employees.

patients.

customers.

cases.

meetings.

deadlines.

problems he has to solve.

and if you don't have to work...

if you don't have children to raise (or they're in school)...

if you don't have to cook...

if you don't have to clean...

Eliminate, eliminate, eliminate: validation seeking, emotional impulsivity, the likes. We are the true sole creators of our own energy. (QUESTION yourself: if someone stepped into the perspective I currently hold, would it better or worsen them?)

QUESTION YOURSELF pt. 2. What are my five year goals? My ten year goals? What will my life look like in six months, a year? What can I do NOW to achieve this? What can I do today? This week?

Make people around you EARN access. True confidence is rooted within the celebration of one's detached self, not dependent upon the reaction of others. Someone truly working on their self-development would treat their time/energy/general presence as a privilege to be afforded upon others.