Deny, Defend, Depose

honestly the word microagression is like

so like, my brother used to be really against the phrase trigger warning, in a very like 4 chan kind of way (well actually he was on 8chan but thats. neither here nor there) and then one day i stopped him and i took 45 seconds to explain what a trigger warning actually is and he was like Oh… well that sounds like a good thing……  and I feel like the same thing happens to micro aggression a lot where it’s like. People react to what they think it means based on vibes and have this rly bad reaction bc like. theyre like oh it was a microaggression? youre mad at a paper cut? youre mad someone didnt say thank you? like they assume its the same as like. being passive aggressive. or whatever. rather than understanding it as what it is which is. you know. the constant sandpapering of daily life as a marginalized person

"become a fish" (gay)

men will jump through an entire circus' worth of hoops rather than admitting they're bi

The level of mental hoops that guy had to jump through to say to his wife, "No, honey! Of course I wouldn't be cheating on you! Sex during gaycations doesn't count!"

this is an insane story

Um…here’s the reddit link? I’m speechless.

Don't worry honey, all the other men on gaycation aren't real people and they stop existing after. Hey, where's all the homophoboa coming from suddenly?

That's the beauty of the gaycation!

I read the shithead guy’s rambling in Nagito Komaeda’s voice

"some men never return because they're "totally feminized" into the state of permanent "pseudo-gayness"" is my favourite line out of the entire post

is there such a thing as a beta but instead of reading for line edits or plot notes, they just read my work and recommend what tags to put on ao3 outside of like. warnings.

This is a good guide!

This is one of the things r/ao3 is actually pretty helpful for, in fact I think centrumlumina's guide is almost word-for-word match for advice that i see posted regularly on there. Its also great for "here's a thing that happens in my story/i want to warn readers about, is there a tag for that?" (Or even "this tag i already know about doesn't suit my purposes for xyz reasons. What can i do instead?")

Official Post of Massachusetts

i can't cope

tumblr is like an abandoned space station & you all are the thing in the vents

not me though. im girl with tanktop

I bring a real 'actually people who are pregnant do deserve some special consideration because they are effectively at least temporarily disabled if not permanently after some complications' vibe to the party that a lot of people don't seem to like

one thing europe has that the US lacks is when you go in the kebab shop and they got shiny sweaty young hairy guys that are jacked and chubby working in there and you and you start 3d visualizing sucking dick in your head but you just gotta order normally and get out of there

yeah yeah rainbow capitalism is bad and whatever but like. when I was a child, being pro gay was not the popular or lucrative choice. I'm happy that times have changed.

I miss rainbow capitalism. I do. I miss when it felt like public opinion was still pro gay. I understand it was always an empty gesture, but it mattered in a sense of knowing how socially acceptable being queer is. If that makes sense.

the wisdom ive learnt is that becoming part of a friend group 1) takes a long time and 2) involves a lot of feeling awkward and left out at first. there’s nothing terrible about this but if you grew up chronically lonely or have any kind of trauma relating to social isolation this likely feels Really Wrong and activates danger signals. but both fortunately and unfortunately it’s just how becoming close to new people works most of the time

another thing that was not intuitive to me as someone who grew up an autistic loner: basically everyone on the planet is starved for connection all the time and almost everything people do is an attempt to reach out to another. most seemingly illogical interactions and behaviours can be explained by this. you have to take as many of these invitations as you can. even if you're wrong you still attempted to bring more warmth into the world